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How can we stop becoming 'old' as we age?

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kittylester Wed 02-Jan-13 11:17:53

How do we stay young at heart as we age? Our children say that we are quite young minded, at very nearly 64 and 67, but how can we ensure that we stay that way?

We have always been quite close to Dh's brother and his wife, seeing them 5/6 times a year and phoning quite regularly. They always come to us for NY but this year they seem to have aged so much. They are 73 and 72. Various of our children popped in while their uncle and aunt were here and all mentioned how they seem to be, mentally, very old. sad

My brother in law was one of the first commercial computer programmers but nowadays they boast about never switching the computer or their mobiles on, they take no papers (but read ours avidly) they rarely watch TV but nor do they listen to the radio. SiL was a teacher and then, voluntarily, ran a village playgroup until a couple of years ago.confused

They are not wealthy pensioners, nor are they hard up and take quite a few holidays, together and separately. BIL has had rheumatoid arthritis for nearly 30 years and has had quite a few bits replaced but manages to walk their collie once or twice a day.

We were all shocked at how 'old' they seemed and have told our children to make sure we don't go the same way.

DH has another brother, who is 75 in June, who has just left his wife and intends to marry a 38 year old Thai bar girl. shock

How do you intend to keep young at heart?

ps Mon 27-May-13 23:26:15

Galen over some 25 Years never got a full blown bend but lots of niggles left untreated. Including I am told a gas bubble in the left hand side of my brain which I presume eventually cleared itself. The three and a half to five days decompressions were slow but sometimes not slow enough. It was after all in the experimental days of decompression Schedules and therapeutic recompression. I was a lucky one. Friends were confined to wheelchairs whilst others died. I decided I wanted to live long enough to be a nuisance to the kids something I am told I achieved some time ago.
Sorry I have taken my night time pills and sleeping pill with hot chocolate and I can feel my body shutting down so its bed for me. Good night!

Galen Mon 27-May-13 22:21:22

Did you get the bends?

ps Mon 27-May-13 21:32:09

granjura I was in the underwater business and Inland Revenue (as Revenue and Customs were) permitted us to draw a pension at 40. I guess at 40 we were considered generally past our best, physically at least, hopefully not mentally. Fortunately I have not suffered ill health with the exception of Arthritis as a consequence of too many years compressing and decompressing my body but it is controlled - most of the time. Nothing unusual I'm afraid.

Galen Mon 27-May-13 20:20:02

I became one at 49. I took ill health retirement from the civil service which meant my pension started immediately.

granjura Mon 27-May-13 20:17:42

how does one become a pensioner at the age of 40 ????

ps Mon 27-May-13 18:29:51

Well for what its worth I am 64, now live alone, am far too busy to consider getting old, have been a pensioner since the age of 40, am told by my eldest (daughter) to act my age and not my shoe size but still remain reasonably fit. I am building overseas (which helps with the fitness) but do have a sweet tooth and cannot resist the local cuisine either. That's the down side.
At home in UK I confess I no longer go out but used to spend most of my time outdoors but now busy myself with either housework, gardening or building / decorating / mending or erecting things for the children. I have two, one of each. If anyone could find time to get old amongst that lot I would love to know.

petallus Mon 27-May-13 18:27:56

My 23 year old GS who is living with me keeps me young.

petra Mon 27-May-13 18:26:39

Would the car be a Nissan Micra. I have one. It's a joke with the family!
In my defence, it was such a good buy and has never let me down.

shysal Mon 27-May-13 18:02:22

I'm too young to be this old!

Galen Mon 27-May-13 17:40:26

Don't have time to get old. Far to busy!

granjura Mon 27-May-13 17:24:46

For me, it is volunteering and working constantly with young people in the Community. My neighbours are young and I help with the kids, the local primary school, and I teach English, German and French to local kids. They make me laugh - treat me like an 'auntie' and it keeps me active in so many ways. I help with cross-country skiing, caving, walking and soon on a camp at a Bird Park for a few days. Love it.

They all know I am away often - and fit around my travel and other activities.

littlegran Mon 27-May-13 17:23:01

my advice on growing old. use it or lose it both mentaklly and physically. i am 91 but still do a trolley round with WRVS at my local hospital one afternoon a week, sure i feel tired after doing it but it is agood tired feeling.

Isadora Mon 27-May-13 16:07:23

I wholeheartedly endorse Gransnetters who have joined forces to tackle the ever ubiquitous prejudice of the elderly in the UK and to that end would like to recommend to readers Christopher Holt's novel, "The Winter Chaser".
Not only is it an exciting and compulsive page turner but it also highlights a future Britain in which everyone is encouraged to do everything possible to remain forever young and are punished for non-compliance. Ivan Wyngate, a 65 year old eminent scientist rebels against this smugly ageist society in which a seemingly benevolent yet ludicrous nanny state is determined to diminish his achievements and turn him into a worthless pensioner of no account. His ingenious methods of outwitting the authorities make encouraging and amusing reading and what a refreshing change to have a literary hero with age and experience behind him!

Movedalot Mon 07-Jan-13 12:16:13

OOPS! Granny23 well spotted, DS2. Still got DH1. Am poorly so that is the excuse I am sticking to!

Granny23 Sun 06-Jan-13 18:57:08

Moved did you mean DS2 or was your 2nd husband VERY young? grin

RINKY Sun 06-Jan-13 17:22:36

Thanks for the support and name suggestions on decluttering.
Not a minimalist but do like things in their place

seasider Sun 06-Jan-13 00:03:19

Granny23 your dad sounds such fun . I love fearless people like him he must have had such a good time!. I think the key to staying young is to make time for your family and friends ( nothing like a good girls night out !) , to keep your sense of humour and to try new things even if it takes you out of your comfort zone.smile

Nanado Sat 05-Jan-13 23:50:43

Good for you movedalot and hope you're better soon.

Nonu Sat 05-Jan-13 16:47:22

Oh crikey bobs , will be watching !

Hope you better soon

flowers

Movedalot Sat 05-Jan-13 15:53:49

nonu if you had seen me yesterday you might want to rethink that! grin Oh and that was while I was really poorly, still am!

JammieB Sat 05-Jan-13 14:55:16

Granny23 - Wish I could have met him - he sounded amazing!! Think from this day forward I shall emulate him - will let you know how I get on though might need bailing out at some point! lol

Nonu Sat 05-Jan-13 14:52:30

Move ., think me way ahead of you !!!!!!!!

winkwink

Butty Sat 05-Jan-13 12:05:22

I'm a born minimalist, Rinky - no clutter to de-clutter. If you ever need a partner..........wink

annodomini Sat 05-Jan-13 10:57:20

How about 'Clutterbuster', Rinky?

Movedalot Sat 05-Jan-13 10:38:07

ana & nonu I think we are kindred spirits, shall we grow old disgracefully together? grin

Bags love the unpredictability! I am always surprising my family and have no intention of letting them get complacent. When DH2 was at a theatrical boarding school he was very proud of the fact that his mum was 'mad'.

On the outside I am just like everyone else but every now and again I jump out and shock them. Yesterday's airport chaos (no baggage on our plane or the previous 2) needed sorting by someone so this little old lady took on the authorities while all the others passively watched! They were all pleased with me but did nothing themselves. And I was wearing a very loud top!