Excluded from holiday planing

Oh dear - I'd be so cheesed off I may just decide to book a holiday I really want.
Does he usually do this kind of thing? Was he trying to give you a wonderful surprise? Men!

He wouldn’t of gotten as far as booking it without my input if he were my OH. Unless he actually did it without telling you?

At least he has done something - my OH has never ever ever had anything whatsoever to do with the job of booking holidays!

Has your OH told you where you are going? Doyou likeit? If so, I should just go with the flow and be thankfulhe has some initiative! But then say you would like to be involved in the choice next time.

Maybe it's a special holiday and he wants to surprise you. Give him a break! Poor chap if he left it to you he would be in trouble and if he does it all he's in trouble.

It depends where it is. Whisked away to the Caribbean- great. Bird watching group in the British Isles. A different kettle of fish.

If it’s any consolation the lover took me for a weekend watching his favourite sport for my birthday.

Oh, how wonderful

DH has only ever booked one weekend away for us in 50+ years - how I long for him to research, plan and book a lovely holiday for us.


Just enjoy it

If my DH announced he'd booked a holiday for us I'd drop down dead in amazement.

Trophy person?

I'd have to pick myhself up off the floor too.

Mind you, DH might not pick the hotel I would like .....

My chap would suggest but leave the final decission to me as long as he was in walking distance of a good bar for wine & tapa's he is a happy chap.

Do you not like surprises or do you just like to be in control? I love it when my husband surprises me with holidays he has booked without me knowing where or what is! It’s an adventure superqueen. I would just ask “what do I need to pack”. Go with the flow and IF it’s not what you would have chosen, you may find you really enjoy it. Do let us know how you get on ?

Could it be that he knows you so well that he doesnt feel the need to consult you.

Agree that if the holiday is not one you would have ever chosen and is more 'his' type of holiday that is not very nice but if it is somewhere you both like I'd go with the flow.
My DH has often booked surprise city break holidays for special birthdays/anniversaries and we have had good times & I have also done the same for him!

I wouldn't object if someone planned a holiday for me. Though I've been the family equivalent of Thomas,Cook for so long I might actually find that I don't like not being in complete control....

I would trust DH to do something like that. He knows the kind of holidays we enjoy. He quite often does research ideas for holidays that take his fancy, and usually mine as well and we have a very brief discussion before booking.

Is there more behind this than him just booking a holiday without saying anything? Is it a question of always controlling or trying to rescue some control, or being upset or angry about something?

Reading between the lines your last question ‘am I just a trophy wife’ indicates he has booked something to do with his hobby and not a holiday you will enjoy
You ve kind of left us guessing with half a story has he booked a golfing car racing or some other sport related or (his) hobby holiday ?
Please come back and fill us in or else it’s pointless to keep guess answering you

Ha, ha, just booked a short trip away. DH on the sofa ‘helping’ me to choose.
This translates into ‘ yes that looks good’ as he tries to watch that motorbike chap on the TV!
Still I get what I want with the added bonus that if I’ve booked a horrible hotel we both get the blame.
He booked a surprise weekend years ago and we ended up in a smoking room, back in the day. We probably knocked years off our lives!

I would be thrilled if my husband booked a holiday. I sometimes feel like his glorified secretary - would much prefer to be a trophy wife!!

After 43 years being married, my DH booked the first holiday EVER for the two of us this year. Whilst I would have preferred to go somewhere different, I appreciate the thought and it was nice not having to spend hours trawling the internet trying to fit accommodation & flight availability together with him on the sidelines making helpful remarks like "can't you find an earlier flight?"

When I was browsing I was, after all the publicity, aware that the prices were going up when I had a second look at a flight or hotel.
Getting rid of the cookies seems to work.

Has he booked something he thinks or hopes you will like?

Do you often feel sidelined by your DH's attitude to you?

You may have spoilt the 'surprise' Superqueen - however, if it was me I would like at least a week's notice so that I would know what to pack.

And if it was going to be a leaky tent on a windswept hillside then he would be going on his own.

ps hope your passport is not out of date

I would have loved it. I know he would have had both our interests at heart. Did it happen? No. He always participated in the concept but never the finer details.

Oh thank goodness I'm not the only wife whose husband has never ever even suggested we should have a holiday, let alone book one. I've had to arrange every one we've had together in 50 years. I have had a few without him and sadly they've been the most enjoyable.