How would you have felt?

More info needed

What trouble is caused?

A querulous atmosphere in the home between the girl’s parents.

It’s a tad difficult to base an opinion on 3 sentances.

Is this what happened/ is happening to you?

There's much more to it than this short interaction.

It'd depend on who I was in this scenario.
An onlooker?
The child?
The parent?

Have they made those comments at separate times?
Could it have been said at the same time in the heat of an argument?

Poor girl.

Sounds like the child may be scapegoated or blamed for problems the adults are ignoring. However, more context is needed. If the child has been skipping school and shoplifting or something, then complaining about consequences the family is having to deal with, it could be fair that she is the cause of the problems she is having to deal with.

Thanks for your responses.
The young girl was me, now pushing 80 years of age and the remarks were made on different occasions. I hadn’t done anything wrong and was certainly not a social problem or lawbreaker. I had a great sense of duty yet never seemed to succeed in pleasing them. Even in her last days my mother found my presence an irritation.
Why does it still bother me after all these years you may ask? Somehow one never forgets these hurts. There were no telephone helplines in those days and I am still trying to fathom out what was going on in my parents’ minds.

They were just horrible people SingingRabbits💐 and you were very unlucky, put it down to that.
Parents come in all kinds of guises and it’s all down to luck which we get.

Please let this go SingingRabbits, they are long gone and so are their cruel comments. Don’t let this define you now. For your own peace, focus on today 💐

I’m so sorry you had to endure that, SingingRabbits. It’s easy for us to say “forget it and move on”, but you were the one suffering that verbal abuse. I do hope, though, that you can try to let it stay in the past - you were not the problem, they were. As Astitchintime says, try to focus on today - try not to let their cruel words eat you up. 💐

We have to let these things go although it is hard as they feed into our sense of self worth at a critical age.
My mum told me she tried the gin and hot bath routine when she found she was pregnant with me .... too much information Mum!

Im very sorry you had such awful parents . Please allow yourself a few tears for the little girl who had to put up with such remarks . I know I shed a couple this morning on her behalf . Then be proud of all she has achieved since .

I would like to wager such comments were never said in front of anyone It’s easy to say move on but these thoughts have a habit of popping into your mind when you least expect them Try to have a positive thought to try and block it when it does

One of our sons has a lovely gf.

They live together.

Her mother told her constantly that she and her brothers were the root of all her problems and she wished they’d never been born.

She grew up hearing this frequently.

Mum was the victim of multiple partners domestic abuse, but this does not excuse this.

They have a stable relationship now, but 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

So many people had a parent or parents who were unsuitable to be parents. The comments hurt and were meant to hurt. Why they were said will be a mystery.
The only way to triumph over the hurt is to make sure everybody you engage with, especially your own children, feel wanted and valued by you. It's the only way; let good to triumph over bad.

Apologies if this is way off the mark, however an elderly lady I knew had a childhood that could be described in a similar manner.

She was the result of an affair between her father and another woman; his wife agreed to take the baby in and raise her.
The elderly lady was aware of her situation within the family and never quite felt she belonged or was good enough.
Even in her old age and with a family of her own she had a lot of unresolved feelings of bitterness, about everything really.

The comments you remember just made me wonder if there was more to it than you were aware of?
Like I said, if that's way out of line I apologise and am happy for this post to be removed if you wish.

How some things stick in your mind don't they even after many years. Sorry your parents were so uncaring SingingRabbits.
Have to admit to being a bit puzzled by your natural born child comment.

Poor child, horrible parents. Some people don’t deserve children.

I had a friend whose mother conceived her at the age of 40 during the war. When the mother was really old, the girl looked after her till she died and the mother said to her: I wish you were never born! I think many people in those days could be very harsh. It was the way they were brought up, possibly in very religious homes or places where one of the parents was a bully or indeed both. Know your place. Children should be seen and not heard. Do as you are told.

That could have been my parents.

“I rue the day you were born and guttersnipe you will end up in the gutter” were the favourite ones!

A mother who was a narcissist and a narcissistic father with a very violent streak, I had no chance.

They were both very low in emotional intelligence and should never have had children.

Today I would have been removed and put in care.

Thankfully they are both dead now, my life is so much better.
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Sorry I didn’t answer your question, yes they wanted the child but for all the wrong reasons.