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Do you call your OH "dad"?

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suzied Thu 17-Dec-15 07:14:05

Following on from the cats mother debate, I wonder if anyone calls their husband "dad" ( or wife "mum"?) I think this used to be quite common in the past. I tease my DH for calling his mother "Nan" , and I received a card from one of my DDs which was written( by her) " to Nanny" .... Am I alone in finding this weird?

kittylester Thu 17-Dec-15 07:19:40

I call my husband 'dad' or 'pa' when referring to him to the dc or svc but I call him by his first name - he isn't my father!

Leticia Thu 17-Dec-15 07:41:49

Only very occasionally as a joke. It would be obvious to all that it is a joke.

Bellanonna Thu 17-Dec-15 07:53:46

Only call him Dad if speaking to the DDs. My husband always called my mother Grandma, once she became one.

cornergran Thu 17-Dec-15 07:57:12

Not in conversation with him. I'd be cross if he didn't use my name when he spoke to me. Sometimes we feel like we're parenting each other though!

ninathenana Thu 17-Dec-15 08:09:16

No, way !
To me that is an old fashioned Northern thing.
Obviously I talk about "Your dad" to DC but it's X or darling when speaking to him. Or "grumpyguts" under my breath sometimes tchgrin

Pittcity Thu 17-Dec-15 08:15:21

I call him all sorts of things but not Dad, that is my Father. DH and DS, who is still at home, have the same name so even that is sometimes confusing. I do call him Grandad when he is forgetful or complaining! We are called whatever suits the situation.

Katek Thu 17-Dec-15 08:15:56

Problem I find is how do you sign joint cards to SIL//DIL? Mum & Dad or name and name....or both?

Katek Thu 17-Dec-15 08:17:48

That's cards to my children and their respective spouses. Too early yet!!

annsixty Thu 17-Dec-15 08:19:44

Well on a public forum and in difficult times I can't say what I occasionally call him under my breath but Dad, never.

Maggiemaybe Thu 17-Dec-15 08:23:12

Not even all the DC call him dad. For some reason DS used our first names from an early age, and this has been handed on to his DC. So we're now the full Nana Maggie and Grandad ---- to them, which seems somehow more formal. confused

I do call him Buggerlugs a lot. Also a Northern one, I think?!

janeainsworth Thu 17-Dec-15 08:32:53

Oh maggie you've brought a tear to my eye.
I've got a lovely photo of my Dad, in RAF uniform, sent to Mum during the war, before they were married.
It's inscribed 'Hello Buggerlugs xx'
sad

hildajenniJ Thu 17-Dec-15 08:33:34

I call him by his name! He sometimes calls me mam. When he does I always answer "I'm not your mother", to which he usually replies, " sorry Hilda".

shysal Thu 17-Dec-15 08:47:47

My parents used to do it, so I agree it is a generational thing.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 17-Dec-15 08:49:38

No. When referring to him to the kids I say, "yer dad".

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 17-Dec-15 08:51:07

Or, "yer father". Depends on what is being said.

aggie Thu 17-Dec-15 08:52:49

When OH was in the Care Home he introduced me to everyone as his Mother , even told someone I had been at school in his Mums home village !! Now he is home he calls me mostly by my name , I sign cards to the children and their OHs by our names and Gran and Granda to the DGC

baubles Thu 17-Dec-15 08:58:12

My sisters in law always called their father 'papa' instead of 'dad' in his later years. I thought it horribly patronising and I know that if ever I'd done the same to my own Dad he would have told me off in no uncertain terms.

To answer your question, no I'd never call DH 'Dad', I refer to him as such when speaking to my children.

Alima Thu 17-Dec-15 09:29:28

No, like ninathenana I think it sounds very old fashioned and a northern saying. I normally call him by his name, occasionally Jockles as he is a Scot. If I am being honest several other things too if really cross. I refer to him as dad if talking to our daughters. One of my DDs, the one now safely with us, was called mum by the person who was married to her. Always sounded odd.

thatbags Thu 17-Dec-15 09:32:44

No. We all call each other by our first names or family nicknames. We know what the relationships are without needing nominal reminders.

Gagagran Thu 17-Dec-15 09:57:09

We don't really call each other anything except when the DGC are with us then we say Granny or Grandad. DC (and subsequent partners) have called us by our given names ever since their teens when they thought it very daring to do so and I ignored it, thinking it was a passing fad. Well it hasn't passed. My late elder sister was appalled and reprimanded DS for daring to call his Dad by his name! (She was very prim and proper)tchgrin

Auntieflo Thu 17-Dec-15 10:32:47

Mum used to call Dad ' Farve'

maryhoffman37 Thu 17-Dec-15 10:36:18

Certainly not! I hate that practice and find it really creepy. There is a big difference between reference and address too.

Marmight Thu 17-Dec-15 11:08:20

Never! [shudder], except when talking about him to the DDs. When talking about me to the DDs he always referred to me as 'Mummy' which I found quite sweet as after about 12 they called me Mum (or the 'old bat' wink). My in-laws always referred to each other as Mother and Father [shudder again]

NanaandGrampy Thu 17-Dec-15 11:10:42

Crikey I'm in the minority then ! I call him Dad when referring to him to the kids . I call him Grampy when referring to him when speaking to the grand children and occasionally I continue to do so when it's just us .

We're neither of us precious about it . We sign joint cards to the kids as Mum and Dad but don't expect our sils to call us that but one does call us Ma and Pa .