Rubylady

rubyno pics of garden as no colour yet.....but! we have groups of Virgin Media Men putting fiber optic cables..in our area..strapping men in hard hats, bright orange uniforms (all very new and clean) I could send a couple over to tuck you into bed !! best I can do at the mo..

So sorry things aren't progressing for you, losing the poor little budgie must feel like the last straw. Thinking of you and wishing you well x

Sorry you have been upset today Ruby. Here is a photo of the blinking eye bridge over the river Tyne with the Sage in the background.

News you didn't want to hear, ruby, sad news indeed. I'm sending you my favourite red rose from our garden. Thinking of you and wishing you well.

Sorry ruby hadn't seen your post about your little budgie..

Operation next Thursday unless emergency takes presidence. And I can have a day visit at home before then. Yeah! Xxx

Precedence.

At last Ruby! And a day visit! Good news indeed to start the weekend. You'll soon be on the road to recovery and a better quality of life. You've done so well keeping your spirits up, don't know how you've managed! So sorry to hear about the little bird, not what you needed at the moment.

Brilliant news Ruby. Onwards and upwards.

Thanks Kate, yes, very sad about Lily, poor thing. I just wish I'd have been there but it is what it is, I would have been if I weren't here.

Yes, I feel a bit better now but won't really believe it until I've got the mask on my face and injection in my hand. I'm to be taken to look round ICU to know what to expect, very scary but them loins will be girded. or lions will be guarded??? Actually it's been a bit like trying to tame a lion, me being in here, growling from time to time, happy when eating and luring men into my den! (only kidding).

There's only one surgeon willing to take this on as it's so complicated an operation. I hope he has his weetabix before he starts it.

I just want to wake up, the rest I can deal with, pain, physio, emotions, everything. Just get better a bit at a time. It's been a long time being so ill , I am looking forward to being able to breathe better and not be swollen up.

Now, if they could just put a new back in, hip, knee, bowels, hormones and wave a magic wand over the depression and panic attacks/shaking, I'll be one happy bunny. Not much to ask is it?

A date at last ruby - but all this waiting has been about trying to make you as fit as possible for your surgery and it sounds to me as if they have all eventualities covered and are good to go. Let us hope that when this major thing is sorted out then all the little health niggles will begin to settle. There will be a fair few Gnetters rooting for you on Thursday! Get that hospital sheet out and start girding!

Glad you have a date at last Ruby, but so sorry about Lily.

Sorry about you littler budgie ruby
But bet he/she had brill life with you.!

I am keeping fingers crossed that your OP goes ahead Thursday .
Some of your other symptons, aches and pains may be aleviated post OP.
Here's hoping. .
Oops lily is a girls name!

Hope you have a nice fan by your bed.
Wishing you a peaceful night XX

Glad you have a date for the op. So sad to hear about poor Lily. I remember when you came onto GN for ideas when choosing her.

Brilliant news that you've got a date and a good surgeon. It's better to wait and get the right bloke and his team but so very frustrating. Make sure you put a large traffic cone on your bed when you get your day release with a 'This slot is taken' sign!

Thank you for updating us ruby. So sorry to hear about Lily. Chin up, keep buggering on - you are nearly there now.

https://signal-corridor.live/uploads/talk/201705/medium-325492-image.jpg%3C/span%3E https://signal-corridor.live/uploads/talk/201705/medium-683693-image.jpeg%3C/span%3E https://signal-corridor.live/uploads/talk/201705/medium-514142-image.jpeg%3C/span%3E

Hi Ruby, I was sorry to hear about Lily, but glad that you have a date with your surgeon, next Thursday, and we wish you well. Here are a couple of pics of our front garden, paeonies and lilies.

Hello ruby, how are you? We've not heard from you for a couple of days, hope things are ok with you - or at least as good as possible

We've had a couple of hot days here in London, although it was also quite breezy yesterday afternoon. A few showers today and talk of thunder and lightning overnight - typical English summer, 2 fine days and a thunderstorm! Got some begonias planted today and dahlias - haven't grown them for a few years as they seem to be very attractive to earwigs, but I do like the flowers. Busy Lizzies waiting to be potted and some more geraniums, then I'll either run out of pots or space on the patio, not sure which will happen first

Fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you that all goes well this week. (((hugs)))

Hi Ruby-are you off on your home visit today?

Hi all, sorry for not posting earlier. My operation has been put off until next Thursday, 8th.

I came home on Friday, but have felt totally exhausted and have done nothing but sleep and try to get some good food down me. I can't believe that it is so draining being in hospital, I thought I felt ok but obviously not.

It also feels really weird, being home, sort of alien. I have got the crew back and am enjoying lots of cuddles and kisses from Maggie but it still felt strange, we had to get used to each other again, most weird, not what I was expecting at all.

The house was a tip, left very kindly by my son. Had to tidy a little but cleaners in on Thursday so they have said to live with it and they will sort it out.

It feels strange enough but to think that I have to go back in is making my stomach lurch. I'm not looking forward to any of this. I feel sick just thinking of it and I've had a headache since coming home too.

It feels too much to be going through when I am sat here on my own. I know you are all rooting for me but it doesn't half feel lonely right now. I'll go to bed and sleep it off. I don't know what I have done though to deserve being left by my family on my own like this. Especially my children.They both know what is happening. Have I really been that bad a mum?

Hi rubylady I am a newbee but have picked up on your story because my husband is currently in hospital with heart issues. So a bit of a similar situation.

He had Endocarditis. We were told by the Docs that if he had his valve removed all would be well but his CRP markers are at 170.

As for being alone I am sure its a bit of an over sight by your children, you know what it's like when your young, negativity does not enter the mind. I am sure that they do love you and maybe if you reached out to them and explained that at the minute, you would appreciate them being around a little more.

I am on my own at the moment too as husband in hospital. The way I deal with it is distraction and not dwelling.

I do hope all goes well for you and that it will soon all be behind you and you can get on with your life,

Gordon Bennett, they do love to mess you around in your hospital! I feel for you, but as has been said, keep buggering on, you will be there in no time, and at least waiting for the damn op at home means you can have cuddles from your furry companion(s), and food of your choice, as well as the little comforts provided by own bed, tv, and nobody telling you what to do.
As for your kids, pass on the phone numbers, and I will be happy to sort em!
Gentle hugs, sweet lady, and don't let the buggers get you down xx

Exactly what Lisa said!

Chin up, ruby. Talk to us as much as you like. We are not actually there with you but at least that means we are not adding ro the mess!

Oh ruby so many on here are thinking of you and sending positive vibes to you - just hope that helps a bit.

You have almost got through the worst bit which is always the waiting and anticipation and the panic thoughts that crop up despite best efforts. The reality is never as bad as that so keep strong and remember "this too shall pass". You will feel so much better once they have sorted out your problem so focus on that.

Onwards and upwards and KBO!

Have just returned to GN after extensive workload and caught up with your news, ruby. Wanted to send you hugs and hopes that all works out well. Hope the attached raises a smile!