Grandson wants to go on holiday with his boyfriend

Is he in your care Nannyoffour? Is it going to be up to you to decide?

I went on holiday with my boyfriend and his parents at a similar age; as did my DDs with friends of theirs. How well do you know these parents and the boyfriend? Do you have any specific concerns?

Hmmmm

Yh him and his older sister who is 18 live with me

What specifically would be your issue then?

Well I'm sure all will be ok and everybody will have a lovely time.
Is it a half term hoilday?
Quite cold at the moment so they will need warm clothes
best pack a onsie

Ps why is it up to you to say 'weather' he goes or not?

He's going to be with adults. If you didn't know he was gay then you'd assume he was just going with his mate and his mate's mam and dad. As long as you believe the mam and dad are responsible adults than I don't see a problem.

I'm not sure about the weather though
Should be nice at the weekend - are they going away for half-term?

Make sure there's a ShoeZone where they are going and give him some money for new plimsolls.

Speak to the boyfriends parents to make sure they will be having some parental supervision as he is a minor and if you feel comfortable that he will be cared for and not left to their own devices all the time then that should be fine
It’s hard though as 14 is young and you have to worry about alcohol etc and depending where they are holidaying abroad, some countries and cultures are not open to homosexuality and they could be in trouble if seen to be openly gay

and don't forget under-age sex is illegal in the UK.

Bridlington or Skegness - all the same here - illegal.

I think that you need to get to know the parents of the boyfriend before entrusting them with a 14 year old. You really shouldn’t let a youngster go away with people you know nothing about. This has nothing to do with sexual orientation just good parenting.

I agree with BlueBell speak to the boyfriend's parents etc.
Plus - with most 14 year olds sexuality isn't permanently fixed. Just starting to develop and could go either way. Whereas 16 - ??

It's not a phase he's defiantly gay he's been openly gay for a couple of years now But I could tell he was before then

That's neither here nor there really, is it?

Defiantly gay? How does that manifest, then? Who is he defying? Does he carry a poster around with him?

The child has been openly gay since age 11 or 12

Is an eleven or twelve year old really that sure?

Haven't we recently had a similar thread or am I imagining it?

Are they going camping by any chance?
They must wear warm onesies at night ( keeps one warm and chaste.)

No, not imagining it merlotgran. We've been here before.

and indeed!

An age just started in high school where bullying is so common even against children older than 14

His sexual orientation shouldn't be an issue, as he is too young to be having sex legally. You (or your grandson's parents) will surely be talking to the boyfriend's parents about the ground rules for the holiday, just as you would if it was a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship. You really don't want to end up with your grandson involved in a court case.

In this day and age, I presume he is already having sex with his boyfriend. I hope he is using condoms. Perhaps you can have an open talk with him about not being pressured to have sex and some of the health concerns. Perhaps he should have the hpv vaccination.

These last 2 posts are interesting coming one after the other.
What IS the legal situation and in any case, would most parents want to encourage it at such a young age?

On reading the whole thread though