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OK, the Idiot has stopped being funny now!

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kittylester Thu 14-May-15 14:18:50

Apparently, the divorce papers arrived with the Idiot today. I can tell as he has taken to FB to post a less than flattering photo of DD with the comment 'The morning after B (their son) was conceived, in Margate of all places. What a costly s**g that turned out to be!'

I am so cross that I don't quite know what to do! DD is so upset she is watching CBBC under a quilt with the children when she has two cakes that need doing by Saturday am. angry

And, now I'm going to visit mum, so she'd better behave if she knows what's good for her!

Mishap Thu 14-May-15 14:21:00

Worth ignoring - keep DD of Facebook!

Lona Thu 14-May-15 14:31:55

That's horrible! But fairly typical idiot behaviour.

Have you all thought about blocking him from your fb pages, then none of you would see his nasty posts?

Soutra Thu 14-May-15 14:35:17

I am also reminded of a piece of good advice "Don't get mad, get even "
Make sure DD's solicitor takes him for every penny, do NOT be kind or reasonable, and yes, probably block him on FB , what you and DD don't see can't hurt her.

kittylester Thu 14-May-15 14:41:15

We've found it is BEST to see what he is up to as he has put the most appalling things on before and they have a fair few mutual friends.

He hasn't got any money Soutra, he earns a lot, spends a lot on really showy stuff (he did buy DD an ipad last christmas - after they had been apart 6 months) and then goes into a decline when he can't pay his tax bill. They didn't own a house because he had just finished a 'voluntary arrangement'.

Anne58 Thu 14-May-15 14:52:21

kitty the facebook post is absolutely disgraceful! I do hope that you are able to use it in some way to show exactly what a horrid, pathetic example of a supposed man he is! I am VERY angry on behalf of you and your DD.

How on earth would your DGS react if he ever saw that when he was older, and found he had practically been referred to as the result of what the idiot said on FB!

Gagagran Thu 14-May-15 14:56:51

kitty I hope your DD passes this on to her solicitor. What a pathetic excuse for a man he sounds.

Brendawymms Thu 14-May-15 14:57:39

Take the Pratt to the cleaners, it could not happen to a 'nicer' man. Your DD will be well rid of him. Once he finds that the grass in the next field is not greener but full of flees, ticks and other nasties your DD will be free of him.

Grannyknot Thu 14-May-15 15:01:33

How appalling. To me that is a real "facebook fail". Can't it be reported in some way? What a horrible person.

annsixty Thu 14-May-15 15:23:24

SO so sorry kitty for you and your DD. How can someone humiliate the mother of their children and by inference their own son? Cruel beyond words. My own soon to be ex SiL is a model of tolerance and reason compared to the ones I read about on here.

Eloethan Thu 14-May-15 16:16:20

I am disgusted at someone writing such a cruel and crude remark on Facebook. He really has shown himself to be a despicable person and I would hope that even some of his friends and acquaintances might be equally disgusted.

POGS Thu 14-May-15 17:06:16

Kitty

What a s--t!

He just can't grow up, as you are well aware the same as our 'idiot'. Ours has told our GD she is going to America for a holiday next year for daddies wedding but he hasn't got any money, obtained leave from school without daughters knowledge [mad] and let's her down so many times when it comes to having her for the week end it's causing her issues.

Pair of prats for sure but hell yours is a nasty piece of work doing that, wouldn't be so nasty if the children were older and could see for themselves what he is doing, cowardly man.

Nelliemoser Thu 14-May-15 17:16:45

Oh kitty (((hugs))) your poor daughter. I don't know what to say.

Well I know what I would say but given that your idiot has no shame, it's going to be hard to get at him, as he clearly would not worry about showing himself up as the A* H* he is and might make even more trouble.

Could you daughter's friends and ?siblings make sensible and measured condemnation of his nastiness?

Greenfinch Thu 14-May-15 17:18:10

How hurtful words can be. What a nasty piece of work he is. Your DD will be well rid of him.

loopylou Thu 14-May-15 17:24:31

He's shown himself up as a total (insert whatever expletive you like).
I can understand how upset your DD must be but ignoring him and maintaining a dignified silence might speak louder than words?

Let him carry on making a complete a..h... of himself, he sure is an expert at it!

Iam64 Thu 14-May-15 17:32:27

I do feel for your daughter but how can this man leave a post like that which his own child may one day read. Shocking

kittylester Thu 14-May-15 18:20:05

Thank you all for being cross with me! One of my brothers keeps emailing me with new expletives which make me blush

I am now cross with DD (but not saying anything!) because, although she was very young, she has also always been very 'savvy' about people. But, I'm cross with us for not telling her we were worried about the relationship! sad. And, Mrs Bucket kicking in, embarrassed about DD having married such a twerp!

Anne58 Thu 14-May-15 18:23:35

kitty , I'm sure that you meant others being cross along with you, rather than being cross with you much love, M'dear!

Anne58 Thu 14-May-15 18:24:38

PS Would it help if I invoked my previous "curse", but with knobs on?

kittylester Thu 14-May-15 18:58:13

Yes phoenix to both! I'm a bit fraught!! Igrin. Thank you for the love!! Xx

NfkDumpling Thu 14-May-15 20:06:17

Surely your DDs 'mutual friends' will now cut The Idiot dead? They can't possibly stay neutral when he's being that nasty.

Vibes of support coming your way to help you all stay strong, dignified and aloof from this immature twerp.

Lona Thu 14-May-15 20:32:09

kitty even if you'd told her that you were worried, she probably wouldn't have wanted to know. They do have to make their own mistakes, even if we have to help to sort out the mess!

loopylou Thu 14-May-15 20:35:21

That's what mums are for!

GillT57 Thu 14-May-15 20:45:40

This has to be saved and shown to your DD solicitor. After he has been cleared out in the courts, your DD has got custody and a divorce, I would then ring HMRC and report him for tax dodging. I understand that a tax inspection is more traumatic than a divorce........

ninathenana Fri 15-May-15 00:23:42

I agree with everything that's been said.

Lona is right she wouldn't have listened at the time. I had that conversation with DD but she was young and convinced she was doing the right thing.

kitty promise me you won't let the idiot make you feel embarrassed or guilty. Our DD' s made mistakes. I'm sure they have both learned from them x