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Erica23 Thu 02-Jul-26 10:52:52

Hi everyone. Just wanted to see if anyone has the same problem. Every time I start a conversation, this morning it was about DGC homework and their reluctance to do it. We look after them three times a week so are involved with most things.
DH always brings the subject back to his own school experiences 60 odd years ago, I’ve heard the same stories hundreds of times now and could recite word for word what he’s going to say. To say it’s driving me mad is an understatement. I’ve closed the conversation down again because it’s so irritating.
Tell me, am I being unkind, impatient or worse. Don’t hold back.

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eazybee Thu 02-Jul-26 11:17:31

I had a colleague, male, who would repeat the same stories over and over again, usually starting with 'I expect I have told you this before'; we would agree, even repeating the content; he would say yes, that's right, then go through the whole story again. Now on a committee with him, still happening.
Nothing you can do.

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valdali Thu 02-Jul-26 11:22:48

I'm grateful when DH does this as most the time he's monosyllabic or talks to the dog - to be honoured with a story, even if I've heard it 20 times, makes me happy...

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Erica23 Thu 02-Jul-26 12:11:37

DH never says I expect I’ve told you this wish he would then I jump in and say yes you have 🫠
I’m sorry valdali that sounds very difficult, as he always been the same ?

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Debbi58 Thu 02-Jul-26 12:33:27

My husband can be a bit like that , I'm selective now ref conversation with him . I usually know which way it's going to go . Luckily I have 3 sisters to talk too

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fancythat Thu 02-Jul-26 13:50:57

You are not being unreasonable.

I queried a woman gently once about her repeat stories.
She knew and agreed that she was doing it.

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Jaxjacky Thu 02-Jul-26 14:27:54

I would discuss the homework issue with the parents, not your DH, then it would be their guidelines.

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Baggs Thu 02-Jul-26 19:00:12

Jaxjacky

I would discuss the homework issue with the parents, not your DH, then it would be their guidelines.

I think this is a good idea.

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Doodle Thu 02-Jul-26 19:06:49

I would give anything to listen to one of my DH’s stories again. I think everyone does this. I know I do. We all have limited experiences and I’m sure must repeat things over and over especially if you’ve been married a long time.

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Erica23 Thu 02-Jul-26 19:17:35

Doodle I’m sorry. That’s the problem with complaining on here. I love my DH very much, I think some of it is my problem for some reason I’m very irritable at the moment. It will pass.

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Doodle Thu 02-Jul-26 19:52:34

Erica23 please don’t be sorry. I know people complain about their loved ones without really meaning anything by it.
Please treasure every second with your man. Hope whatever is troubling you revolves itself soon. Perhaps you could suggest your husband writes these stories down so they can be shared with your grandchildren. That might keep him quiet for a bit 🤣

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Erica23 Thu 02-Jul-26 20:21:11

Yes we all enjoy a moan don’t we, that’s where Gransnet comes in useful sometimes.
I’ve been thinking about some sort of notebook for a while. I’m also giving him the responsibility of sending birthday cards so he’ll need to write them all down. He’s going to be busy. Thank you.

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