Sorry but I am so sad

Our only son moved 200 miles away so I understand your unhappiness. I never expected it. It's been emotional, especially when our grand daughter was born and I still feel sad some days but we have learned to carry on with our own lives and to enjoy the visits. Facetime is wonderful and I look forward to the weekly contact. You will not be excluded it's just a different world now and people no longer move 'up the road' they go much futher away.

You are not selfish Anniebach and you have absolutely no need to feel guilty for being sad and lonely.

Thank you all x . Veda I am sorry you are grieving .

I feel guilty now, as sarahell said, many have experienced the same , selfish of me . I will be ok x

I am feeling this with you... my eldest is leaving the country to live with his gf. He’s done the uni thing gone away lived away but moved b@ck to the neighborhood. My others live nearby one still at home, but leaving the country is bittersweet, I’m happy for him but know in my heart of hearts that he is going properly this time and won’t be around I’m actually feeling bereft and having not to show to the rest of my familyxx

Veda, do you have your settings to notify you if anybody comments on a post? I sometimes only have a chance to look at the trending posts and those I am notified of so I might miss a new post easily. I suspect others are the same and no snub is intended.

Many of us go through what you are experiencing
Do you have any interests?Although this will not stop you missing what you had but make it more bearable.

Anniebach it is a testament to your loving care that these precious girls are ready to move on and begin a new phase in their lives. You will ALWAYS be the biggest constant in their lives and they will always love you for it.

So sorry for you, I do understand. I have a bad situation myself. I have two daughters. One is in Greece one in Australia. I’ve just lost my husband after nearly 30 years of marriage & I’m alone & very lonely.

I’ve just re fixed my password because I never get any response on this site. Maybe it will work now.

60 miles and no car in Mid Wales can be a little difficult, more so when I can’t get to the end of the garden path . They are 18 and 21, their mother died last November , one can say they are a little vunerable, the younger is moving 60 miles north , her university is 50 miles south

The are moving within the UK not to the other side of the world! One, you say, is moving about 60miles, not exactly a great distance. Maybe you should look forward to having the time to indulge in a hobby or pastime of your own. Time to let them grow and develop their own ways of living, and for you to have your own life again.

Oh Annie I’m so sorry to hear of this, on top of everything else. But as for “moaning” I don’t see it that way at all. You are just telling us what is happening. Sixty miles isn’t too far (not for young people!) so I’m sure they’ll visit often. I know it’s not the same as having them nearby ... We’re all thinking of you and sending positive thoughts (and prayers from those of us who do).

Have never posted to you before Annie but for what it's worth you have my heartfelt sympathy. It really does seem as if you have had so very much to bear in recent times and now even more sadness. There's no answer to this as I'm sure you know already but please realise you are not being the least bit selfish in your thoughts. I only hope you manage to maintain lots of contact with visits, emails, phone calls etc.

I am so sorry. I know how you feel.. I am sending you a great big friendly hug.

On Annie I am sad for you. You have empty next syndrome.
With heart as big and loving as yours, you just want to continue giving out your love.
You can continue just from afar.
Letters from home
A postcard,
Email
maybe Skype or FaceTime via your computer.

xxxx

theres always Gransnet -how comforting !grief is love having nowhere to go.....
thank you

Anniebach, to me this is evidence of your magnificent rearing that these young people feel free to fly without any 'better not leave Granny alone' hang-ups. Sure you will miss them (as I do mine) but life about yourself may start to evolve. Good luck.

So sad BUT think of it like this - you have succeeded brilliantly in your job of raisng and helping to raise your loved ones to be independant young people, given them the confidence to fly and find there way in the world. Im sure none of us would want ours to be like Timothy (Ronnie Corbet's character!) But what you have gone trough is too much for one person, so I wish you all the very best. Hope you have supportive friends and there is always Gransnet!

I think it is very difficult when the hands on caring starts to end, it does bring a sadness. Take care of yourself

What a lovely quote Izabella ?

You have had so much to deal with Anniebach, this must seem very hard for you. Take comfort from the fact that you have helped give them those wings to fly and your next gift will be to allow them to do so without recrimination. Perhaps you could spend some time looking for places you could visit nearby to them so you have something to look forward to and see if there is anyway to extend your social engagements near to home so that time between visits to family doesn't feel so far apart. A big virtual hug from me.

You are all so kind and I keep moaning. I have always encouraged my grandchildren to fly, ‘ what if I fall, what if you fly’ . They have come through a difficult ten years and I have always been ‘their keeper of secrets’ . I understand them wanting to move away from here.

Look after yourself annie.

anniebach I'm so sorry I know how sad it is having family a long way away I hope you can sort out lots of visiting and have some dates to look forward to.

Have you watched the programme This time next year? Could you think along those lines?

Annie yet another blow to you - it's so sad to feel that we're no longer needed but in reality it's a sign that your granddaughters are grown and moving on the world which is good and the way it should be. They will know you are always there for them and will hopefully call regularly to let you know how they're getting on and come to see you whenever they can. You still have Lottie depending on you and a reason to get up in the morning. You also now need to concentrate on your own health to get your strength back so that you are able to look forward and start to go out again