feeling bad

Don't beat yourself up about it nanej - I suspect the damage was done much earlier and I imagine there was more to it.

nanaej I know just how you feel. In the early days of Gransnet I described jingle as being besotted with David Walliams because she was hugely excited and exhilarated by his charity swim in the Thames. It was never intended as an insult but she took it that way and that was the first time she resigned her membership. This all happened during the evening when I had shut down my computer, so you can imagine the horror and embarrassment I felt the next morning. I was absolutely mortified.

I suspect that there were a number of posts on that thread that got under crimson's skin and upset her. I would think that the putative accusation of racism was adequately dealt with at the time. Crimson is by no means a stupid woman (understatement of the evening) but probably just wants an interlude of quiet reflection before she decides whether to return. That so many of us have made it clear that we should very much like her to might persuade her. Let's hope so.

I agree totally with absent!
I know how you feel. I've had a very hurtful and untrue pm from a member which made me feel like resigning. But a couple of my very good friends (but I point out, NOT a clique!) persuaded me not to!

Incidentally can someone tell me. Why,When some, like,minded people often agree with each other , they should be accused of being a gang or clique?

Just asking?

No idea jeni but sad to hear you have had hurtful PM's.

absentI hope she is just taking a bit of time out and will come back & thanks grace too for responding.

I do not want to be over sensitive or a drama queen about this but at this moment it does make me feel that I should only make innocuous comments and not seek clarification or present a different opinion. Not like me at all! Guess I will feel better in the morning.

nanaej I didn't read anything unpleasant in your posts on that thread, and you come across as someone who manages to say what you think without offending anyone.

jeni oh dear, that is not nice! Glad you are still posting..

I agree that it is obvious that on many issues similar people will share opinions but that is not a gang. It is only bad when people start being personal and snipe at one another rather than addressing the issue on the thread!

Thank you janie for your comment.

And I agree with janie

grace has it in a nutshell nanaej

In total agreement.

nanaej I agree with all the other posters and would add that, due to some accusations and rancour on other threads entirely, Gransnet was not a pleasant place to be last evening. No one insulted me directly but I logged off, thinking 'Do I really want to be part of this?' I am, of course, back today and hoping that you will stay and that Crimson will return.

I'm to bed now. I'm finally feeling warm. It's freezing upstairs so I'll grab an extra duvet. Night all

Night jeni sleep well.

Thanks for bringing that thread up absent. Just had a quick look at it again, bringing it all back. The only time I have left off gransnetting actually sobbing in my kitchen.

WTF am I doing here?

Yep! Gransnet can definitely be very hurtful.

" hugely excited and exhilarated by his charity swim in the Thames"!

I admired what he was doing!

Totally unnecessary to harp back to that!

Rose[frown]

Sorry jeni. Could you explain that?

Thorns?

nanaej I was a part of the thread you're referring to. I don't think crimson made her decision to leave after anything you said - I have realised now, looking back, how passionate she is about horse racing. I was trying to show another side, from an owners' point of view. Reading Crimson's posts I understand her point - it all got very mixed up with Liz Jones and Clare Balding for goodness sake. Almost surreal really. I very much hope Crimson will read this and come back.

And stop calling me rose please jeni Joke's over. It's getting vaguely patronising.

j07 Don't you think you might be overdoing it a bit? It was a long time ago, it was a misunderstanding, I was deeply apologetic and you yourself resurrected the story on another occasion and even put up a link to the thread. Why the hell did you bother to look at it again if it originally caused such misery that you actually sobbed?

That's a really kind and thoughtful post absent I expect JO feels so much better now.