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Suzieque66 Thu 18-Jun-26 09:02:41

My Daughter swears at her daughter , using the F word ...and now her daughter swears back at her ! Daughter thinks its funny / normal .. What !!!!

Bodach Fri 19-Jun-26 22:53:36

My father's favourite blasphemy, uttered only in the most vexatious circumstances, was "Christ on a bicycle".

Babamaman Fri 19-Jun-26 23:57:15

I hate it the F word is used in public by so many! For some it’s every other word?
Why?
When did it become acceptable?
It makes me cringe !?!
Not nice & not clever
I hate it with avengeancr

nanna8 Sat 20-Jun-26 01:08:11

As my Mum would have said, ‘common’ When we were young it was considered a heinous sin to swear - not even bloody and damn. Good old Methodist background.

Macaydia Sat 20-Jun-26 02:07:00

Mojack26

Disgraceful and not funny! Someone will 'thump' your grandaughter if she says that to the wrong person especially at school! No wonder we teachers have discipline problems... One parent told a member of my staff that if he shouted at her child he,the child,was just to shout right back at the teacher! Says it all I'm afraid....no respect for anyone

Whosoever taught you that children need to be disciplined and shouted at must have been schooled in a distant century. How could a teacher instruct a child by belittling them and showing no restraint of manners or by displaying unhinged emotions? Children learn by following examples and modeling compassion taught by their elders. There is no logic in bullying a child just because of your age or job title. No respect for young humans, im afraid. Maybe those teachers or we teachers need the education.

Karen22 Sat 20-Jun-26 02:33:30

Shock horror......this week my 5yr old granddaughter called her dad (my son) a knob head !
On disciplining her he asked where she had heard that, her reply was her mum 😬.....they are no longer together.

Grammaretto Sat 20-Jun-26 03:13:00

I don't think I have ever heard my DC or DGC swear.
DH never swore either. I shout F* or b****r if I stub my toe 😡 or similar.

I hate to hear all the swearing on the bus - some buses are worse than others when every other word is the F word. It sounds so aggressive to my ears although it's probably just everyday vocabulary for some.

Whiff Sat 20-Jun-26 05:44:17

When I was 16 for careers week went to a nursery on a rough area in the black country. There was this beautiful 3 year old dressed in the most gorgeous dress ,blonde hair, bright blue eyes. I was playing with her then she told me to F off. Heard her tell a nursery teacher she was a Wxxxxx. And another one she was Sxxx for brains . I was shocked but they told me its how lot of the parents talked to their children so that's how the children talked. I am now 68 .

When my children went to school if they swore they had a bit of soap in their mouth. Once at high school let them only say bloody anything worse and they had soap. They will be 43 and 39 this year.

My husband wasn't allowed to say the F word at home and never ever the C word.
I never used the F word until after he died but only at myself still do but not in anyone's hearing . But I let the children use the F word at home. Never the C word in my hearing.

My daughter and son in law don't swear in from their children. Don't know about my son and daughter in law as he estranged all over side of the family 6 years ago.

Still remember telling my daughters eldest when I was changing his nappy to leave his willy alone and my daughter saying its penis mom. The look on her face when he came from nursery and was running around ready for his bath shouting willy wobble . Had to turn round as the look on her face was a picture as I held in a laugh . So she gave up calling it penis.

BlueBelle Sat 20-Jun-26 06:42:50

The f word is no longer used as a swear word by the younger generation it is a filler word like ‘basically’ They don’t recognise it as swearing or think about what it describes

So ‘basically’ it’s a ‘f ing’ filler word It is only a swear word to ours and our children’s generation, to our grandkids it isn’t at all

Bellasnana Sat 20-Jun-26 07:00:33

Just this week tennis player Corentin Moutet used the F word during his post match interview.

The interviewer politely asked him not to use that word whereupon he said it three times, she tried again to appeal to his better nature but he said F, F, F again so she terminated the interview.

He has been fined £40,000.

My own mother used to say ‘balls’ when she needed a swear word. My Nana was horrified and said swearing is ‘lazy talk’. Her strongest expletive was ‘Oh dash it!’

SpinDriftCoastal Sat 20-Jun-26 07:12:13

I was at our local yacht club enjoying a quiet meal with a friend when a self entitled 'young year old' told the server to 'f***' hurry up with the food. I told the self entitled one that she was spoiling my dining experience so she told me to 'f***' orf. I replied: You have a very poor command of your mother tongue. So, she snorted at me!

NotAGran55 Sat 20-Jun-26 07:18:29

Corentin Moutet was rightly fined, but it was very funny 🤣

BlueBelle Sat 20-Jun-26 07:33:15

The problem is when one generation uses it as a normal word without any meaning behind it, it will seem bad to the previous generation who knew the meaning
Bellasnana my mum used ‘balls’ as her go to swear word don’t remember hearing my dad swear but mum was definitely the more fiery one

Calendargirl Sat 20-Jun-26 07:41:49

I hate to hear the ‘f’ word.

To me, it’s about the worst one to hear.

And now it just seems the norm.

harrigran Sat 20-Jun-26 09:12:35

I have never used the F word in conversation and was married before I heard it spoken in the street.
I was a nurse working in a hospital and in the 60s men did not swear in front of ladies.
I am sad to hear young women on their phones effing and blinding while out with their children. My mother would have had a name for them guttersnipes.

BlueBelle Sat 20-Jun-26 09:20:51

You see they are only effing and blinding to our ears they are saying the equivalent to ‘bother’ to them it has no connection with swearing to a young persons ears
We really have to understand that it’s NOT a swear word in 2026 only to old people

petra Sat 20-Jun-26 09:47:13

SpinDriftCoastal

I was at our local yacht club enjoying a quiet meal with a friend when a self entitled 'young year old' told the server to 'f***' hurry up with the food. I told the self entitled one that she was spoiling my dining experience so she told me to 'f***' orf. I replied: You have a very poor command of your mother tongue. So, she snorted at me!

I was a member of The Royal Burnham yacht club for some years. I once heard Ted Heath drop the F word after loosing a race because of some &£#@%-+ idiot
When you say poor command of your mother tongue do you include the likes of Miriam Margolyes ? Educated at Oxford High School and then Newham college Cambridge.

petra Sat 20-Jun-26 09:48:07

BlueBelle

You see they are only effing and blinding to our ears they are saying the equivalent to ‘bother’ to them it has no connection with swearing to a young persons ears
We really have to understand that it’s NOT a swear word in 2026 only to old people

Thank god someone besides me understands that.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 20-Jun-26 10:26:26

petra

BlueBelle

You see they are only effing and blinding to our ears they are saying the equivalent to ‘bother’ to them it has no connection with swearing to a young persons ears
We really have to understand that it’s NOT a swear word in 2026 only to old people

Thank god someone besides me understands that.

Absolutely.

Also anyone who thinks it’s only the lower classes who swear needs to give their head a wobble.

JaneJudge Sat 20-Jun-26 10:33:41

“I think my mummy would have said an adult word”.

that's hilarious grin

JaneJudge Sat 20-Jun-26 10:35:11

young people openly say the c word now, which makes me wince...

Jaxjacky Sat 20-Jun-26 11:10:21

Just words, it’s how they’re used that counts, I’ve heard seemingly innocuous words said with such venom it’s made me wince.

Bellanonna Sat 20-Jun-26 11:10:38

“Swear” words are so much more commonplace.nowadays that I feel they’ve lost the impact they once had. However, I hate to hear any of those words used in their literal since, such as the “f” word snd others describing bodily functions.

Fartooold Sat 20-Jun-26 11:21:10

I have 3 adults with Down Syndrome and the worst they have said is bloody. Mind you last night when looking at the Radio Times one said “what more bloody football”. I feel the same!

Cossy Sat 20-Jun-26 11:29:06

I’m always pretty amazed at the way my adult children (those in their twenties, the two in their forties are completely different), speak to each other and their friends.

They rarely swear at me and visa versa and if we do it’s normally the result of a big row.

They don’t swear in public nor shout in the street, but in the house or online or the phone their language is very blue!

I take the view that they are simply “words”, often the word “very” appears to be replaced with the “f” word.

My own children, all of them, never swore in front of their grandparents, nor do they swear in front of their 11 year old nephew or any of my friends.

I don’t particularly like hearing them swear, but I’m also not shocked or offended.

Cossy Sat 20-Jun-26 11:39:40

BlueBelle

You see they are only effing and blinding to our ears they are saying the equivalent to ‘bother’ to them it has no connection with swearing to a young persons ears
We really have to understand that it’s NOT a swear word in 2026 only to old people

Much as I hate to admit it, I actually like the F word. I like the way it sounds! I like the word cluck to for the same reason.

I loathe the C word though, it doesn’t sound nice at all and no crisp K! My go to word is usually, crap, said several times in succession!