Moral dilemma

Luckygirl, have you had contact with your local authority social care people? If not can I recommend that you contact them about the 'lifeline'. We has a private one for mum originally but then moved to one the LA supplied and also a bed alarm - both to deal with her falls. They have just been so much more efficient than the private one.

Mum pays for them as you are assessed but actually being in contact means they might offer help you never even thought about - one extra grab rail in the right place has helped mum so much. They do work out a maximum you have to pay but once you reach that you will not pay any more which is good to know if you are aware someone may have more issues in the future.

Hi - and thanks for that. The OT from the falls service has been in and organised the rails etc. and I think one of the lifelines she gave us leaflets for is at minimal cost. She also fitted rails in shower etc. and keysafe. District nurses have given us various mattresses, cushions, bed cradle and other aids. They have all been very efficient and helpful.

My late mother took the Attendance Allowance although she was reasonably well off. It paid for taxis, the weekly cleaner and the gardener. She could not have managed without the extra help, given her heart condition, and it took a load off my mind. Do take the money. It might even pay for small extravagances which would cheer you up.

Do not feel guilty about applying Luckygirl. The Allowance would not cover what you do for your DH I am sure, and as others have said its so useful for extra expenditure that you wouldn't have if he was fit and well. The forms are so extensive and repetitive that I'm sure it's designed to put people off. People do not like admitting how badly they manage tasks either, but it is fortunate that you have the skill to complete them. My mother was reluctant when I did her forms but the extra cash has been useful for heating alone.

www.welfareweekly.com/shocking-97-of-eligible-carers-missing-out-on-state-pension-boost/

I've just seen this on a welfare weekly email.
I thought some of you might be interested, and in other articles on the site.