Can you name ten things

Oops that should be "crap" not autocorrected "stap".

Much easier to say nice things about others than about ourselves I think our culture conditions us to do this. Not necessarily a good trait.

Optimistic, content, funny at times ( I am told), cheerful, artistic, intelligent, faithful, honest, tidy and so my GD1 says , a bit bossy.

DH says this not me

I am not sure I could either.

Nope, not one.

Well, it has just gone 3 a.m., not sleeping and nothing else to do so here goes:

Devoted
Passionate
Funny (ha ha. not peculiar I hope)
Analytical
Empathetic
Sincere
Same with everyone
Strong - well, in the past, feel a bit dinged at the moment ...
Determined
And my hair is my 'best bodily bit!'

That was hard!

Cant think of a single thing ....now if you had said 10 worst things could do that 3 times over

I was thinking that people would be able to do that far more easily. The minute I think of it a list starts to form in my mind! Would be hard pushed to stop at ten.

Pass

Not a hope! Ten worst things? How long have you got!

An earlier poster, chided us for not wanting to list our good points by saying that we are all anonymous on GN so no-one knows exactly who we are. But that is not quite true.

For those of us who have attended meet-ups we are known to all the people we meet there and I, for one, have made a good personal friend through GN.

But even if you have avoided any personal contact with GN members, those of us who have been on GN and posted regularly for any time have a very rounded GN personality having over time given information about our family life and circumstances, possibly location we live in and aired our opinions on all sorts of thing from politics to potty training. So that we have a rounded online personality and the conversational nature of GN makes you feel you know someone (that is why online romance scams work so easily)

I also think that anyone posting a list is going to have one eye on people's reactions to their list and not put down aspects of themselves that they may take pride in but they think would alienate others or expose themselves to criticism.

I don't think I can think of one thing about myself that I admire, I wish I could.

Annie and greyduster, I'm with you there, I just think I was a little more stark in my response.

And downtoearth.

Ooo er! Modesty prevents me from listing them, if I had any.

monica we are also often chided for not enough light-hearted threads (like this one), and then again for too many.

Unless I was asking for advice, I'd never have "one eye on people's reactions"...

My 'reaction' here is that many of us have grown up with put downs or lack of affirmation and it would seem paying compliments to us in younger years was seen as 'dangerous'. There seems to have been a school of thought in post-war parenting that telling your children that they look 'nice', did 'well' etc. would somehow turn heads and make them dreadfully vain.
I grew up with little confidence in my appearance and achievements because praise was lacking - and I don't mean overblown praise, but simple affirmation. I suspect many were the same and also had 'Don't blow your own trumpet' as another mantra.

Recently I was asked the question MissA poses in this thread as a way towards re-affirming myself following a very low patch. All light humour and 'false' modesty aside, I did / do find it hard, but it can be very worthwhile to take a reflective look at ourselves.

I also think it is very sad when people can find nothing good to say about themselves. All who post here have helped to create a vibrant, caring community that gives good advice, sympathy, empathy and support. So you are all good at some things!

Not lack of praise when a child, I certaintly do not have low self esteem. Just not comfortable with self praise .

Good cook
Good legs
Very good skin
Hair behaves well
Kind to animals & most people
Make loads of time for DGC & will always say yes to babysitting or having them to stay over( not a chore though TBH)
Good sense of humour
I think I am a good friend & make time for my friends
I run a couple of clubs for other women to do crafts etc.
I'm generally cheerful

Now I too feel I shouldn't be saying all this about myself- it was quite hard- but maybe it is good to pat yourself on the back at times rather than feel bad about something you could have done better- nice thread.
I'll ask DH tonight what he thinks of my list- I bet he crosses most of them off- except the cook & legs!! He wouldn't dare!

My dentist recently told me I had "beautiful gums".

Difficult because it's a bit 'boasty' and I am aware that a lot of people find me hard to take. Due to a really, at times, gruesome childhood I am not a natural truster of others and this makes me, at first, reserved. Others like kindness and generosity, of course.

I :-
-look after my health and figure
-I read voraciously and keep myself well informed
-I try to be a good person
-I look after my family and put them first
-I am not stupid and have a good sense of humour
-I am rational on the whole
-I am extremely empathetic and can always see the point of view of others
-I am law abiding, taxpaying and feel I contribute to society by my views and behaviour
-I will work and campaign to keep the good things of my country going until my last breath
-I have been told I write well

Let me think.... there's not actually much I like about myself - I am a physical and mental wreck! So I think I would have to list what others would say:

I am kind
I am a shoulder to cry on
I have got through so much c**p and am still trucking along
I am supportive
I am witty
I am reasonably intelligent
I am thoughtful
I am considerate
I am the one in the family who ensures we all get together sometimes
I am intuitive (I think that's the right word)

M0nica, your grandmother's sayingbrought to mind my GGM saying 'His trumpeter's dead' if she heard anyone blowing their own.... Except in broad Black Country 'Yower trumpeter's jed'.

Lovely lists - they don't seem boastful at all to me, simply valuing what is there.

Number 1: I'm generally quite modest.......
so this is an interesting exercise!

In no particular order:

A good mother
A good friend
A good listener
Honest
I take a lot of pleasure in small things
I can wear clothes well
A good cook
Self sufficient
I like people

It's rather disconcerting how we can all go on auto-pilot to think of negative things about ourselves. A product of our generation.....our parents, as children, were 'seen and not heard'. For us 'blowing our own trumpet' in any form was a sin.