Effective strategies, please

I like MiceElf's last one bags

Still, at least she eats breakfast. I discovered my daughter was smearing milk and crumbs round the bowl and not eating anything at all. (One of her teachers snitched to me after a lesson healthy eating where she had confessed all.)

Try letting her get on with it - if you can, leave the things on the table or wherever, so that when she sits down again they are are still there. It takes an awful lot of self control, but eventually the penny does drop. OR you could just accept that she is a lazy teenager and will grow out of it.

A hard one. Do you all eat breakfast together?

Sanctions: sticks: dock the spends, grounding, removal of social media, forget to buy favourite breakfast goodies

carrots: long talk about family co-operation, bribery, invite one of her uber tidy friends for a sleep over and comment at breakfast how lovely it is that everyone in the family does their share of tidying and how proud you are of her (that might be a stick, though).

Or, take to your bed and demand that she bring you breakfast in bed as you're too weak to manage any household tasks.

ooo not sure what they are and I didn't ever have this problem although I could never get her to tidy her room and she is very messy now. In a small child you would incentivise with a wall chart and stickers can you do something similar with a teenager? I'm not sure. She really ought to respect you enough not to expect you to clean up after her though. I think I would just get very cross and that is probably the wrong thing to do. Can you wait for a nice moment when you are friendly together and bring up the subject of clearing up - I'm sure they are expected to clear things away at school?

What, you're thinking of getting a butler?

There was never time for such niceties before school in our house. Just getting them out of the house in time to catch transport was bad enough. You do it Bags. It's part of the washing up process.