This is my first post. I am 57 and divorced. It's been a difficult few years but I finally feel ready to meet someone new. I would love to find a new relationship but I have no idea how to go about it. First time round we were all in our early twenties, everyone around was single, there were parties and lots of opportunities to meet new people. My life is so very different now and I rarely meet new people and when I do they are invariably women. How can I find a nice man?
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(45 Posts)Try ClassicFM website - they have a meeting people scheme - and many listeners are of a similar age to you. dating.classicfm.co.uk/s/
When I look back over a near life long involvement with the SNP, I see dozens of relationships/marriages which developed because of this shared interest. I'm not suggesting for one moment that you join the SNP just pointing out that there are many widowed/divorced/single people of both sexes involved in special interest groups, where there is the opportunity to get to know someone gradually while pursuing a shared interest.
The internet might be a thought. I know lots of people who met that way. Good luck.
I met my second husband via a newspaper ad. We have been happily married for 13 years.
Good luck.
colabottle you have got to be what Americans call 'out there' if you don't go to places, try new things including social and sporting groups you are closing yourself off to opportunity. Internet dating works for some but people used to meet each other before then. Have you got a girlfriend you could go out and about with? Courage mon brave!! Good Luck.
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PS Do I live near you if so I'll come with you.
I met my second husband at a singles social club. Great way to get to know people as he was just my friend for a year or so. Google singles social club and see what. Is in your area.
I met my 2nd husband via the Internet and we had 10 very happy years together until he died very suddenly 6 months ago.As long as you take the necessary precautions to keep yourself safe, it is a really good place to meet someone new.
There are a few good men in amongst a lot of "frogs" so take your time. I sifted through a lot of undesirables until I found my "prince" and believe me, he was worth the wait!
Good luck
I am in a similar position, newly retired and been on my own for 20 years although was engaged during part of that time. I have found the internet is a minefield! I do voluntary work and have friends but never seem to meet new people. This last few months has been dire being stuck in the house because of the weather!
I have been on my own for 30 years, and have just met the perfect gentleman at a table tennis club!
I went on the next village along's annual coach trip to Barry Island... and came home with the coach driver, after years and years of being alone and never meeting anyone, just get out there, go do something different, you'll be surprised I am sure! :-)
I know exactly what your saying Colabottle.
I am in the sam position as you and it’s much different to date nowadays as we all have a past and so as the other person
So Ill follow this post with interest.
Have been online to date but not for me.
I have just met a wonderful man via the internet (dating site). MeetUp is also a good way to get out and meet people...google it. You put in your post code and the type of things you are interested in and they send you information about groups in your area.
Teetime has absolutely nailed it - get out and DO things! It could be voluntary work, U3A, WI, or salsa dancing. Anything you enjoy and where you meet people. And don't rule out "women only" groups. Other women have sons, brothers, friends.... In my experience love can turn up when you're busy making other plans. Good luck!
Three people I know have met new partners via Guardian Soulmates and are very happy and in two cases, happily married. If your views line up more with e.g. The Times or the Telegraph, better to try them. Also Saga has something for introducing older people. Good luck!
Oh MibsXX - are you with Dave Coaches?
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I was divorced aged 46 and it was painful how all the couple's we knew suddenly didn't want to know a single woman. It's not easy making new friends especially potential partners.
I started going on group walking holidays three years ago and I have now met three couples who got together after being on the same holiday. Its a lovely way to easily chat to people whilst tramping along and you dont have to choose a holiday where you walk miles, some of the lower graded ones are little more than the type of pottering you would do on a sightseeing holiday.
I met my second husband via the internet and I'm so glad I did. I was very lucky as he was my first and last internet date. These days people seem to meet for coffee initially before a formal date, which I think is a great idea. You do have to be aware of your safety when meeting someone for the first time and be prepared for a few 'frogs' to come along, but even if you don't meet 'the one', I'm sure you'll make friends. Good Luck.
A very good friend of mine has twice found herself in this situation. the first time she met someone in the pub where she liked to hang out. she was with him for 20 years, and when he died two years ago after a long battle with cancer, she eventually embarked on a relationship with a neighbour who was good at household tasks! My friend is in her late 60s, not particularly glam., but she loves to socialise and has that warm sort of personality that means everyone loves her! So get out there, get out and about, and smile!
I met my 2nd husband through a newspaper add, not sure whether they still exist as I think internet dating has probably taken over. We had 16 wonderful years together, almost 11 of them married, when he died suddenly 101/2 years ago. Now 61 I haven't reached the point where I want to meet anyone else, but I work full-time am a Leader at 3 units for Girlguiding as well as being a Section Advisor, I am choreographer at an AmDram Society and have a fantastic group of friends (some married, some divorced) who I meet up with regularly for evenings in and out as well as an annual long weekend break( days) away with them. Maybe at the moment I don't have time for anyone. I hope you are successful colabottle and enjoy looking x
Friends have used Dinner Dates and met some really nice people. I met some of them and really rated the maytchres. One couple have noe been together for nearly 20 years and we have become very fond of her.
They arrange dinners in a restaurant with like !index singles, change the seating once or twice, at worst you have hard Avery nice friendly evening and a lovely dinner.
I know four women who have met a permanent partner through I think the Telegraph, and I think it also links with the Guardian and others. The Royal Academy used to have a dating site, don't know if they still do.
Goodluck, hope you find your prince
A word of warning - if you like the idea of Dinner Dates, check out the prices, you need deep pockets!
colabottle
When I lost the love of my life, and after the initial grief, from time to time I contemplated their being another in my life. It would be impossible to replicate the many years I had previously experienced and it was my memories of that life that outweighed the thoughts of new experiences. I was older than what you are so this may also have added to my reluctance for starting again..
Go for it as from your experiences, unlike myself, you will find it far easier to dismiss your past.
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