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Dreams that have passed you by?

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MamaCaz Fri 23-Mar-18 09:01:35

Someone on another post mentioned that they had always hoped to move to live near the sea, but this would never happen now. This set me thinking about my own dreams that are now highly unlikely to come true.

When i was a child, my dad used to take me and my brother skating at Bradford ice rink. I never did anyrhing more advanced than going round and round in circles, either backwards or forwards, but loved it, especially the brief speed skating sessions. However, I have always wanted to experience the freedom and (I imagine) exhilaration of wild skating, on a frozen lake or canal. Even as an adult,I longed in vain for a winter cold enough to make this possible. A simple dream, but the opportunity never arose and now I can't imagine it ever will, which saddens me!

What simple dreams have passed the rest of you by?

Eglantine21 Fri 23-Mar-18 09:15:40

Well none, I'm grateful to say. I think I've had a go at most things that I took a fancy to. With varying degrees of success but at least I could then cross them off the dream list!
Gliding was one. I thought it would be like being a bird soaring noiselessly in the sky. In fact it was very hot, sticky and noisy! I didn't do it again.
Not too late to skate on a lake though. In Sweden you can get Zimmer frames with runners that support you as you skate along!

Marydoll Fri 23-Mar-18 09:17:20

My dream was to visit Hong Kong. I had a friend whose husband was a pilot, so she often travelled with him on his trips. I loved hearing about her experiences.
Sadly ill health and a husband who doesn't share my dream has put paid to that.

Grannybags Fri 23-Mar-18 09:56:38

I wanted to fly to Rio on Concorde. Sadly no Concorde now.

My Dad once said I could have a pony.....never happened!

tanith Fri 23-Mar-18 10:01:32

Mine and still is to take a trip ‘downunder’ and drive/fly around for a couple of months but OH doesn’t fly and is now poorly. I still have the dream but it’s becoming more and more unrealistic. Should of done it 10yrs ago.

MamaCaz Fri 23-Mar-18 10:03:06

Eglantine For me to fulfil the wild skating dream, it would have to be free - although I have never thought about it before, I now realize that is part of the dream (once a Yorkshire girl, always a Yorkshire girl, not that I have the means to do otherwise even if I wanted! grin) Just to be able to get up one day, grab my skates (which I probably couldn't get my ever-spreading feet into these days!), and head for freedom and, if i was lucky, isolation, of that illusive patch of wild ice.

Eglantine21 Fri 23-Mar-18 10:10:53

Ah yes, the isolation! I learnt to sail (another long held dream) when I was 50. And the absolutely best bit was just me all alone in my little boat in the middle of the water⛵️
I am a total spendthrift though.....

Teetime Fri 23-Mar-18 10:18:30

I wanted to go to Cambridge (and could have done) but I messed up at school. I have done degrees since but distance learning and missed out on that full time campus based education. I watch University Challenge and dream about what might have been.

stella1949 Fri 23-Mar-18 10:22:47

I had a lot of unfulfilled dreams until 15 years ago when I divorced my husband. I realised then, that most of my broken dreams were the result of my trying to keep him happy instead of pursuing my own goals. I made a list of things I'd been putting off ,and I fulfilled every one of them. Then I got a new husband .

annsixty Fri 23-Mar-18 10:32:12

Australia and NZ were my dreams as well tanith
To my chagrin ,most of my friends have been, some several times as they have family there.
Will never happen now sad
The really sad thing is that my H held most of my dreams back, and now I am in the position of caring for him 24 hours a day, the irony doesn't escape me.

SillyNanny321 Sat 24-Mar-18 09:30:52

I would have loved to go to Monaco for an F1 race, no chance now. Likewise my other dream of Whale Watching!

sarahellenwhitney Sat 24-Mar-18 09:34:05

I had a dream to fly to NY by Concorde. I could afford it so why I did not do this I will never understand.

Coconut Sat 24-Mar-18 09:38:59

I have made a bucket list of all my life’s dreams and am slowly but surely working my way thro them all ... I hope I manage to tick the last box before I kick that bucket !

Carrie7Probet Sat 24-Mar-18 09:41:03

Look at Bamboo tours for over 50s Called young at heart. Small groups, mostly single women or women who’s husbands don’t like to travel. It is inspirational. There is also a Facebook page with peoples travel stories.

coast35 Sat 24-Mar-18 09:45:27

MamaCaz
When I was a child I was a very good figure skater. Our local park has a huge pond and it froze over. We all went skating on it. We enjoyed but it wasn’t like the ice rink. It had little lumps in it and was a pretty rough surface because there was no machine brushing the ice.
Cut it 50 years later and Dancing On Ice inspired me to go skating on our nearest rink. I’d lost the ability to do figure skating but was getting better and better at just skating around until my left leg, where I had pretty sever osteoarthritis, did not folllow through as quickly as my right leg it finished with me doing the kind of action that a man slipping on a banana peel would do. There was a mighty crack heard at the other side of the rink. I was briefly unconscious and had to be stretchered off the rink. I had concussion and a huge lump at the back of my head. My family forbids me to try skating again even though I have a new hip now. It’s a shame because I’m convinced I could do better now. Lol. Keep your dream as a dream it could be that that would be safer!!

Diggingdoris Sat 24-Mar-18 10:06:01

I've always wanted to go on a cruise, but DH never fancied one. Also a trip to New Zealand is on my list. Sadly DHs bad health would not allow travel now even if he was willing, so don't suppose I will ever achieve either dream.

Jane43 Sat 24-Mar-18 10:16:48

Stella1949 what a wonderful attitude you have.

My dreams were to see my grandchildren reach adulthood, be happy in their careers and as happy in their relationships as I have been. Sadly, we have been excluded from the weddings of the two eldest granddaughters and never met their husbands. It is also unlikely that we will ever meet our first great-grandson, born on New Year’s Eve 2017, but we have three more grandchildren in our lives for which we are very thankful and have the same dreams for them.

Theoddbird Sat 24-Mar-18 10:16:56

Never give up on a dream happening. Mine was to live on a narrow boat...a dream that started many years ago. Last year at the age of 66 I made it happen. I now live on a beautiful river...and know what peace there is in silence. Never give up on that dream xxx

GabriellaG Sat 24-Mar-18 10:17:49

Dutch canals were frozen a few weeks ago. The DM printed an article and pictures showing skaters having fun.

palliser65 Sat 24-Mar-18 10:18:54

Well i always dreamed of a house with swimming pool and vast gardens with cedar trees. I did get large Victorian house with several large trees and lots of garden. Guess what? such a relief to downsize to contempory house with courtyard garden. The warmth! the non-existant maintenance bills! the time we have!the freedom from worry over the trees! Perhaps we should only dream .

BRedhead59 Sat 24-Mar-18 10:19:17

Not so much dreams just an acceptance that I'm never going to jump out of a plane, or learn to ski or climb Everest. There are, however, lots of dreams left to fulfill and I shall do my best.

sweetcakes Sat 24-Mar-18 10:20:36

I've always wanted to get a camper van and work my way across Canada camping and fishing for my supper but sadly financially I couldn't and now ill health has finished that dream off completely.

Sheilasue Sat 24-Mar-18 10:22:40

I always wanted to live in suffolk that was my dream when we retired but my son was in a frightening relationship and he wouldn’t leave because of he’s daughter.
So We wouldn’t go as he needed our help so much.
I didn’t regret going in the end We sadly lost our son but have the guardianship of our gd.

gillybob Sat 24-Mar-18 10:23:44

I would love to visit Nashville . I doubt that will ever happen.

hulahoop Sat 24-Mar-18 10:46:46

I have always wanted to live by the sea we have looked at caravans on Yorkshire coast but large site fees put us off !!