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Auntieflo Sat 02-Dec-17 08:54:17

I have just been reading an article on couples who have been married for a long time. We were married 55 years ago, last September, and I cannot for the life of me remember what my wedding shoes looked like!! My dress, yes, headress, yes, the flowers arriving and being put in the bath to keep cool. Even what I had for dinner, before getting dressed in all my finery before going to Church. But my shoes, NO. I can see my going away outfit, suit, gloves, and yes even those lovely shoes, so why can't I recall my wedding shoes? I presume that I did wear some. wink. Any one else got a blind spot in their memory of a, supposedly, memorable occasion?

annsixty Sat 02-Dec-17 09:21:24

That has made me smile Auntieflo and made me think. No I can't remember my shoes either, I must look out photographs later and see if they are visible under my long dress.
The thing that made me smile was the " going away outfit" do people have them these days?
I had a really lovely fitted dress in oyster grey with a matching jacket, long black suede gloves and matching handbag, I thought I looked the bee's knees, I was just 21 and very slim. That was 59 years ago, would I go back? Never.

DanniRae Sat 02-Dec-17 09:27:11

I remember everything I wore when I got married and my going away outfit (navy and cream fitted dress and matching coat) except the shoes but I guess they were navy with a low heel??
I certainly remember going to Majorca for my honeymoon as it was the first time I had been abroad apart from a day trip to France when I was at school.

Humbertbear Sat 02-Dec-17 09:32:59

I’ve still got the home made cotton mini- dress I got married in. As we went on the tube to the registry office I must have worn shoes but I have no idea what they were. I do remember, however, that my tights were falling down. No need for a going away outfit as we were back at work on the Monday. Some of my colleagues didn’t believe I had got married and others assumed I was pregnant. They were all wrong.

cornergran Sat 02-Dec-17 09:35:51

No, auntieflo. I haven’t a clue. Can’t see my feet on the photos. As it snowed on our wedding day I may well have had wellies under there smile.

Anniebach Sat 02-Dec-17 09:47:48

I can remember my shoes, my gown was deep cream and shoe shops only had white so I had a pair of shoes dyed to match the gown

Auntieflo Sat 02-Dec-17 09:57:12

Corner, you're a genius. I rooted out the wedding photo album, and there they are. Well, just the toes peeping out, but enough to see that they were strappy, and as it was a boiling day in September, just as well. If anything I thought they would be like my matron of honour, pointy toed, but no.
Humbert, how lovely to still have your dress.
But, what a time waster it is, looking at old photos. We are supposed to be going out, so I'd better get a wiggle on now.

Jalima1108 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:24:05

Mine were satin which was fashionable in those days, just going to have a look to see if they showed at all!

Plain, pointy white satin high-heeled courts
Very boring.

harrigran Sat 02-Dec-17 10:24:05

I remember every detail of my wedding outfit and shoes and the going away outfit was a teal two piece suit with a red fox fur collar and brown suede shoes.
DH clearly remembered the day as well because he had a locket and chain made for our Golden anniversary, the same as the one I wore on our wedding day.

Jalima1108 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:26:48

I can remember my going away suit but not the shoes I wore with it hmm
There's no photo of that outfit

ninathenana Sat 02-Dec-17 10:30:08

I remember it all including the silver strappy sandals.
We didn't have a honeymoon as had spent out on our first house but I did change into a brown and cream outfit with brown wedge sandals after the meal.

paddyann Sat 02-Dec-17 10:31:06

I still have my dress in a cupboard ,my shoes were of their time ,platform white patent strappy shoes with an ankle strap .I wore a blue trouser suit to go away in with a semi sheer printed blouse in a matching tone and navy strappy shoes .We didn't go far,neither finances nor work commitments would allow and we only had a cuple of days in the highlands ...oh and we had to be back for a court case ,we'd had a lot of wedding gifts stolen from our car 6 weeks before the big day.We came back for that case...the accused never turned up .

Jalima1108 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:47:38

We didn't have a honeymoon either, DH had to be back at work

Jalima1108 Sat 02-Dec-17 10:48:22

so my 'going-away' outfit got me as far as Bristol grin

Granash Sat 02-Dec-17 15:58:36

Golden Wedding next year and I can't remember a thing about his proposal...

BBbevan Sat 02-Dec-17 16:27:43

We were married in a registry office, and I cannot remember anything about it. I remember What I wore.What my dad wore. Going in the car and taking ages to park. All of the reception afterwards. But nothing at all about the ceremony itself. We have been married nearly 53 years so I don't suppose it matters really in the grand scheme of things

GranEd Sat 02-Dec-17 17:49:01

My DM was totally horrified that we didn't want a church wedding and was adamant that 'you don't get dolled up for a registry office do!' So I dutifully complied and wore a smart (if boring)suit. The sad thing was that my little sister who would have loved a pretty bridesmaid dress was also forced into a very unflattering suit which we both remember only too well! DM was definitely in charge! I remember very little of my big day but we are still very happy after 53 years. grin

callgirl1 Sat 02-Dec-17 22:35:56

White pointy toed with a 2" heel. Going away outfit was what I was married in, lemon 2 piece outfit and white accessories. Honeymoon was a week in Blackpool, in his parents caravan. I remember the registry office ceremony quite well, at the end, he leaned over the desk to shake hands with us both, and said "Congratulations, that will be 7/6 please!"

grannyticktock Sat 02-Dec-17 22:37:08

I made my own wedding dress - a full-length dress with a high neck and long sleeves, in white broderie anglaise. I do remember the shoes, they were little flat ballet pumps.

I also made my "going-away" dress; we don't hear much about those nowadays because, I suppose, couples tend not to go away on the wedding day, they stay partying at the reception all evening and the spend the night somewhere nearby.

callgirl1 Sat 02-Dec-17 22:39:23

White pointy toed with a 2" heel. Going away outfit was what I was married in, lemon 2 piece outfit and white accessories. Honeymoon was a week in Blackpool, in his parents caravan. I remember the registry office ceremony quite well, at the end, he leaned over the desk to shake hands with us both, and said "Congratulations, that will be 7/6 please!"

callgirl1 Sat 02-Dec-17 22:40:26

Sorry, hiccup!

Bellanonna Sat 02-Dec-17 23:09:26

Same as Jalima, satin white court shoe. In those days the local paper showed pictures of the couple, and usually added that they left for a honeymoon in wherever, the bride dressed in whatever outfit. I’ve still got the cutting (somewhere).

floorflock Sun 03-Dec-17 09:58:10

I still have my shoes! (And veil)

maryhoffman37 Sun 03-Dec-17 10:10:43

I've still got my shoes and occasionally wear them! Moss green suede with laces and heels. My dress was a brown Laura Ashley, which we chose together (still got that too!). We married in church but with a tiny congregation of 12 and I didn't want to wear white.

Musicelf Sun 03-Dec-17 10:34:32

My mother and I designed my dress and she made it. It was a fabulous white halter-neck dress with a sheer silk chiffon coat for modesty. It was the early 70s so my sandals had a slight platform - quite trendy now, actually! My going away outfit was in navy and yellow - navy skirt and blouse and bright yellow jacket. We honeymooned in Paris, staying at the apartment belonging to family friends (yes, lucky!) then a few days in Normandy.

The dress was worn on many occasions afterwards for balls and posh do's. The coat was made into a christening gown for my daughter.

I cannot remember my veil!