My husband is definitely not deaf!!

Teabagwoman, you asked about the technology. I find different technology works in different situations. Mostly I use my BAHA which is screwed into my head! But I also use the loop system which you get in some public places and at home a standalone amplifier which sits by the television. Over the years I've used lots of different technologies as they became available.
I don't feel embarrassed about telling people what I need and find most people are very helpful once they know what to do. It helps to be able to laugh at muddles and I am a wizz at miming in charades! And as a last resort there is always good old pen and paper.
Namechange2016 it probably is hereditary. Mine was so I wasn't fearful of it having experienced deafness in my own family first.
I hope it's the resistance to admitting deafness that's irritating people and not the deafness itself?

I would have thought that all you ladies with husbands would have realized by now that Man, the hunter gatherers of this world, only take notice of things that move, in which case they decide if they can they eat it or if they can they have sex with it. If the answer is no then they switch off, As they get older the second option becomes more complicated so they eventually lose interest other from an academic or ancient history point of view

Glad I am not alone, I should "speak more clearly"
or sometimes I am told not to "speak so loudly" my answer to that is "then turn your hearing aid down"
You cant win!

Oh this is lovely! My DH and I (both suffering slight hearing loss) are laughing like drains at this. What strikes me about all these posts is the importance of having a good sense of humour! [smile}

"Turn the telly up" if he wants to watch something "Turn it down it's too loud if I want to watch something.
I have detected that it's not so much hearing but a lack of concentration, in particular, if he doesn't want to hear what I'm saying. The message seems to take a longer time to get to the brain these days causing me frustration. He constantly says sorry or pardon which seems to give him a few more seconds to process the sounds even if I don't repeat it.

And I thought it was just me! I mumble, and then shout ALL THE TIME apparently.He says he has tinnitus (never diagnosed) so there is no point going for a hearing test "because they can't do anything". Anyway if I only spoke more clearly all would be well, it seems I have acquired some kind of speech impediment and perhaps I should go to the doctor, the fact others can hear me is irrelevant. We have a sound bar in front of the television because in the old days when they used boom mikes programmes were audible, its those lapel mikes that cut down the sound.

My late father was the same. In his late 50's or early 60's he could never hear what my mother was saying to him, and she concluded he was deaf. She got a firm of private hearing aid consultants to test him, and they said yes, he was very deaf, and needed an expensive hearing aid, which he never actually wore. Funny though how, in a noisy pub with the juke box blaring, he could always hear the words, "Banks's Mild Ale" - I tried it once as an experiment!

This, from a birthday card, with a picture of five women out for a stroll together,

"You want to eat?"

"Yeah, I'm pretty beat!"

"No, I can't eat meat."

"You have problems with your feet?"

"Who the heck is Pete?"

I can't help feeling it should feature men & not women! Yes, I know that appears sexist, but I think it's more true to life!

Great (or sad ) to hear of fellow sufferers, but occasionally I make use of it. Best one was when I said, "I'd like to go to Iceland."
Silence
"I'd like to visit Iceland."
Silence
"Shall we go to Iceland? Shall I book this trip?"
"Oh yes, whatever."

So we're going.

Grumppa, thank you. Love learning new words.

I sit there talking and suddenly OH comes out of his trance and says 'sorry what was that?' Or sometimes he will hear half a sentence and make the rest up leaving me baffled because what he says has nothing to do with what I was saying.

I refuse to be like that woman, you know the one....'Be soon I said...' or a fishwife shouting so loud the neighbours can hear as well.

He will not entertain a hearing aid. He says they are for old people and more trouble than they are worth. He is 75!

Does anyone have another problem with hearing. I say something and seconds later he repeats it! That really gets to me. It makes others laugh at him.

It is also worrying because I wonder if it is the first signs of dementia. Does anyone know?

i too am accused of mumbling. Naturally, DH's hearing is perfect [not] I have had my own hearing tested, because I find it hard to understand things.
I have come to the conclusion that although I hear perfectly well, I understand slowly!

Mini Mouse, have you been bugging my house? That sounds like the conversations we have.

We have a sound bar, but OH has taken to putting the subs on as well! Why you need both I don't know.

According to him I mutter.

This takes it to another level:

I just emailed my friend in Australia to say I was not allowed to go on Facebook because I had had a bad virus.

She wrote back to say:

Sorry to hear that, hope you feel better soon. My brother is suffering too.

I could have written all these posts! Apparently it's my fault, I mumble. We have a sound bar and a Sonos system, which he has at a very high level most of the time. DH doesn't understand why I am complaining about the noise level. There must be something wrong with MY hearing! Oh and to make it worse, he sings along with the music and he CAN'T sing.
Just now, his wireless printer wasn't working.
Me "Go into settings and cancel the printer default setting and I will change it to a USB connection untill I have time to look at it" Don't do anything else.
What did he do? Closed all the windows on desktop, lost the stuff he was trying to print and then blamed me, saying, "You mumbled!"

what bugs me most is that he will concentrate on the first half of the sentence, then interrupt me by saying ' So what you are telling me is xxxxx' It never is! and usually diametrically opposed to wht I was saying. Maybe it is all wishful thinking on his part

Three elderly ladies walking down the road. First one--(Windy today, innit). Second one---( No it's not, it's Thursday). Third one--( Oh, so am I. Let's go and get a cuppa tea).

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Think we've got the same partner! Mine does exactly that. Once he got the right hump because he heard the first 2 words, guessed wrongly what he thought I had said, swore and stamped out of the house, slamming the door behind him. Two minutes later he opened the door really gently and asked, "sorry, could you repeat what you said?" looking really embarrassed because he knew he had got it really wrong!

Another quietly spoken Gran here! Not only do I say everything at least twice, I then often have to explain what I've said. He has a single hearing aid that he never wears and if he does ever wear it I have to put it in for him otherwise he has it hanging down like an earring. I have hearing aids that I almost always wear.

We should have a competition to judge which DH comes up with the most bizarre interpretations of what he thinks he has heard.

I really should keep notes as some of them are worth printing.

Perhaps his best was a few years ago when Cameron got in for the 2nd time. He went to the doctor with prostate problems. (he wasuccessfully treated).

The doctor who was Chinese, asked him if he any any 'erection issues' and he replied, 'No I voted Lib Dem'.

True I promise.

And naturally he's not deaf, other people just mumble.

I bought him headphones too, but he can't actually remember how to use them (wifi connections to iPod, TV, iPad) so on it goes. Apparently he can hear EVERYONE else!

Thank you Jayanna9040. I shall try to be more up front about my deafness. I am wondering about getting one of these microphones that allow you to hear conversations in meetings etc. but they do seem rather expensive. Would love to be able to try one first. I have bought a neck loop to use with my CD player. It doesn't work if I have it round my neck but is fine if I drape it round my ears. I look rather odd but fortunately I live alone so nobody to see me. Must just remember not to answer the door with it on!

Oh it's wonderful reading all these messages! I now know I'm not alone, being told I mumble and don't face him when I talk. Which makes me think he needs to lip read a bit. He will not have a hearing test, just like all those other stubborn men!

So pleased others feel as I do. It must be a man thing, my DH always misinterprets what I say, with words no where near the ones I have spoken, but it's always me mumbling!!!!!!!. How do we get them to a hearing test. I have worn one hearing aid for over 10 years now It has become second nature to me each morning to just pop it in and I off I go, how come our DH cannot do the same?