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Are you a natural "joiner"?

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Soutra Sat 06-Jun-15 16:24:11

I do find myself envying people who seem to find a congenial group wherever they go, who launch themselves wholeheartedly into their local church/WI/book club or whatever. I am extrovert on the surface, but very reserved deep down, a reserve some people take as stand-offishness.
My mother being German in a small town in Scotland not long after the war never found it easy to fit in, while my father was universally popular but held back from many social occasions maybe because he sensed animosity to Mum and just wasn't prepared to bother with people like that.
Perhaps we should never have moved to a village but stayed in the city where these things matter less as I can say I have honestly tried and still find it a struggle. I was involved with charities in London, but never felt brave enough to try to get involved here; of course I joined the PTA, but again always felt a newbie, got involved at our church ( until it went all happy clappy and I couldn't quite get on with that!), I am Treasurer of our local women's group and belong to a book club, but I often feel I have to force myself to make the effort to join in the chitchat and find it hard to be 100% involved. If I am honest I feel like an observer or an outsider, even finding it hard to join in some of the jolly banter at our GN virtual parties!!
Should I just give over thinking about it? Just take the plunge? Or is it silly to try to be something I am not?

Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 19:22:52

I meant "everyone wouldn't want to be me". Oh dear.

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Jun-15 19:23:39

Gracesgran the little man (man?!) symbolising my type has a sword. Your lady has a long frock and a really elegant headdress. envy

Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 19:26:07

Off to look.

Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 19:32:53

I hadn't looked at the Personality Type page just read all the different paragraphs on the page I came through on. It makes more sense seeing the groups.

I like yours jinglbellsfrocks Very dedicated and warm protectors, always ready to defend their loved ones. I like my medieval outfit too smile

Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 20:08:53

They're all very positive profiles, aren't they? None of the 16 personalities seems to have any negative traits at all...hmm

Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 20:18:29

There is a "Strengths and Weakness" section for each one Ana and that is really how we are all made up.

When I have done Psychometric tests with groups in the past most people would rather have their own traits - good and bad. If fact some personality types cannot imagine why everybody doesn't want to be their type which makes for interesting conversations when you are discussing team building and the need for different personalities. [smiles]

Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 20:19:11

or smile

Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 20:23:02

Yes, sorry, I was forgetting about the 'strengths and weaknesses' section.

It's interesting that some types don't see why everyone doesn't want to be their type - it would be a very strange world if every personality was the same!

downtoearth Mon 08-Jun-15 20:40:51

mines very accurate..actually called me down to earth...whats in a name..hmm

AshTree Mon 08-Jun-15 21:03:16

I too am a CAMPAIGNER whitewave. I did the test twice because I felt I whizzed through it too quickly the first time. So the second time I was more measured in my responses, and I know I answered differently on several of them. I got the same result each time, however!
Funny, I don't feel like a campaigner...

AshTree Mon 08-Jun-15 21:03:49

downtoearth grin

loopylou Mon 08-Jun-15 21:05:20

Apparently I'm a Defender .........

soontobe Mon 08-Jun-15 21:22:20

Consul [ESFJ-A]

soontobe Mon 08-Jun-15 21:23:11

My assertiveness is 95%!

Leticia Mon 08-Jun-15 21:58:07

I am a mediator- which I would agree with.

Daisyanswerdo Mon 08-Jun-15 22:05:57

I'm a Mediator

Maggiemaybe Mon 08-Jun-15 22:43:29

I'm an Executive. I've a stern pair of glasses and a very bossy stance. Apparently 11% of the population are Executives, so where are the rest of you?

Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 22:46:54

They're probably all too busy to do Personality Tests...grin

Maggiemaybe Mon 08-Jun-15 22:50:27

Possibly so, Ana. I myself had to break off from the very important business of playing online Scrabble whilst simultaneously watching an episode of Corrie to do the test.

Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 23:08:30

grin

Coolgran65 Tue 09-Jun-15 01:01:39

I'm a Consul, scary how accurate it was !!

Lona Tue 09-Jun-15 08:56:27

Surely someone else is a Logistitian like me? We are 13% of the population.
Am I a lonely weirdo?
hmm

soontobe Tue 09-Jun-15 09:02:12

You have to think of all the grandparents who are not on here. Some of them would never come onto a site like this or any interenet site.
So gransnet will only have certain "types" to a large extent. It is not going to be representative of grandparents as a whole, by a long way.

shysal Tue 09-Jun-15 09:07:55

I am a defender too, Jingl, but our GN personas are very different!

soontobe Tue 09-Jun-15 09:19:23

Sometimes in life, I think that it is possible to learn tools and techniques for something, so long as we want whatever it is, badly enough.