Gift for daughter on her first mothers day

Ok

Odd - unless she's a single mum with no partner to choose a gift from baby.

I do find it a bit odd .
I give Mother's day gifts to DMiL and DM and to DGMiL when she was alive
I think that's enough mothers

It's their turn to treat you

We give our daughters MD gifts every year, they are mums.

Odd and as you say, she is not your mother.

A very close and old friend (male) sends me a message on mother day saying happy Mother’s Day and I send the same to him on Father’s Day. It means a lot to me and it doesn’t matter what other people think.

I really only want my children (if anyone) to think of me on mothers day.
I would not have liked it if my parents had wanted to be "in" on that.

My mother, however, would have been treated to something from me. That seems to me to be the point of the day.

Obviously some people think differently.

Hetty58

Odd - unless she's a single mum with no partner to choose a gift from baby.

Good point Hetty

It seems strange to me , something I would never do. However I can understand how you want to celebrate your daughter being a mother , not sure that is your job though!

I think this is lovely

When I became a mother, my mum still wanted a big fuss every mothers day and I found myself never really having any part of it for myself

When my daughters have children, I plan to make sure they get a lovely day. It's so special when children are small

Why don't you book a lovely mums lunch for you both to share with grandchild? I'd have loved that

Why don’t you book a lovely mums lunch for you both to share with grandchild?

What about your daughter’s husband/partner, I’m assuming there is one? Is he to be allowed to attend the lunch? And if the GC is quite small, he/she won’t remember a thing about it. Surely it’s up to the baby’s dad to sort out the card/gift/treat?
Probably doesn’t want MIL muscling in on the first Mother’s Day.

Back off please.

I think flowers and a card would be lovely (or whatever her favourite indulgence is). Or a trip for some pampering, like a haircut or manicure. You can do it before or after the actual Mother’s Day, so as not to mess with any plans her partner (if applicable) may have.

I think it’s a fantastic idea, and have never understood the one way nature a lot of people have toward Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. I always thought it was to celebrate the mothers in your life that are close (emotionally) to you. That’s why I always balk at, “She’s not my mother!” attitude I’ve seen from partners to justify not doing squat for the mothers of their children.

You go ahead love2travel, it’s such a lovely idea. Lunch with your daughter and grandchild sounds perfect, but whatever you decide she will appreciate it. My grandchildren also give me cards and my children give me Father’s Day cards, as I brought them up on my own. If that’s odd, I really don’t’t care! 😊

It's a good idea for you if you want to do it.
Though I think it is a bad idea if it catches on commercially and we have yet another day of Commercialism, expensive cards flowers etc. We are getting like the Americans.
It's your daughter and her family's day, not yours, mine would be cross if I muscled in as they have cut back on celebrations of a monetary kind. DH can afford a bunch of Daffodils from the supermarket parents or mother sends a huge bunch from a florist, how will he feel?

A treat on Mothers Day for DD or DIL is a very nice gesture. I spoil mine all year around as I appreciate them.

I think its a nice idea, especially as its your dd first mothering Sunday. A photo of her and her child in a nice frame, or even with you in it too, three generations etc, might be nice. How about a letter to your dd telling her about you and her as a baby. Something to keep.

I dont find it strange I think it's a lovely idea. How about a pamper present, perfume or lotions she likes.
Ignore posters who think it's weird, they only say that because they would not do it. As for back of please, what a stupid comment,you are not overstepping you are just making her first Mothers day special.
You are her Mother, perhaps arrange a nice thing to do together after Mothering Sunday, you will both enjoy that.

I think its a really lovely idea love2travel
Motherhood is something to be cherished and celebrated in all its forms. Unfortunately in our society it is hugely undervalued.

When my first grandchild was born, my son in law went to the florists and asked them to make up a posy of really tiny flowers to give to my daughter for her first mothers day. It was the sweetest thing and she was absolutely thrilled. If its your thing, silverlining's idea of a letter to your daughter would be wonderful

I think the partner may want it to be them that organises something from their child if they are around.

If you are buying something from yourself and not on behalf of the child that would different, although cards are usually geared towards mothers from their children.

Personally, I think it is odd but each to their own.

I think presents are often mainly about the giver - wanting to give - rather than the receiver. I wouldn't have liked my Mum to interfere.

Give your daughter and partner a gift on Grandparents Day (a commercial invention) to thank them for making you a grandparent, rather than trying to muscle in on Mothering Sunday.

I think it is a wonderful idea and shows what a caring and loving Mother and Grandmother you are. Don't understand why some people find it strange.

I think it is a lovely idea too

Maybe some people find mothers day sacred to themselves as mothers

I feel its more a day to be shared

My daughters becoming mothers will be such a special thing and I think parenting young children and the sleepless nights and busy days will mean they deserve much more of a fuss than me

I will have already reaped my reward by then having successfully raised my own children