Bereaved at Christmas

So sorry for all of your losses. Allow yourselves time to grieve and think back to happy times with them.

Not unreasonable at all. Do what feels right for you and gives you any degree of comfort the pair of you can muster. So sad for you both ?

Barmyoldbat
What a dreadful shock and sadness for you all.

So sorry about your bereavements denisep5 of course you are not being unreasonable. You and your family should spend the time as you wish, quietly remembering those you have lost, going to church etc. You have my sympathy

How terribly sad, I feel for you both.

You are still in shock. I lost my DH to cancer just over a year ago and although I spent the day with DD and her family, it was a very sad Christmas. His dad died 2 weeks after he did. A big loss of two big personalities.
This year I have a tree, thanks to a friend, and an invitation or two, but I am not feeling at all festive and very lonely.
Condolences to you both.

denisep5, (from experience) have exactly the kind of day that suits you. Ignore any and all expectations and traditions, just try to find the least painful way to get through it. You can ignore it completely, join others elsewhere or have a very simple, basic 'special' day, whatever seems right.

Oh I’m so sorry to hear your news. I lost my dad at Xmas many years ago, and it is so hard to bare isn’t it.
I agree, do exactly what feels right for you. I do hope that you can find some peace and comfort together.

denisep5

I am SO very sorry to read this, you must do what you feel is right. Each of us handles a situation differently and its not for anyone to say otherwise

1 day at a time.

Thinking of you.

I’ve mentioned that my beloved husband died a year last December, can’t find my message. It is his Birthday on 22 June, how will I get through the day. I miss him so badly. Family and friends Are so supportive but at the end of the day you are alone with your thoughts. I find it so hard to bear never to see him again

Birthdays and other milestones can be a challenge. Somehow we get through them. I try and plan something to do to take my mind off it - visit a DD, or a garden or whatever. Something to stop me dwelling on it.

I will be thinking of you.