I know I am stupid BUT actually I’m not

Eeek!! Head for the hills, is my advice! It sounds like a big scam to me. Chatting to someone new is great, but that does NOT involve money!!! Good luck

It is a scam, sorry. Can you "unfriend" him?

I think you can report that sort of thing to Facebook too.

I'm amazed that you are in any doubt that this is a con. How does someone just ask you to be his friend on Messenger? Messenger is for messages between people who are already friends on Facebook.

He is not for real, he is probably a Nigerian criminal, unfriend him and read up on how to keep yourself safe online.

Oh dear NEVER NEVER NEVER accept a friend request from a stranger I play on a word game and I m always getting these American men telling me how gorgeous I am (never had a Brit tell me when I m playing the word game always US) I tell them I m there to play a game then I let them talk to them self The other evening one tried to start the conversation ten times before he got the idea I was only there to play the word game
Unfriend him and BLOCK him immediately if you don’t know how to block ask me and I ll guide you through it It’s not hard

This piece of $hit is not 55.
His profile picture is likely pinched.
There is no son at boarding school.
Which oil rig?
He is not a widower.
Did you feel it necessary to ask him about his financial circumstances when your correspondence began?
Please block him. It's one of the oldest scams in the Internet world and I'm amazed that it's still going on.

Sorry but as everyone else has said, this is a scam.

Grannyknot anyone can send a message request on messenger if you don’t know the, you don’t answer but obviously the poster accepted his request

Did you tell him how much money goes into your account every month? Did you tell him your account details?

How often do you see advice on how to treat these swindling scumbags? Not often enough, it seems, as it doesn't seem to have reached you. I am afraid he saw the word M U G tattoed on your forehead.

If he knows your A/C details, change them immediately. Change your email address too, and report him.

I never ever accept a friend request from someoneI don't know.

Without wishing to be rude..... how can you not realise this is a scam.
Block him immediately.

Absolutely a scam. Go no furtherAlgieswife This is a very well known scam. I am surprised you accepted his message in the first place

AlgeswifeVal
I know I am stupid BUT actually, I'm not
Actually, Val, you are.

Scam, Scam, Scam, Scam!!! run for the hills...this scam is as old as the hills...

This is really serious Algieswifval Did you really really believe this is a 55 year old widower with a son at boarding school Have you never heard about scammers I feel really shocked
A) never accept a stranger friend request
B) never believe anyone who tells you youre gorgeous ... you might be but genuine people don’t open with that line
C) was there No warning bells when he requested money
I can’t believe you are asking if we think it may be a scam It has SCAM in big capital letters all over it from the first moment
Do not send any more messages and block him so he can’t see anything else from you
Stick to your husband to talk to or your girl friends or even gransnet

I think someone's bored.

How many times have scams using this technique featured in newspapers, on the radio and television. I am amazed that OP has never read them.

It couldn't be more obviously a scam than if he started his contact with you saying 'Hi, I am a 25 year old scammer from Nigeria using fake photos and a good line in chat to try and con you out of all the money you possess.

That's it, Petra There can't be anyone left on the planet who would think this bloke is genuine. They do say, though, that there is one born every minute, and they wouldn't keep trying it on unless they won a few here and there. DH worked with someone who used to go to the Palais and asked every girl he danced with whether she put out. He said the occasional yes was worth all the noes.

Did you mention this new friend to Alge?


ps there is scammer infiltrating FB at the moment, DD warned us all about him, he has a Spanish-sounding name, it wasn't Dave.

Why would anyone reply to a stranger who shows interest in their income?!

I personally know someone who has fallen for this kind of scam, not once but TWICE! I also know someone whose mother was scammed out of her entire savings, which was no small amount. Last thing I heard, she doesn't seem to have learnt her lesson either.
The OP may be a wind-up, but I wouldn't count on it as unfortunately there are still a lot of very gullible -and lonely - people out there.

Thank you BlueBelle I didn't know that. No odd bod has ever tried to be my Messenger friend

Well I have had it happen, strangely it’s always Americans, but I just decline and block their names, simple as
I did have a look at ones profile before I blocked and it was full of guns and gun culture posts!!

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