Mother's Day and new extended families!

I have several children, none living locally.
I dont like fuss either, but do want a bit of something. So a different child is nominated each year, to be the one to send me something small, eg some flowers and a card.
The rest can ring me up if they want to or send me an email. That is it.
We are all happy with this arrangement.

We make it a day like any other,unlike when my mother was alive when it was a royal command to be present. My DD will ring from 300 miles away and S may or may not call but after all these years it matters not a jot.

They all come here and I have to cook a huge dinner. How does that work?

Actually, I think I will tell them to get here early this year and they can cook it. And they can supply the cake. (Although I will have to make the usual choc cake for the boys, but I don't mind that, but I like a proper Mother's Day cake with pretty icing)

I recognise the scenario you describe Grannyknot. As a mother of sons I make do with a visit if I'm lucky! It's on Saturday for one DS this year!

Usually get flowers and wouldn't want anything else.

I like the original tradition of those in service going home for the day and taking some flowers from the hedgerow.

Of course the DILs and DSs are spending the days with the other granny.

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I just happened to arrange a visit to DS1 and family before I realised it was Mother's Day that weekend. Hoped to get other family to come over for a get-together, but wouldn't you know it, the DSs have a party to attend. They're at the age when there seems to be a party for one or other or both every weekend.

Oh God! I hope my lot don't see it as a "royal command"! (If it was just us, we could go to the pub)

Oh yes! the parties! And now it's the Cub camp weekends. Or kayaking with Dad.

Do your GSs know mine, jingl? Mine are always off to Beavers/Cubs camps and kayaking or cycling with Dad!

Cook? On Mothers' Day. I'd soon eat my slippers.

Mothers Day this year will involve me doing lunch for 2x daughters and their families. I'm looking forward to seeing them all round the table! But, the following week DH is taking me for a posh Sunday lunch!

My take on it is that my daughters are mothers now, very busy and could do with a rest! And, I get a few hours with them, their partners and the dgc!

1DS has no children and is going to stay with a similarly childless friend and DS 2 will be with his in laws! DD1 is going for a long walk with a pub lunch at the end of it!

To the best of my recollection I have cooked on every Mothering Sunday but one and that coincided with DH's 65th birthday and we spent that in Antigua. Some years I cooked one lunch with M and one dinner for DC.
My 65th? cooked as usual.

Hyped up out of all recognition! I don't view it as Mothering Sunday as I'm not religious and if it's going to be a special day, I'd rather it focused on the mums with young children. A bunch of daffs, home-made card - all fine with me, but please, no chocs, smellies, jewellery etc. My little grandsons have planned a surprise treat for DD (with a little help) at the pizza place and a few of us will be joining them. Same as what we did last Sunday, really.

As DS1 always does the cooking, I won't have to stir from the sofa! Unless I am required to peel the spuds!

Chinese take-away for all of us so no-one has to do the work and, as DH pays, not too expensive either.

Nothing planned, but expect I'll get a call from DS and DD.
I think it's overhyped and it makes me so cross when prices of flowers, plants etc are put up for Mother's Day, Easter et al.

Spending it with family. Men will do the cooking and childminding while DD, DiL and myself go out for a glass of wine at the local hostelry and return to a three course dinner.

Very altruistic of you when but not being a religious person myself I don't suffer from ECM syndrome

My daughters will probably give me flowers or a book and cards and one will pay a flying visit , the other lives with us I'll probably get a visit from Interflora with something from my 'lives abroad' son and his little family... I will probably just do a normal lunch for OH and myself... I'd be quite happy with a text or phone call if I'm honest... its no big deal in our house.

Haven't really thought about it, though when I see all the cards etc in the shops, I remember with a sudden jolt that I no longer have a mother. Her name was Iris, so we always looked for cards with irises on.

The two DS live some distance away, but will send a card, because my DDiLs will remind them! DD lives nearby, so we may have a drink together. (Nothing new there!) Seeing her so often is still a treat enough for me, after years living a long way away.

Nothing here

Galen even if only virtual, and to all mums who need some x

Thanks

anno they do sound very similar!

anya If we all went out to eat the younger one would only eat the meat, and the older one would only eat his Yorkshire pudding- and mine and gran dad's too. It's easier to feed them at home, although we do do it sometimes. It involves a lot of surreptitious swopping of different foods to different plates.

Don't get me started...........

jingl we're not 'going out'. The men will stay at home (mine) and will cook and childmind while us 'ladies' go to pub for pre-prandial drink and natter. We wil return to eat their probably burnt or inderdone offerings.