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grandMattie Sun 10-Sept-17 14:51:17

Having just changed the loo roll for the umpteenth time, it made me wonder why it was always my turn to do so?
It's also my turn to wash the saucepans - DH's domain is "his" dishwasher; I'm not allowed to load it as I do it "wrong"!
But it is also my turn to fold the clean towels, etc. We are both retired. OK he does the bill paying but it is not relentless day to day stuff.
Whinge over! grin

gmelon Mon 11-Sept-17 14:14:57

The latest one took three weeks of training/forcing him to put the butter in the butter dish.
To stop getting a new packet out and using it out of the wrapper.
I continuously put the opened packet back in the fridge.

There's cries of "this butter has gone hard again".
Yes husband, and it will do until it's in the butter dish.

Imperfect27 Mon 11-Sept-17 14:21:27

Conversation at a funeral we attended last week when DH introduced me to some old acquaintances.

H to me: 'So how long have you 2 been married then?"

Me to H: "Three years ago last May - I've just about trained him in now. How about you?

H: " Mmm, 60 years. I think I'm just about getting the hang of it now."

(He also told me he put up with 'Er' because she was a good cook and a good cleaner. I thought he had the look of a man who has never changed a loo-roll grin)

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 14:49:29

The phrase "oo -er missus" was I thought a well-enough known one for it to be clear where the "missus" belongs. confused
But hey.
However, what part of giving a link to what was a genuine and worthwhile community campaign -now over, it seems- constituted sarcasm?
As to "if you can't take the heat" etc- that sounds seriously threatening somewhat unfriendly.
Who are you to issue an ultimatum like this?

sluttygran Mon 11-Sept-17 14:56:36

As with giving birth, breastfeeding, and remembering family birthdays, men are just not physiologically designed to change toilet rolls, so I think we will have to let them off. They are best left to get on with things they excel at, like .........
Answers on a postcard, please wink

loopyloo Mon 11-Sept-17 15:00:29

I do think that it is thought that women are there to do the skiving. Ie changing nappies cleaning,preparing food and clearing up. I revolt sometimes. And read the Times and compose letters to the PM. Not that I ever sent any........

sluttygran Mon 11-Sept-17 15:06:48

Ah, but writing those letters is such a catharsis, isn't it loopylou?
I have written some extremely erudite and occasionally obscene letters to the PM in my time, but have never been brave enough to send them!

Imperfect27 Mon 11-Sept-17 15:10:43

Loopylou ... did you mean 'skivvying'? Skiving is quite a nice thought ... grin

petalmoore Mon 11-Sept-17 15:13:12

I've wondered this myself, grandMattie - my husband does nearly all the household mainenance (he doesn't regard it as 'a chore') and says he enjoys doing it - I'm disabled and can't do much other than general planning, deciding what to eat, and cooking, with some help from him. I feel exteremely lucky that we still get on well after 41 years of marriage, and have fun together too. But I change the loo rolls much, much more often than he does. Inhave concluded that it's down to anatomy -I use loo paper every time I 'go', and whatever I'm producing, but he only uses it when he sits down, with sometimes a single sheet to catch a drip. Elementary, I guess, but it took me years to reach this erudite conclusion ...

Blownupdolly Mon 11-Sept-17 15:16:42

Haha! Yes, I have similar things happen just like your friend. I find most people will bend over backwards to help me, even if I don't need it. As I appreciate their kindness I often end up doing something I didn't want to, just to make them feel good.
I once asked an elderly man if he could get me something from a top shelf. He totally took charge, said he was going to help me do my shop. I didn't have the heart to tell him my husband was in the next aisle, so I got him to help with a handful of things up high. I even went to the checkout and paid so he thought he had done his good deed fro the day. My husband thought I was nuts.

Imperfect27 Mon 11-Sept-17 15:18:06

By the by, I think GN has often had a lovely tone to it of late. I don't think ANYONE here has set out to maul anyone else ... crossed wires sometimes and some passionate debates, but a lot of sparkling wit too.

Blownupdolly Mon 11-Sept-17 15:19:01

Sorry, my previous post was in reply to Eglantine19s post

Teddy123 Mon 11-Sept-17 15:25:32

grandMattie well your post made me smile. My DH always changes the toilet roll in his bathroom and for some reason leaves the empty cardboard roll on the shelf. Perhaps he's planning do a 'Blue Peter' with them.

And to maw I noticed a few quizzical emoticons in your posts too! Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit. Izzywizzy summed up perfectly IMO.

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 15:39:05

"A few quizzical,emotions"??
Well slap my wrist.
I bet GNHQ never intended us to use any of those!
A couple of "confused" confused, a couple of grins grin and a hmm hmm. Note to self, must avoid those in future.
My comment to illtellhim was NOT. Sarcastic as I hope she realises, but heck, why am I justifying myself to you?
Do you regulate which emoticons may be used? Pontificating that "sarcasm is the lowest form of wit" ignores the second half of the quotation (by Oscar Wilde) which is
"...but the highest form of intelligence "

May I also add that izzywizzy presumably spotted where I felt I had been at the receiving end of rudeness (thank you for your apology izzy)
Thanks a bunch all those who have felt this is Open Season on Mawbroon bashing.
I hope it has made you feel warm and fuzzy inside, I hope you are suitably lightheartedly amused by the barbs shot off in my direction, as we all like a lighthearted amusing thread.

I would like to say I am hurt or indeed that I care, but this says it better.

tigger Mon 11-Sept-17 15:52:36

I am someone who feels seriously offended by the misrepresentation of my posts. As you well know my comment re sarcasm was directed at your "missus" and not the link you posted. So now you are feeling sorry for yourself and when all else fails attack the grammar, a well known tactic. Stop chopping logic and crying all over the place.

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 16:03:10

I am not feeling sorry for myself grin!!
See my comment "Oo-er missus"
Have you honestly never come across it before??

queenofsaanich69 Mon 11-Sept-17 16:09:43

I always have to change the roll,the way I look at it is at least I can have it the way round I like it,see previous posts re this !!!

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 16:15:04

Who is attacking whose grammar, what grammar, where????

And if you did not want to read my link, that is fine by me, as you say your interests clearly lie elsewhere.
It WAS a good and worthwhile scheme though!

Daisydoo2 Mon 11-Sept-17 16:17:55

My other half never changes the toilet roll, he instead alerts me that it is running low... how considerate - not. My late husband was no better, he used to say "put your feet up and have a rest, you can do the housework later"! hmm

Teddy123 Mon 11-Sept-17 16:53:54

maw Oscar was right! You do appear to be highly intelligent. I, on the other hand, am decidedly thick and uneducated. All the best to you x

rentawitch Mon 11-Sept-17 16:59:44

Stop changing the roll and folding the towels. Stick it out and see how long before he notices reacts. The world may be going to hell in a handbasket. It doesnt stop these niggles driving one crazy.

Tessa101 Mon 11-Sept-17 17:31:25

Surely we are allowed to post anything on her as long as it's in the guidelines. I don't want to have to worry or think am I going to get critisized every time I want to post something.Of course we are all fully aware of what is going on in our world, surely even more reason to have some light hearted posts.I totally agree with izzywizzy.

Serkeen Mon 11-Sept-17 17:46:15

Your lucky that he pays the bills I pay all the bills in my house and do all the cleaning except from washing up and changing the loo role sad

Ellie Anne Mon 11-Sept-17 18:13:42

My gripe is a soaking wet hand towel every day after he's been shaving. Has never changed it in his life!

Serkeen Mon 11-Sept-17 18:17:06

Ellie Why would he when he has you that comes along and does it for him, what would he do if you did not..

MawBroon Mon 11-Sept-17 18:30:32

Now you DO have reason to moan Serkeen - not that you ever seem to.
All those weeks when he was in hospital I bet you would have just been grateful to have him home NOT to change the loo rolls!