Happy Birthday Jingle

Swanny -I did not say that I miss Jings! - I am sometimes glad of a break from the aggro! I said that we are free to ignore her and that she knows full well what she is doing!

I think this thread should come to an end now or she will just feed on the attention!

Thank you Lara for your clarifications. I can see that if threads are consistently hi-jacked and sent of the rails then this is something you need to keep an eye on.

I can only assume all those posting on this and the other thread have never been insulted and hurt by a post. I have.

Do you mean one of jingl's posts, or just generally, ann?

If we want GN to survive we need to toughen up and if you don't like a thread move to another.

But do we really need this Nanny state!

One of jings which I didnt report but another member did and it was deleted.
I commented recently that she had mellowed.

Daphne Yes cross posted with LaraGransnet

Luckygirl I was agreeing with your post. The I miss Jings was my comment - perhaps I should have started a new paragraph and made that clearer.

What I would like to know from HQ is if you have given Jing a Life Sentence, 5 years with parole or a one week ban ?

I miss seeing her acerbic comments. She has upset me at times but I would rather have her back on GN than banished forever.

Please rethink your decision.

I suppose if you do allow her back she may tell you in no uncertain terms what to do with your offer, but I suspect she misses us like we miss her.

Please offer the Olive Branch.

Jing was direct, blunt but her star quality was she was not a Job's comforter.

jessielovestuna I don't really look at MN but DH always says that if you start swearing then it shows you are losing the argument.

I've often heard him lose the argument with a hammer when it bashes him on the thumb though

Galen you called jingls 'Rose' on this thread; I was confused but thought you were sending her a rose for her birthday!

Well said, annsixty. I see that a majority of posters on this thread have highly selective memories. I don't propose to write a thread about a thread, but the phrase 'virtue signalling' may remind you of a quite recent completely unjustified verbal assault on an innocent member of G'net.

I have very occaisionally reported posts.

Why if a member has seriously broken the posting guideline should everyone know the reasons. It should stay a private matter between GN and the poster.

Without this we could be posting and gossiping about what has gone on which raises the rumour machines tendency to irresponsible conclusions.

I've talked about virtue signalling and I haven't been banned.

Just saying.

I did try to make sure that I was talking about a kind of behaviour, not about a person. After all, like most of us probably, I'm sure I've been guilty of engaging in virtue signalling myself. One should be able to talk about the issue of virtue signalling without people feeling insulted.

Well I miss jings and her salty humour. She often makes me smile and GN is the poorer without her. I am thinking of going on hunger strike until Big Sisters let her come back.

Sometimes posters are over sensitive and sometimes others are over-barbed making comments too personal. Argue the point not the person.
I am not a regular poster so rarely note absences or /namechanges..

More interesting things to do in RL than worry about OL squabbles!

The 'Thank You' thread which was recently deleted was full of unkind vitriolic comments towards a couple of posters. I did wonder why jingl wasn't taking part and now I know.

Jingl had stood up for one of them on a previous thread and yet the people who posted comments which led to a whole thread being deleted are now nodding sagely and probably hanging out the bunting in a place which I won't mention.

You know who you are.

I would be delighted to have jings back where she belongs...she has a good heart.

I don't understand any of this. Do you all read all the posts all the time, so know who is or isn't on ?
I can understand someone being banned for being deliberately rude or offensive. But Jings , I thought was just acerbic and direct. Banning is a little Draconian
I shall stick with the non- contentious posts. Much less stress

I hope she comes back soon

It is hard to know people properly 'on-line' and people may or may not have 'good hearts' but if they do not have good antennae regarding vulnerable /over sensitive folk and choose to be blunt/brusque or flippant they will upset people..even unintentionally.

We are all responsible for our own actions and I find it odd when people attack/defend individuals at a personal rather than ideas and actions level.

Even when one has reasonably good antennae, one can't always know when someone is going to be upset by something one posts.

Sometimes, especially where a contentious subject is being discussed, people will be upset/hurt/outraged by whatever one says because they fundamentally disagree with one's premise. I know this is true regarding the difference between attacking an idea and attacking a person. Some people don't think there is any difference between the two; I do think there is a difference. I think that some posters think I am being offensive simply by arguing this, so essentially they are setting themselves up for being upset because they cannot or will not see another point of view as valid. It is possible to accept a point of view that one intensely dislikes and disagrees with without thinking the person holding it has anything against you personally.

Flipping Nora - hardly been on GN lately as was on hols for nearly 3 weeks and chose to not take any internet device with me. Then had visitors last couple of days, and more arriving today - unbelievable ! ;) !!!

Jingl, Bon anniversaire from sunny Switzerland x

Hope you having a good birthday jings. I am relatively new compared to some of you I don't really understand why anyone would report others unless a really derogatory remark was made . I see some posts getting heated but that's what gransnet is there for isn't it !

Someone's thoughts and actions are not seperate from the person. They do not appear from outer space.

If a person chosses to post his or her thoughts online, they cannot deny ownership of them or the consequences of them in what happens.

Well saidthatbags

A belated Happy Birthday jings. Will you be back soon?