Funeral outfit

I haven’t been to many funerals possibly half dozen in my lifetime thank goodness but each time it’s been black trousers black jacket black silk blouse and black and white scarf with butterflies on, I think a lot of people now seem to be very relaxed in their funeral attire, the previous funeral I attended a couple wore jeans I was actually shocked

Black with white is totally acceptable elusivebutterfly. Please don’t worry about it. I wear a dark blue dress in summer, grey and cream in the winter unless a particular colour is requested. Most funerals seem much more relaxed in terms of what clothing is expected than they used to be, even five years ago. Hope the funeral goes as well as it can.

Midgey...Not a typo....Its what we say in Scotland for any kind of get together where there is food after an event...

families tend to give guidance on what to wear here .When my freinds 25 year old died they wanted everyone to wear something bright ,I wore a pink scarf with a navy dress ,yesterday was the funeral of a neighbours 44 year old who we've known since he was 12 ,we were told to wear whatever we'd have worn to meet him for a pint .
There have been far too many recently ,I hope there are no more for a long time

Thank you all for your advice.

I tend to wear grey or navy blue in summer mainly because I don't have formal black clothes for this time of year. Black in winter but relieved with a lighter, not brighter, scarf or top.
I hate wearing bright colours at funerals; it just doesn't seem right.

Sounds fine to me .
If concerned - why not ask ?
Maybe , I'd buy or borrow a simple black top .

My daughter’s friend died recently at the age of 46 (cancer) and left “no black” instructions. Animal print and orange were her favourite so that’s what most people wore. Not the gaudy(tacky) prints but subdued colours with perhaps an orange handbag or chunky bead necklace. It was very ‘her’