I'm suddenly feeling old!!

Well Ethel sweetie ,if you feel old at 60 , how the heck are you going to feel at 70 & 80 and beyond ??

When my husband used to fill in forms for DLA, he always used to make himself sound more capable than he was. He was still given the DLA.
After he used the bus a few times and people started giving him their seats at the front of the bus, he realised he could tell the truth. He could never use the bus on his own in case he fell over.

I agree that the 'popping' isn't actually offensive.

I was actually just trying to make ethelbags feel a bit better because I do know how it can eventually get a bit much, being asked to 'pop' here, there and all over the place!

When travelling on a crowded tube a lovely young man stood up and offered me his seat.I thanked him and he replied" It's my pleasure" it made me feel like a million dollars.

It is also common courtesy to accept the offer gracefully.

Its just the thought that someone thinks I am old, I suppose that in years to come and after many times of being offered a seat Imay get to accept it, I just feel sensitive to being thought of as old, Im just getting used to being 60 and even then 'Im embarrassed by it.
side I think of me as being a teenager still or at least a twenty something and the reality kicks in when Im reminded that Im 60

Seems to me a lot of the reactions described on here are just churlish.

Little things arising from politeness and considerateness too!

Likewise, anno. I was taught that it is just common politeness and I still think it is.

It troubles me how easily so many of us appear to feel patronised and condescended to so easily. Why so fragile and hypersensitive about such little things?

When I was a child I was taught to give up my seat on a bus to an older or pregnant person and I dutifully did just that as did all my friends. In what possible way was that patronising, or insulting, ethelbags? It was regarded as common politeness if their needs were greater than mine. A habit inculcated in childhood was maintained when I was older and now I appreciate it when this courtesy is afforded me.

All this embarrassment about being offered a seat. I am tall and almost always when I travel by train someone asks me to lift his (yes – his) or her suitcase on to the rack for them. Also, in spite of having suspicious bumps on the front of my chest, I quite often get addressed as "sir".

I agree, nonu. Put yourselves in their place and imagine what it's like to have to say these tedious things umpty-ump times a day. Tiresome little things so they can do boring little tasks over and over again. Quite hard to stay cheerful and chirpy without an occasional pop, eh, my poppets?

I would not cringe if someone offered me a seat, I would be glad they took the time , in fact in the USA we , from time to time travel public transport and they ALWAYS offer us a seat, don"t really know why as we are surely not OLD.
I think the word POP is meant kindly, well that is my take on it .

did you just 'pop' into the chair.
Seriously it is really annoying to be asked to 'pop' anywhere.

(I'm not saying that I wouldn't get out of the bed - I just sat in the armchair until they'd finished!)

you missed my 't' out Ana. You need to pop it in.

I think they say that to everyone, ethelbags. When I was in hospital last year (in a single room due to risk of infection) a couple of nurses would come in every morning to change the bed linen and ask me whether I'd like to 'pop in' the shower while they did so. I said that I wouldn't.

I would cringe if anyone offered me a seat, I find it patronising and insulting. I would however be polite but I would be looking to change something to my appearance (more purple hair dye) etc.#
I am having lots of hospital checks at the minute which are traumatic in every way as I hate having to sit in a waiting room with strangers but the worst thing is the patronising manner of the hospital staff, their favourite word is 'pop'. for example, 'we will just pop you on the bed/ we will just pop a little needle in your arm/ can you pop on to the couch/pop you clothes on now etc etc.
Please, any hospital staff reading this, do not use the word 'pop'.
It maybe is ok used to a 90 year old but to a normal looking 60 year old in skinny jeans/leggings with stripy hair makes me feel what have I done to be spoken to like this. I feel that its bad training, they are used to over 60s being a bit dippy. Well Im not ready for the grey perm and cream trousers yet.

I was offered a seat on a tube when I was in my early 40s and was genuinely puzzled as to whether they had thought I was elderly or pregnant.

Here's to a speedy recovery after your op on Monday petallus

Maybe I just need time to adjust to this new stage of my life. In the words of the immortal Kermit 'it isn't easy being green'!
Good luck with your surgery on Monday

petallus ouch

petallus. Good luck with the hip replacement. You should feel quite lively by Christmas. I hope the PMR flare subsides soon.

All the best, petallus, with the operation and I hope the piles disappear too!

All the best for Monday, petallus.