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Am I just being an old fashioned prude

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maryrose54 Tue 05-Apr-16 07:45:27

We have just acquired new neighbours. They seem very nice, are making changes to the garden, helping DH put up new fence after it blew down the other weekend. The only problem seems to be the language they use when they have visitors. DH and I never swore In front of our children apart from the occasional s** t or bu**er, although I know that DH uses more c olourful language at work in an all male environment, but never when there are females around. I find liberal use of the f word, and worse,offensive, and am also worried that our small grandson, who visits regularly and is at a stage where he is learning new words and copying what people say, might pick up on their language. I can't really ask them to moderate their language when we are the garden can I? But I don't want to have to stay indoors or wear ear defenders either! Not sure if they do child size! Your thoughts would be appreciated. DH says we just have to put up with it because that's how people speak nowadays.

Nelliemoser Thu 07-Apr-16 08:24:25

Many years ago when I was staying with relatives and sharing a room with my two yr old nephew, he was in his cot talking to himself saying "Damn! Blast! I mustn't say those words." "Damn! Blast!" grin

NanaandGrampy Thu 07-Apr-16 08:49:41

I think that you can't expect people to be mind readers.

Given the posts that say the F word is now general language , and neither rude nor offensive if not intended to be rude of offensive( which I have to disagree with but that's a whole other ball game) how can you expect people to know if you find that sort of language offensive if you don't tell them.

It doesn't have to be done in an aggressive or combative way, just a simple statement of fact. After all you're not asking them to be silent , just asking for a little understanding when little ones are around.