Porn

even housewives take part with their husband's blessing

Where on earth to start with this?

Yes interesting that those who seem to be cheerleading porn have some really old fashioned beliefs.

Certain types of porn are very extreme and once seen can not be unseen.
I have it on good authority from a partner in the medical profession that repeated anal intercourse [sodomy] can and does indeed cause incontinence as the years go on.
I think there are too many people who like to think they are being wonderfully open minded and unstuffy and advocate porn as being 'unharmful'....who are completely naïve about the sordidness of the industry and how it has the potential to degrade [already damaged] women and has the ability to alter previously healthy sexual relationships.
I refer to cases in couples I know/have heard of.
Personally I hate it and it's affect on the gullible society.

Grandad today at 08.50 - why is it so amusing to you that the porn industry is the only area of work where women earn more than men?

Exploitation takes place in every industry. People are forced into slavery across the world for a variety of reasons not just sexual. You seem to assume that virtually every woman who works in porn is forced into it. Strange as it may seem many women choose to work in an industry which pays good money for very little effort. I've had three friends who worked in the sex industry (1 man and 2 women). None felt as if they were being abused or humiliated.

What about the couples who upload homemade videos? Are all the women forced to perform in those? What about male on male porn? What about female on female porn? Not all porn is violent. A lot is simply about giving and receiving pleasure.

Anal sex is not a new practice. The ancient Babylonians, Greeks, Romans and the Moche practised it thousands of years ago.

Iam64, in regard to your post @19:38 today, perhaps if you gained yourself just a small sense of humour you would see that post I made and to which you referred to was indeed a joke.

Simple as that.

Lots of problems for young gay men in the industry vampire.

Grandad, was your comment ironic then?

Iam64, yes.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Very funny, Grandad.

vq - are you absolutely sure that the porn you watch is free of exploitation? What steps do you take to ensure that? What proofs do you demand?

Nothing wrong with a bit of porn - my husband and I used to watch it together in our younger days, now he watches and I read (and I will guarantee what I am reading is far filthier than any porno film). Why do so many people think women are being exploited because they choose to be in a porn movie? Its extremely well paid (for the women) - men get paid next to nothing, so who is exploiting who? Does anyone really think that most men have a penis of the size often seen in pornos? QED most men and women realise that its complete fantasy and has no bearing on reality, or real relationships. If your partner is into porn, why not find some that you can watch together? There are a growing number of female porno directors who make porn that is accessible to women, as well as men. I would be more bothered about the fact that your husband laughs at your attempts to seduce him - this is not a sign of a healthy relationship, with or without porn.

I wouldn’t say it’s entertainment ‼️ He’s a warm blooded male.. why not ask if you can watch it together? I find it gets him in the mood for hot sex. If you feel uncomfortable about watching porn I can’t see that it would work to turn your horniness up a notch. By watching together. I used to feel soo jealous when my partner was watching it but eventually I looked at it as a way of making our sex life better as there’s things you see that you may not of tried and it can bring you closer together. I totally get it if you don’t agree with me though. This is just my experience.. I wish you all the best anyhoow x

Porn is a form of literature, or imagery.

If you excuse or praise porn because it titillates, do you excuse all literature or images, true or not, because they titillate?

Cannot you see porn tell lies about human behaviour?

Rude-gal, you say why not - ask- if you can watch it together,
OP probably would have suggested it if she really wanted to, but it doesn’t sound like she does .
Warm blooded man? So woman are still expected to ‘ please ‘
are they ?

Alexa, are you saying people don't have sex in all it's many forms? We don't all like sex in the same way but anything goes if both/all participants (over the age of consent) are happy with it. I know someone who's boyfriend canes her. She enjoys it and loves the patterns he lays down. That amount of pain doesn't appeal to me but they've both happy with it so who am I to judge. I have another friend who is into role play. Again not my thing but if they want to play Lady Chatterley's Lover that's up to them.

Oddly enough, I couldn't tell you what kind of sex my friends, my sisters or my adult children have. Boundaries about sexual behaviour are part of a healthy emotional life has been my personal and professional experience.

Vampire Queen, I am saying titillation is not bad but titillatory
communications are incomplete to the extent of lying.

Sex is an important part of life . Pornography implies life is all about gratification.

Porn , like old style Mills and Boon novels , is a 8false picture* of sexual relationships. If titillation in a story is part of a meaningful story it's okay but if titillation is all there is then it's a lie because gratification is not all there is.

false picture

PS many people understand porn is just fun and not to be taken seriously. Some other people especially children and unsophisticated adults may believe all sexual relationships are like that all the time.

Seems to have developed into different issues here. Alexa nobody disagreeing with that about children and young adults, but the original poster is talking about her husband of a certain age and non of us know what he was actually watching (or have I missed that).

Like watching murders/ thrillers on t.v. I think most people can distinguish between fact and fiction? I don't advocate hard core porn in any way (by that I mean anything illegal, extremes) but don't find two adults getting it on too upsetting or offensive.

Does depend on the person though so if smedleyswife finds that smedley's habits are so repulsive that she cannot stand living with him then she knows what she needs to do. If she doesn't really know what he is looking at then I would suggest she has a look.

Maybe he is lying because he knows how much she would disapprove? Maybe she has every reason to disapprove? Maybe it is just harmless fantasising? Surely everybody fantasises in some way? How many people act on it?

Doesn't really matter what anyone else would find acceptable or unacceptable.

Well of course it does in a relationship. Dh is perfectly entitled to join the BNP or decide to up sticks to Australia I am perfectly entitled to say that doesnt work for me.

Jason Statham yuk

Another case of misunderstanding Galaxy I was talking about what anybody finds acceptable/unacceptable on Gransnet. Not within the relationship!