Rudeness/bad manners

Obviously a not so "JOLLY" jollyg

Never mind dear, perhaps if you ignore them all the nasty witches will go away.

Well it's true anno. If anyone has 'been funny' with me I have always tried to find out if I have done something to upset them. Now I just think (unless it is someone important to me) 'whatever' and let them get on with it.

What a lovely thing to say, KatyK. I agree with Nonnie that it's good to be able to avoid people who irritate me - there were all too many of those around when I was working! I must say that on both European breaks I've had this year (Rome and Palma), I found everyone kind and considerate. I never had to stand on a bus or the Metro and the waiters in cafés and restaurants were lovely to us - two old dears! Silver hair works wonders!

As for jollyg's comment that there may be some witches on here - perhaps she is right. There are many people on here who seem to have cast spells on some of my problems and made them all but disappear

I've tried hard to think of the last time anyone was rude to me and can't think of one! I must live in the best place in the world! I would add that since retirement I have made a point of having nothing to do with anyone the least bit irritating and have simply walked away from anyone who I didn't want to mix with. So liberating after working with a few 'difficult' people.

My DH held a door open for a lady once and she just sauntered through without thanking him. He said 'pardon?' She replied 'I didn't say anything'. He said 'oh I beg your pardon, I could have sworn I heard you say thank you'. She scuttled off sheepishly.

I liked your response ninathenana. My DD came up with a good one, to ask, "I'm sorry, did you mean to be so rude?" Haven't had a chance to use it yet.

Thank you for saying 'the strangeness of golfers' Teetime I am sure there are one or two who are and many that are not. I have a real issue with someone who has been very rude to me and my DH, in fact when in her company, although she knows us (as acquaintances), never speaks to either of us and if we speak to her she doesn't want to know for some reason. She spends all her time telling anyone who will listen (apart from us obviously) that she is a member of the golf club. My DH, who never usually comments on anyone and takes no notice, said to me 'that woman has a superior attitude'. The older I get the less patience I have with people like this.

Well, jollyG have you really found all the posters on this site so ill- mannered? I'm surprised you bothered to hang around considering how ill-mannered the witches posters seem to be.
But I suppose you felt "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em" hence your own extremely rude and ill-mannered sweeping generalisation.

Elegrans post at 15.00 had me in fits

I've been on this site for four years - almost from the start - and I wouldn't have stayed here if it had indeed been full of rude people.

Very jollyg and somewhat annoyed at such a false generalisation.
Totally uncalled for in my opinion calling GNs witches, what on earth is that about?

jollyg I think your sweeping statement was very ill mannered. The majority of members who post regularly on here are IMO extremely well mannered and very kind.

(My DH knows I'm really upset when he sees me lugging the Hoover upstairs)

Perhaps you should make a small charge GA? You could always let off the ones who really can't afford it and it may make the ones who take you for granted more appreciative. (Not a PC question but could it have been a cultural thing? That a woman's time is less important and more flexible?)

I've calmed down now, but I think that what made me cross is that I offer free English Language lessons and so very occasionally people think that my time must be cheap. In fact I am hugely busy and I don't have a lot of free time on my hands so for people to abuse the situation is very frustrating. Fortunately the vast majority of my students work very hard and would never dream of wasting my time - and most of them are lovely thoughtful people.

I agree with Nellie too!

I also agree with GA, if you still feel bad after doing the cleaning they must have really upset you! DH says he gets worried when I start jiffing the kitchen sink!

Drivers who don't acknowledge really irritate me. I'm regularly heard saying things like 'ANY time, madame!'

There are indeed one or two bad-mannered people on here, jollyg You might see one of them if your computer camera is switched on.

People who don't acknowledge when you have pulled over and given way to them and drive straight on without any acknowledgement. Similarly, holding doors open for mothers' with prams, something I always do because I remember being grateful when people did that for me. 95% of them will say thank you, but I did this once for a young mother who waltzed through without saying anything, which prompted me to say "I believe thank you is the word you may have been searching for" to which she arrogantly replied "I don't have to thank you" me "I don't have to hold the door open for you" Perhaps she was having a bad day, who knows

Also don't like people who try and purloin a sales assistant when you are already engaged at the till with them, this really annoys me, particularly when they break off serving you and try and sort out other person's request.

In supermarkets people who pile up the counter with their goods and then do a walk about looking for other groceries, not the mad dash for a forgotten item we have all done that I'm sure. On one occasion this happened to me, couldn't see hide nor hair of the customer, cashier beckoned me forward halfway through my transaction customer returns outraged at me for jumping in, I pointed out if we all shopped in that manner it would cause chaos, and also stated that personally I don't queue behind goods only people!

jollyg I think it bad mannered and rude when people make sweeping ill founded statements.

I agreed with Nellie last post.
I get annoyed with ignorant other drivers. The idiot this morning who manoeuvred his car so he could pull up next to me facing the way and call me a efing stupid b*&tch. who should look where I'm going cos I'd nearly hit him. My reply..'I was looking where I was going, otherwise I would have hit you' said with my best

I was once shopping with a friend when we decided to go into different shops and meet up again in 15 minutes. I arrived at the place we had arranged to meet and waited for 20 minutes, searched the shop she had gone into, no sign of her. Eventually I rang her mobile only to find that she was on her way home as she had forgotten she had to do something No I don't see her any more!!!

JollyG In three years I have not noticed "This site is full of ill mannered posters." Where did you get that idea?

There are some robust discussions on here that get heated and some people do seem to think it's rude to challenge the opinions of others in a discussion.

If nobody ever robustly challenged other's views we would not have an effective Parliament or good television and radio journalists. They have to be tough to try and get a sensible answer out of many evasive politicians or corrupt official.
Gn occaisionally gets quite bitter.
Your post is not exactly polite in that it accuses others of being rude.
What have you been looking at on GN??

One of my friends cuts in when I'm talking and carries on speaking right to the end of what she wants to say! I've tried continuing my conversation, but it all becomes so garbled that I give up in the end. Her DH is worse, as he starts whistling when other people are talking..... !

People who don't bother to let me know a gift has arrived safely when I have to send it via post or through a relative. I'm beginning to lose count of the number of carefully chosen presents for their new babies, or Christmas/milestone presents to distant friends or family who are too far away for me to be able to visit personally. It was an unexpected surprise to receive a thankyou card with photo from a new mum who is related by marriage to my brother - he had already let me know how pleased she was with the baby gift.