My Daughter's Fiance

If this is a genuine scenario, my advice would be to leave well alone. If you say anything against the new fiancé you will only drive them closer together and risk losing your daughter.

Keep out of it.

I would never say anything bad about him

paddyanne, doesn't "arrogant wee sod" count as something bad? ?

The OP has posted and run anyway so...

Why do users find certain posts to be made up. If this post is genuine and poor person is worried bout her intended SIL, why are you being mean?

Tell her congratulations!

I agree its difficult to watch your children fall in love with someone you dont consider suitable but love is blind so they say. As a mother you just have to hope that you are wrong or be there to catch them when they fall. Hope this advice helps.
PS If you are not a genuine poster MarthaB then just ignore

She will have to find out for herself.

Invite him round for meals as often as you can, she may see him differently in your home setting.
Never criticise him and be kind and nice to him.

Martha, very sound advice from paddyanne.

Bags, I don’t think paddyanne would say that to her SiL, and she has found good points in him.

He knows hes arrogant thats his saving grace...lol.In all honesty he does a very unique job and was the youngest person ever to do it so we let him off for his arrogance,he is a great dad too

posted too soon,I wouldn't say anything to my daughter ,she however tells me he;s an arrogant wee sod

well I guess she knows paddyanne.

I'd say nothing unless you know he is abusive one way or another.

If you make your objections known you’ll most likely fuel her protective instincts and make him seem more romantic. It would be sensible to invite him to your home. You might see a different side to him and find his “smugness” is an act because he realises you dislike him.

Eventually we have to trust our children to make their own decisions and accept they might make choices that we are not 100% sure of.