Are you trusting or suspicious?

Surely it depends on the circumstances? As with anything start with a neutral attitude and adjust to circumstances as you go along. All of us, I think, make misjudgements. I have trusted the untrustworthy in the past and had doubts about those of whose sterling qualities I was later convinced.

Actually Nonnie being nice to unpleasant people is a brilliant tactic, It usually irritates them beyond measure as what they want you to do more than anything is loose your cool or get upset so that they can feel superior and crow over you. I have an acquaintance, I have known her for nearly 40 years. We both loathe each other, but in all those years we have never once exchanged a bad word. When we meet, which is as little as possible, we are unfailingly polite and pleasant to each other. Her dislike of me is far better known than my feelings for her. My public attitude to her is of indulgent understanding, which puts other peoples sympathies with me!!

Flicketyb, I know just what you mean. They are friendly like that here too in N Wales Nonnie - such a contrast to where I lived before.
I was trying not to laugh yesterday in ASDA carpark.
Middle aged man staggers up to car next to me - he has items in both hands and a bag of apples in his teeth. He obviously did not want to pay his pence for a bag.
Me "Can i give you a hand?"
Him, through teeth and apples "Can you get my car keys out of my pocket"
Me, hesitating to put hand into pocket of strange man's jeans "Well i don't think I know you well enough yet - but would you like me to hold something for you?"
He then dropped his Ryvita and blushed. LOL

Thanks, ana. I see now. Yes, how sad. Doubly sad because she is not self-confident enough to know what suits her and when she looks good and sad because she doesn't have a friend she could trust

Yes,, Flickety we talk about Killing them with kindness in this family with some humour sometimes!

jess won't ask where you lived before because the answer might offend someone but I really notice the difference and love living here. Don't think we will ever leave after a somewhat nomadic life.

I am trusting by nature and will take people at face value until they give me reason to withdraw that trust.