Husbands

The husband of a friend of mine was super fit, cycled most days, out gardening etc. And they went away with their caravan regularly. Then he had a heart attack and subsequently heart problems. He rarely goes anywhere now and admitted he had lost confidence and wanted to be close to a clinic or hospital in case it happened again. Could it be that?

A stroke can completely change a person. Afraid you will have to give him time to adjust.

Probably depression, a sudden illness when you’ve been going along quite happily makes you feel vulnerable and start to think about mortality in a way you’ve never done before. I had something very similar, although not a stroke, there’s a daft logic something along the lines of ‘if I sit here all day, in my own familiar surroundings I’m safe and nothing bad will happen’.
My way out was counselling, CBT, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, it was done online with Zoom as lockdown made me worse and I had to do something. It’s taken four months and was hard, but I hope I now have coping strategies and feel a million times better. Best of luck, it’s tough on you too, my husband was very supportive.

Giving up the cigars is not a bad idea after a stroke but it would be more healthy for him if he carried on with his exercise. Is he feeling depressed after the stroke?
Must be worrying for you Gingster. Maybe have a word with his GP.

Could he be depressed? That can happen after a stroke and changes kin personality. Would he see his GP?