Simple things WOMEN are unable to do!

I too am so sorry you are grieving * whethertomorrow*. I am the practical one in our family and my DH has the brains. I used to turn my hand to most things like decorating and gardening because I had more time. Now in our late 70s we get a man in!

As hubbie's MS worsened, he taught me hów to wallpaper I had already learned to do the painting. Back in the past, I would be able to put on electric sockets which wire to which part. ANything else electric, or plumbing was left to experts. .over the years I decorated every room in ur large, high ceilinged Edwardian house, some several times). I took down a lathe and plaster wall upstairs and replaced it with plasterbard one. Trying to lay a fitted carpet in small bedroom nearly defeated me. I taught myself tiling and did a pretty good job on the bathroom.

Hwever

Soon after DH died I gave away the big petrol mower and bought a battery one, I also left half the lawn as a meadow.
I am gradually making things more manageable for me and am preparing myself mentally to downsize in the next year or so.
I don't hesitate to call in local tradesmen. The electrician/come handyman has a key to my house and the plumber lives across the road.
I pay a fortune to the AA to rescue me if I'm stuck.
I have a lodger who's quite handy too.
All bases covered?

Thinking about what is traditionally considered men’s jobs and women’s jobs I can not help noticing that all the messy, uncomfortable, dangerous jobs are men’s apart from maybe changing baby’s nappies.

My DH still works full time at the age of 80 and now gets very tired so I do a lot at home. Like bleeding radiators and gardening, however I find that with a lot of things if we work together we just about cope with modern life.
I refuse to change the tyre if it goes flat. I ring Start Rescue, and play the poor old granny when it's to my advantage.
So sorry for your loss. I really don't know how I will cope and am trying to arrange things for the best.
Please take each day at a time and look after yourself .
Wishing you all the best.

I am on a steep learning curve whethertomorrow too. 8 months on and I am slowly getting to grips with screwdrivers . We will soldier on together.

You cant just put him in a cupboard and get him out when needed.

That’s what a man shed is for. I would let him out for meals though. 😂

It's so easy to take them for granted. This is a poem I read somewhere. I hope I have remembered it correctly.

"Too soon, too soon comes death to show
We love more dearly than we know.
The rain which fell upon the height,
To gentle to be called delight,
Within the dark vale reappears
As a cataract of tears.
So love in life should try to see
Sometimes, what love in death would be".

I'm so sorry for your loss, Whethertomorrow.

On lighter note, it's a good thing nature gave me two sons. I'm pretty useless with practical things and they are both marvellous.

PS. I hope no-one takes exception to me quoting this poem.
I'm feeling wary now of posting in case I inadvertently upset someone unintentionally. If I have upset anyone, I am sorry.