Grandparents name issues

I had one grandmother locally and she was referred to as Nanny ‘Surname’, and to differentiate the other was referred to as Nanny ‘in Birmingham’. Neither of them knew, as to their faces they were each just Nanny. I must admit that I thought for a long while that ‘in Birmingham’ was that Nanny’s surname 😂.

My great grand children have lots of nans, great nans, grand dads and great grand dads. We are all known by our names as well as the granny bit. For example: Nanny Sue, Grand dad Pete, Bampi John (that’s Welsh) etc. The children then don’t get muddled up about who people are talking about. I think it’s nice.

I think that it was Shirley Conran who banned the use of any grandparental name as "it was a status conferred upon me which I did not request"!! I tended to agree. My children's children call me "Mrs D" (they have not yet learned to click their heels!!).

My mother insisted that my grandparents were referred to as "Grandmama and Grandpapa", followed by the surname. Similarly, my children had to address them in the same way (what a mouthful for a tiny!). On the flip side, my former husband's parents were "Grumpy and Frumpy", which suited them!!

Really don't think this is a problem I've always been known as Grandma X and so has my counterpart. Never bothered either of us.
If it's such a problem for you I would just call her Nanny X and maybe this will make her have a rethink about how she refers to you. I would definitely not correct the children, it's not fair to confuse them or involve them in this ill will.

My children have always called their grandparents Nanny or grandad when talking to them but use their names as well when talking about them. All my grandchildren call me nanny, except 2 who call me nanna ( their mum is Dutch) and one who called me bus nanny vecause I once took him on a bus ride. Quite frankly I don't care what they call me as long as they talk to me.

I was christened Barry by our first grandchild who was attempting to say my Christian name I think. This amused our DD immensely and 20 years on it has stuck. I do get some odd looks though when out with them and they called me. I didn’t particularly want to be a nanny or grandma, so at least it’s different.

I’m confused by this, are you saying that she calls you for instance Grandma Joan, or Nanna Emily, what do you want to be called. Mr and Mrs Whatever ?

Some very unfeeling answers here.

We all have a right to be addressed as we please, and the English language has quite a number of designations for grandparents, so it should be possible to sort this matter out IF the grandmother who so rudely has decided what the poster is to be called is told firmly that she is in the wrong.

Failing this, I would make no bones about saying nicely to the grandchild who addressed me in a way I did not like, "no, dear, I am grandma." or whatever your preference is.

You have every right to be called whatever you want. The paternal GM is trying to 'other' you, make you sound less important. Have stern words. If that doesn't work just drop the grandma and call her Sue to the DGC, see how she likes it.

Sorry, should have said drop the Nanna

My Grans were Red Gran because she had a Red dress and Green Gran because she had a Green gate. I chose the names and they stuck for years, even when my children were born. Neither knew my Red Gran but they knew their Green Great Gran.

With three daughters and 3 sets of DGC , first set with my first name because their other GP chose to be called by theirs, and I thought I would be cool. However, the second set and third set call me Granny, which I feel more comfortable with.
My first set suggested that they could call me granny like the later ones but I decided against it, as I wouldn’t be them after so many years.

For one set of grandchildren they have a Grampy and a Grandad and two Nannys - a Nanny Jo and a Nanny Dawn, their mum and dad only add the Christian names when differentiating as to which grandmother they are talking about other than that we’re both just Nanny in general conversation, one the odd occasion when the children do add a Christian name I’m not bothered by it nor by the odd slip when they call me mum by mistake
There are more important hills to die on

I got the same Grannie with name tagged on. I said Grannie will do & that’s what I get called.
Mind you my Grannies were called big Grannie & wee Grannie 😂

We suggested Gran and Grandpa (maternal) and Granny and Grandad (paternal). We thought it would be a clear way of distinguishing them but there was a bit of grumbling as the paternals thought Grandpa was more middle class and weren’t too happy with ‘common’ Grandad. They also insisted that Nan, Nana or Nanny were common and must never be used. They were hyper aware of class and were not happy that I asked if I could use the toilet when I first visited them - answering that I may use the lavatory.

Ah, there are so any class connotations in the English language. It’s a minefield.

I think its up to you what you would prefer . If she is nana then you can just be gran . If she keeps doing it call her nana name (what ever her name is ) as pp suggested . That'll cure her .

My little girl had a Granny Mona and a Granny Jean. She also had a Grandad Eric who lived abroad. But Granny Jean's second husband was always Nigel. He didn't get to be called grandad. Which was significant. She also had great grandparents called Nan and Pop. She once called Pop Charlie and Nan said "You don't get to call him that. He's Pop to you".

Grandma70s

Ah, there are so any class connotations in the English language. It’s a minefield.

So many, not so any.

Why on earth is it a big deal? I can’t imagine minding what my beloved grandsons call me or their other grandparents and step-grandparents (they’re aged 3.4,5 and 10).

I have three great grandchildren, the twins are 7, the little one not talking yet.
The boys decided very early on what we should be called - my daughter is called Nanna Car because she drives to see them and takes them out. I'm Nanna Train because I get to them on the train, and their dad's mum is Nanna Seaside - because she lives on the coast. Simple, eh!

What is a 'partial' grandparent. I don't see what your problem is, sorry

Agree Twiglet7

I, like others earlier, assumed "paternal", Mojack