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Friends Becoming Distant

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Citygirl1 Mon 12-Oct-26 13:29:04

Does anyone find that some friends have dwindled and become distance or awkward?

I have always had a good circle of friends which I still have to a degree but a couple of them have become distanct.

One of them met a friend on holiday two years ago which is great, I make other friends too but I don't push out my long standing friends. She has done this with me. She doesn't contact me despite me having reached out to her so I now I no longer persue her. She is on Facebook out with this friend all the time and never contacts me.

Another long standing friend is always in contact with me because she has become very awkward and self centred since joining a walking group. I am pleased for that she has this, don't get me wrong, but every time we meet she insists we go for long walks and is critical of the things I like to do so I find that, although we are in touch, I am wary of meeting her now because she is so critical.

What do you do with friends like this? Do you hold onto them just to keep your circle larger?

Citygirl1 Mon 12-Oct-26 13:31:11

Sorry for the typos, I am rushing this to get back to work.

Shel1951 Mon 12-Oct-26 13:32:37

I would get rid,concentrate on your real friends, those you have something in common with.

Cossy Mon 12-Oct-26 13:34:49

Yes, and it was sad but we’ve moved on

Fallingstar Mon 12-Oct-26 14:17:28

Friends do come and go over the years but I have a couple of steadfast friends, sadly they don’t live near me. As our lives change I find our group of friends do too. Is not a bad thing is just life. Wouldn’t really worry about this too much, if you find friends distant or awkward just hold onto those closer to you that you have more in common with.

MT62 Mon 12-Oct-26 14:21:59

Yes get shut if you have other more positive friends.
I don’t let people live rent free in my head anymore.
Life is too short.