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Adapting to the changes of age

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sandelf Wed 14-Oct-26 12:45:42

Realised today that I derived some of my enjoyment of visiting new places or holidaying came from feeling safer with my husband. He's lost some judgement/memory so now I have to step up, consider risks etc as he will not really be doing that. I guess many of us are doing the same - tips for coping welcome.

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Luckygirl3 Wed 14-Oct-26 13:01:18

It is challenging when roles change as each of a couple age at disparate rates.

The biggest tip I can give you is not to fight it - acceptance does not mean giving in. It means being realistic so you are not banging your head against a brick wall all the time and feeling frustrated.

Keep some time and space for yourself. You cannot be constantly vigilant - you need to breathe out and relax sometimes.

Life waxes and wanes - it changes over time - we have to cultivate acceptance and hang on to those joys that do remain. There is no other way.

Sending a handhold.

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blue14 Wed 14-Oct-26 13:44:11

What a lovely response from Luckygirl13!

I can't added anything constructive to it.
She really has said it all.

Just be kind to yourself.

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sodapop Wed 14-Oct-26 13:58:34

I have to agree, Luckygirl13 has encapsulated it perfectly.

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sandelf Wed 14-Oct-26 14:39:15

Thank you LG - A recipe for 'not banging head on brick wall' is just what I need. Have recently been learning I can't/shouldn't expect to do it all.

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