My husband is definitely not deaf!!

Why has my message come up 4 times???

There is one thing though. I can claim to have told DH things I had forgotten to tell him and pretend he just didn't hear me

I wear hearing aids. My hearing is ONLY faulty in the pitch of certain voices. Traffic noise, builders working, drilling, etc I can all hear perfectly! But voices, if there is background noise or if they aren't facing me, can be impossible. The hearing technician asked if I went to lots of noisy gigs as I started to go deaf in my 30s but I assured him I didn't. My mother went deaf young too so it is probably hereditary.

Strugglinabit hubby uses headphones and subtitles for the tv. ot sits in the corner flickering away with the volume turned down to zero 18 hrs a day. He does not put the volume on as it "booms to much" at the volume he needs. ( I have a small bluetooth speaker on the couch behind me that I listen with)
I find I tend to shout at people as well cos I speak at home in a loud voice and still have to repeat everything.
Yes some of the conversations can be hilarious but at the same time annoyingly irritating.

Another mumbler here, grandchildren just shout "Granddad" at the top of their voices to get his attention, they have done this since they first could speak without being told to do so.

Oh, so familiar! I am another mumbler, translator service and reinforcer of the kitchen timer.

merlotgran I just might adopt your idea in a slightly different way and use ear defenders instead. Not subtle but hopefully effective and might help avert all the headaches from the constant high volume.

I know the problem, all my friends and family mumble too. Even the TV sound quality isn't what it was

jusnoneed Get OH to have a hearing test. One of the benefits of a hearing aid is that as well as improving hearing they can help blot out tinnitus. Maybe a selling point for him. Good luck.

I've lost quite a bit of my hearing helped on by chemotherapy which took most of the hearing from my left ear. I find it really difficult and feel that I'm such a nuisance as I have to keep getting people to repeat things. Am trying to be more assertive about it but it's hard. I do wear a badge sometimes saying that I'm had of hearing but haven't found that it helps very much as no one seems to see it. A previous poster mentioned that she wasn't embarrassed by the technology. Do you use anything other than hearing aids?

As well as having selective hearing I'm convinced my DH has some degree of hearing impairment but totally refuses to have a hearing
test.

IT'S VERY ANNOYING ..... Sorry I'm shouting again!

I believe it is a 'man thing'?
My late DH could in my words 'switch off' and still watch his football while pandemonium reigned in our household when kids were arguing and I would say to him 'ARE YOU DEAF?.

Same here .I 'mumble/speak too quietly' (the only other person who says I speak quietly is a friend with hearing dificulties she admits to). Won't go for hearing tests. Has happily worn glasses since he was 5.
I suppose it's yet another dispiriting acknowledgement of getting older
DDs agree. I might get them on the case

So true, DH can't hear me when I speak right next to him, but can hear me quietly break wind at the other end of the house!

I have the same problem with mine. Sometimes I make a point of saying some thing like "would you like a coffee, would you like a coffee" and don't give him the chance of asking me to repeat it as I already have. It works every time cos I know that he's heard me the first time and it's a habit that makes him think he hasn't.

No other half, however belong to an Art Circle where it became grossly apparent that a male member could never follow conversations, eventually was cajoled to go for hearing tests at a hospital where a growth was discovered, without the test it would have continued to grow. Hearing loss maybe that you lose for instances the 's' and 't', so yes on first time round it would come through incomplete but when repeated the hearer may be able to fill in gaps. I started to wear a hearing aid when 'on the cusp' of needing one, as I was listening to people on the phone intending to end their lives, it was important that I missed nothing. The earlier you use a hearing aid the better the brain adapts. If you choose not to wear one, the brain will cease to recognise unheard sounds forever. If you put your hearing aid in as part of getting up for the day, each and everyday the easier it becomes to recognise voices amongst a hubbub. So please try to go for it, so you and partners can become part of the world fully. Enjoy, but I do not relish your struggle.

When I am trying to concentrate on the crucial bit of the plot of a whodunnit I am supposed to pick up his every utterance. Yet when he doesn't hear me, it is my fault for muttering

And then, do you find if you raise your voice slightly to repeat your remark, you get 'You don't have to shout'?!

I've had my hearing tested and have been told it's fine. It's not that we have to ask each other to repeat what we've said, it's that we think we've heard something totally different. We have some very strange conversations, strange but entertaining.

The man with the growth was also told his hearing was fine first time round. How is it when you go round the grandchildren's home? Do you find the Television there too low? The initial hearing test for the man was the GP tinged a tuning fork behind the patient's back and asked him if he heard it, when he said yes, the GP said, then your hearing is fine, it is the range of sounds. Good fortune ??

Annemarg could you repeat that please (sorry couldn't resist!!)

Another mumbler here, if I just made an effort to walk across the room and face him he would respond ...yeh right sometimes I get "are you standing in another room talking to me"? I shout back "no I am not talking to you I am talking about you" DH bought hearing aids and won't wear them because of background noise so we are in a no win situation and the TV volume is uncomfortable for me. I get accused of mocking his affliction but usually what I am laughing at is his repeating what he thought he heard.

Both DH and I wear hearing aids. Great help in conversations but can be confusing in a noisy environment with a lot of people. We have had an e mail this morning from a niece's husband who has just got NHS aids at the age of 50. He said he didn't think there was much difference but miraculously everyone around him has stopped mumbling!

Some of your posts made me laugh as oh so familiar. I also mumble and the TV has to be on sòoooo loud at times. I'm sure it's a man thing OH will not go and have a hearing test although he was told years ago that he had a problem. I get very frustrated at having to repeat everything I say.

Wolfie 1 -what a good idea! I'm sick of hearing 'eh, what' after every thing I say. If I wait and don't say anything he will answer me so it's just a habit but really annoying and tiring.Or I really raise my voice the next time and he looks at me as if I'm nuts for shouting all the time, can't win.

when I start to speak my OH talks over me, especially if I am having a conversation with someone other than him. He also says I didn't tell him things when my daughters have been present when I did and they told him so.This has been happening for years and he still does it. I just don't talk much at all now as I don't see the point of being ignored