My Daughter's Fiance

I wouldn't bother as it will probably fall on deaf ears. I am afraid its her choice, maybe she likes the look.

none of your business ,leave them be .If it works and they marry the only person who will suffer will be you if you interfere.If it doesn't work out please dont say I told you so .

For what its worth my SIL is an arrogant wee sod....and he freely admits to being one .He has improved a bit with the years ,we muddle along but I would never say anything bad about him,he loves his wife and daughter and is a great stepdad to her older two ,thats all that counts

Are you a new poster MartherB ?
I think you re the one in need of the talk
Best of luck

Martha I am worried you are giving too much info unless you are using false names? You can ask GN to delete if nec.

You interfere at your peril I’m afraid you have to stand back and see how things pan out.

Her fiancé, her choice, not yours! Whom she chooses is nothing to do with you,

Any advice on to how to talk some sense into her?

Are you serious??? Do you really think she will listen to you? Would you have listened to your mother in the same situation?

For heavens sake!

Is he a bit of a Shrek?

Tell us more, is he rich but dishevelled?

I sympathise.
It's horrible watching your child with someone you can't stand, but there really isn't anything you can do.

Does he live in a swamp?

Have the names been changed to protect our famous PM?

The description fits.......

Offer to buy him a few new tailored suits, shirts etc., send him off to the beauty parlour to get tidied up, all expenses paid by you of course as you're obviously so worried about his appearance. Make sure you tell them how you want him to look by the end.

Perhaps elocution lessons, deportment and a good course on personal grooming? Hand-made shoes always make a difference my Dad used to say.

That'll stop him being smug but sadly, his illegitimacy cannot be corrected.

No sadly we bastards will be uncorrected for life.

She loves him. Why do you think?
Looks really aren’t the most important thing. Smugness is very unattractive, I agree, but what does he do that you judge to be smug? Is it just that he had different political or environmental views and doesn’t simply say “Yes Mrs B. No Mrs B. Never a truer word was said Mrs B”.
It really is in your interests to get on with him and build some sort of relationship. Don’t risk giving your daughter a piece of your mind. You haven’t mentioned financial or physical abuse, him not being your cup of tea is not worth the risk of your daughter and her future husband distancing themselves in the future leaving you out in the cold.
You have a lot to lose here.

I am not sure I believe this thread. I think it might be a have-on.

Princess Fiona meets a scruffy monster. Her parents don't like him, but he drags her down to his level and they live in the swamp.

Is she pregnant?

Sorry to ask but it is important.

Exactly monica the reason for my first post I apologise if Im wrong but I think the original poster is having a laugh

Perhaps the disheveled look is all an act, some men deliberately look scruffy to conceal personality flaws.
Does he have a huge sense of grandiose?
Is he arrogant?
Perhaps he thinks he’s a strong leader and likens himself to an historic leader like Churchill.

Don’t worry too much it could be worse, thank the Lord she didn’t fall for a bearded vegan with a dodgy past and a huge chip on his shoulder.

I thought half term was a couple of week ago?

Hmmm, I well remember my folks disapproving very much of my dh (then an on/off boyfriend) and my mother telling me I’d never find anyone nearly as nice as a former BF to whom I’d given the old heave-ho.

Roll on a few years and dh was golden boy, and remained so ever after.

Bathsheba self-isolation?

If this OP really exists, she sounds like the original MiL from Hell.