i was a bit upset when DD told me I was not invited upstairs for Christmas day, especially as i always provide the food.
Eventually i spent the morning with DD and DGS down here which always happens anyway, and we had a lovely time then I went to the Manse and had a really lovely dinner, with great wines and great chat too.
Then DD comes down this morning and we are chatting away, and it comes out that SIL is having trouble coping with me and DGS.
SIL was adopted from a French Jesuit Orphange(not a nasty one, good memories) at the age of 5.He is 47.
His Mother died 17 years ago, and he adored her, to the extent of hoarding everything she owned, except clothes thank goodness.
he is now not coping well with DGS and I as he keeps wishing his Mother was here too.
I am putting this in here as a lot of my friends here worked with and knew her well, so don't really want to discuss it too much with them.
i feel it is not my fault and he needs to get over it, after all he asked me to come and live in the Granny flat to be closer to them, and he doesn't complain when he can do what he wants and I babysit.
Do i talk to him, he slips into Parisien French when I talk about anything uncomfortable, leaving all the talking to DD.
DGS thinks the sun shines out of Grandma, and Papa too, he works very long hours and I try to encourage DGS to not ask for me when he is there but it seems to be becoming a bit fraught.
talking might make it even worse, ooofff I don't know.
