Grandparents name issues

I have known grannies get most upset when they want to be granny not nanny but the other nanny is already a granny and wants to be granny to be consistent. In that situation you do generally end up with an add on, in our case the grannies were identified by the cities they lived in, not very personal really but it's how it evolved. They are long gone but still referred to as Granny Timbuktu and Granny Gambia (or similar). Anyway l don't think either of my children's grannies would liked to have been called granny-first-name so l can understand why Granny Bunny is so cross. Unfortunately there's not much to be done unless you decide, as someone has suggested, to call everyone their relative status-plus-first-name. Grandson-Harry, Son-in-law-Peregrine etc, then everyone can get equally p*ssed off.

I'm nanny then my name I told my GC they can call me by my name if they want to it's up to them.
I referred to my grandparents as grandma/granddad then their surname. When I think about it now it was old fashioned and very formal and does not sound right.
I'm also referred to as naughty nanny as I tell my GC they can't pull the wool over my eyes as they do their parents. It's family fun and they love it I can't abide formality it does not belong in family.

My grandparents were maternal …nanny and Hossie ( his name was Horace) and paternal granny and grandad
I was Nanny later Nan to five grandkids and Nannyname to my other two as they had another nanny and grandad
It all just happened I didn’t ask

But having said that I really have no idea what your problem is
You can’t both be granny and grandad can you what’s wrong with being grannysue and grandadmark
Perhaps the problem is that it’s been taken out of your hands in which case you need to tell your daughter or son what you want to be known as. Then stick to it

Take delight in seeing the grandchildren………there’s countless grandparents out there that never see theirs for one reason or another.

My mum was always “Nanny Pam” and she liked it (kids’ idea, not ours). She refused to be called granny, though, as she didn’t want to sound old 😁
I love being just granny. Though if you really dislike it, you of course have the right to say so.

I didn't want to be a Nan/Nanny/Nana for exactly that reason, Basgetti, and DD1 loved her grandparents so much that she wanted DH to have that name too. I was called Grandma by default. However, DGS 3 Couldn't manage the mouthful and we became Ma and Pa.

But, to be honest, I wouldn't care what they called me so long as they did call me. I think someone else said that.

I am the opposite to you Kitty I didn’t want to be Grandma or granny I wanted to be Nan or Nanny but had they chosen to call me Grandma or granny I d have got used to it without a thought

NotSpaghetti

The point is though that Bunnny doesn't like it and has asked it to stop.

This.

Nothing to do with being grateful to have GC, how other families are estranged, and how often you see them etc etc.

It’s not up to the other GP what you are called.

I agree, start calling her ‘Nanna Sue’ or whatever her name is, see what she thinks to that.

And gently remind the GC how you like to be addressed.

My mum wanted to be Nana but DS1, the eldest grandchild, called her Anna so that's what all the grandchildren called her. She was christened Alice but always called Babs by her large family. Confusing unless you knew.

Luckygirl3

Happy healthy GC. Honestly just park this and enjoy them. Life is just too short.

Absolutely. Seems to be trying to cause a problem, where none exists.

Is wonder if it will eventually get dropped our surname added to granny and grandad was such a mouthful everyone eventually gave up.

Wind up?

We had a Gran and Grampa and a Granny and Grandad for our children. Everybody happy!

There are good reasons to go with the flow, top of which for me is that no-one should ever use a child as a pawn in a dispute between adults.

Let it wash by for your sake and theirs.

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

I’m with the OP -names matter and it’s completely upto her and her husband what they want to be called unless they’d chosen identical ones to the other grandparents. But regardless, it should be sorted out between the adults and the other grandmother shouldn’t be doing what she is in front of the grandchildren. It’s actually quite passive aggressive behaviour imo

Maggiemaybe

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

My grandmother used to respond to people who described her as my 'Nan', 'or 'Nanna' by telling them she was my Grandma not an old goat.

I think there is probably a regional variation in what children call their grandparents, or was in the past, I am less sure now

Maggiemaybe

I’m just amazed that a thread about grandparent names has got this far without someone sniffing that nanny/nanna is a goat or a paid employee. Must be a first.

My own grandmother was determined not to be called ‘Nana’ until I started chuntering nananana and claimed I was talking to her . She was ‘Nana first name’ to generations of children from that day on. Nobody ever confused her with a goat!

When my first grandchild was born my mother and mother-in-law were still alive, and both called grandma. I thought three with the same name/title would be too much.

My own paternal grandmother had been Granny so I decided to revive that, much to my daughter's surprise!
I love being Granny, and locally others seem to be grandma or more usually nan/nanny so I'm pleased with my choice.
My daughter was happy to go along with it when I explained my reasons.

aggie

Use her name tacked on to Nanna ? See how she likes it

Absolutely!

I always had a Granny and Grampa (maternal) and Grandma and Grandad (paternal)

We are Granny and Grampa.

I wouldn’t be to fussed what small children call us.

My Granny was from Lancashire. My experience is Nan or Nannie or Nana is more used in the South of England.

We live in the South, but I’ll always be Granny.

I've been told (on here) that a nanny denotes a paid mothers' help.

Of course, the children may decide for themselves a name for their nan/gran.
Gangan, noony, nongy...

Call her Ba-nanna