Opinions please

I like your answer to him.

Bet you can guess what I think nina.

Unless it's a large amount it won't be worth even taking her to the small claims court and you can threat to ask for half of the money you lent them.

Hope your DD is ok and will stand strong - and kick him in the G**lies given the chance!

Are they still married? I don't know whether that matters but you'd think it might.

Oooo! I'm really angry for you!

Miserable tight ba$tard! I really like your answer. Tell him to stick his nasty threats where the sun don't shine.

Yes kitty I probably can sadly they are at the moment still married.

I hadn't actually thought about them still being married. How can husband demand a wife repay money to him. Oooh, kitty you've made me smile.

What an idiot!. I suggest you fill out a small claims application for the amount owed to you. It is very easily done on line. I did this for a larger amount owed to me by my idiot SIL. I wrote telling him when the claim was going in and that it would include added interest, and posted the letter without an envelope through his girlfriend's door when I knew he was out at football. (He never replies to any correspondence so we have no way of knowing what he has or hasn't read). The day before the claim was to be submitted he paid up! Although the girlfriend is a bi*ch, I suspect she read the letter and was angry with him. I wish I had mentioned the non-payment of child support too! I expect he is bleeding her dry as well!

Love your answer bet that shook him

It has to be shown that the fact that the money was only given on the understanding that it was a loan, not a gift, was made very clear before any money was spent. I think that, theoretically, a verbal agreement is enough to form a contract. But I can't see how a Court would accept that it was a loan without there being any written agreement or any third party to testify that he/she witnessed a verbal agreement being made.

I would invite the ex round to discuss the matter and greet him on the doorstep with a raggy barge pole and proceed to tell him what you are prepared to do with it if he does not b****r off.

Let him threaten! He will have to pay solicitors fees to go to court which will likely be more than he is owed. And go ahead with your request for the repayment of your loan to him. Bet he backs down! He sounds full of it! Idiot!

Our idiot is threatening to take DD 'for every penny' with the divorce, quite forgetting that 1) he has never paid towards the mortgage or utilities when he lived with her
2) it was her house in the first place
3) he pays no child maintenance for his son.
4) he earns more than she does

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It seems unlikely that he could claim back money from someone he's still married to. Where would it end ? Should I ask DH to hand back money I gave him when I was earning more than him?

Our idiot borrowed a large amount of cash for an extension to his house. His parents turned him down because of previous behaviour so they turned to me. The house would be put in joint names and would provide additional bedrooms and a larger kitchen. I said that I wouldn't ask for interest on condition my 2 gc's had their new rooms.
Fastforward! He is a cruel, controlling, verbally abusive b**** and D sees the light. Eventually, with a lot of support she leaves him. 4 years on and extension was still a skeleton. However after my solicitor wrote to him my capital was repaid but no interest ( probably approx £3k). I was talked out of taking it further as D pointed out he'd simply withhold child support until he recovered it.
Now DD and kids in decent house in happy new relationship while his house is significantly less valuable with its unfinished white elephant extension. My cash had been used to prop up his dismal business.
Karma works!

It's good to hear when it does work. Some are still waiting (and hoping) though it isn't my SiL in my case.

I wouldn't even argue the toss with him, just blank him and ignore him, see what he comes up with, from what you have said I wouldn't think he has a leg to stand on either, and he probably knows that. This could all be just trying to wind you all up, so don't give him the satisfaction Good Luck

Illriina We would love to ignore the stupid twat but unfortunately there are children involved and he has residency (nothing legal) Not seeing the children unless she pays is all part of the threat.

Sorry stupid Kindle
Ilrina

That is where they have the upper hand, using the children as pawns. It is beyond despicable. If I remember the background to this rightly he has an army of family fighting his corner, your D needs proper legal standing but this can be expensive and escalate the situation for the worse.

He has residency? but nothing legal in place? I would still say he doesn't have a leg to stand on, although I am no expert in these matters, just trying to look at it from a logical point of view. It is nasty of him to use the Children as pawns here. I feel that whatever happens between adults their main concern should be( In a perfect world), to keep everything as seemingly normal as possible for the Children's sake.
I guess your D does need some proper legal advice to be able to move on. I wonder if there is any financial help available anywhere for this, might be worth looking into, could perhaps make CAB the first port of call, or a Childrens charity, just for advice. what a worry it must be for all of you. I hope it goes as well as it can do, keep us posted