Just need some perspective. I ended a five year relationship as I felt totally burnt out with life stress and I just could not talk to my partner about my feelings. He is really good practically but if I am upsrt about sinething or tearful. He just checks out - used to reassure but now checks out. He is 8 years younger than me. I am 60. I am about to semi retire and just work 2 days per week. It will cover living expenses and not much else but I am happy to do this. He wants holidays, meals out. I have two young adult children that I have been supporting through college - last ine finished in April. I have been trying to think about my own financial future so close to retirement. No pension so will have to work part time until 66 - living in Ireland now. I am trying to think what savings I will need for next 6 years to top up my part time income as well as if I can eventually help my children out with a deposit for a house. My partner has no children, but from trying to sort finance issues out my partner said I was obsessed with money and finances. I found this really hurtful as I have been carrying all finances and all responsibility for my children since they were 3 years and 18 months old. He never apologised for this. He refused to discuss any issues, just deflected and then joked about me needing him to be there for me or at least check in with a text or phone call if I am upset. He shuts down for any discussion, so I knew that I would not be able to end the relationship via a closure discussion - my preference if he met me half way would have been to try and resolve issues - so I texted him to say the relationship was not working for me amd I thought we should end it. He texted back that he it was heartbreaking and he would always love me and he had just though that over tine things would go back to the way we were. I texted back that I had tried several times to discuss the issues with him to try and resolve them and I felt they could be resolved, but that he hadn't wanted to discuss them. I said I felt resentful that he had noticed the distance between us but had not tried to reach out. After this text, there was nothing, no further communication after 5 years. No response to my text at all. I would welcome some perspectives.
