Sons aledgedly affair.

The thing is, if you're so upset thinking about your DGS and DGD and how much it would hurt them if they split up, then why would you do anything to trigger that happening?
Say nothing, do nothing, just keep your fingers crossed that they'll sort out their problems. It's hard, but there really is no other way.

Thankyou Nanawind.

DD = darling daughter
DS = darling son
DIL = Daughter in law

I know what DIL means but what is DD and DS and DD all refer to please.

Thank you for all your support, I feel as though I need it at the moment. No I would never inform DIL re rumours. Too much gossip going around.
DD is close to her brother if at the right time comes along she might mention it to her brother but like me doesn't want to rock the boat re their marriage. Silly boy.

Gossip is often after the news. As you say your DS and DDiL did seem to have problems but now seem close. This could be old news that has hung around.

When I was young, single and working I heard rumours that I was meant to be going out with a senior member of staff, I had done, briefly but by the time the rumours started it had been over for months.

Glad you're staying out of it, Nana. DS is not a kid and doesn't need his mum questioning how he runs his life. Besides, as others have said, it might not even be true. Then you would just be in hot water for nothing!

But no-one - absolutely no-one should mention it to your DIL!

On the other hand, it wouldn't hurt for his sister to let him know that people are talking, would it?

Sisters can get away with so much more than mothers are able to!

Oops,

Luckyrose, I think you have misread the OP. Nanawind is the mother of the male in this marriage and I agree with everyone else that she should keep schtum on the subject of her son's possible infidelity. It is never a good idea to get involved in offspring's marriages.

Yes stay out of it but try and drop hints that most women have a secret escape fund. My DD hubby ran up debts and then went off with another woman , divorce is pricey. So she needs to squirrel away some money just in case. I don't know how you can broach the subject unless you encourage her to set up accounts in her and the grandchildrens name without him being on the account. It's probably all gossip or innocent flirting.

It may have been nothing or a fling which has petered out. As PPs have said you're best staying well clear. DD is right.

agree with others, say nothing,it may be all rubbish anyway.

Nanawind It is so hard but you must abide by the rule of a mother...... nose out and mouth zipped.
One of the hardest things ever to have to do.

Thank you everyone for replying, I will try and as DD says keep my nose out. She has said like you all that we could cause more harm than good.
So with that advice that's what I will do. xx

No matter how much you want to know if it's true or not keep out of it as others have said. If you say anything it could damage your relationship.
If he comes to you for advice about it at any time then let him know that you already know. Your daughter might want to have a chat with him though. If they have a close relationship that is.
Try not to worry about the gc and try not to read signs of if they are seeming close or about to split when you see them. They could just be having or had a row like we all do at times.

Agree with everyone else, leave well alone. Afraid it’s not your business.

Mum's the word!

Don't get involved. Full Stop.

Say nothing.
If your DD wants to bring it up with her brother then that is up to her but it is just hearsay.

Noooooooo

Do your best to put this out of your mind

Don't say anything.
It might not be true.
If is is true, whatever you say to him will not make any difference.

Definitely leave well alone, I'd say. There's lots go on in our adult children's lives we know nothing about (remember when you were that age?) and you could very easily have got hold of the wrong end of the stick.

Leave well alone, the messenger always gets shot!

Gossip -"Casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true".

Please try and ignore gossip, it may be from before and they have worked through their problems and moved on.