Sir Ranulph Fiennes

Narnia, you are right, he is no threat to anyone anymore, however are people a threat to him? He may have death threats on him, for things he partook in decades ago.
Moving him, changing his name, may be protecting his life that some nutter, extremist, foreign entity is actively threatening , what do we, the public know? Nothing….. as it should be.

Surely this must be being investigated, or at least that is what I imagined was the case. If family and friends are genuinely concerned for the wellbeing of Ranulph I would have thought they could ask the police to do a welfare check.
All it really needs is for his wife to give one clear statement about her husband and permit at least another family member to visit in order to put rumours to bed. After all she is married to a famous man whom the public have great affection for, as well as others in high circles who befriended him along the way. If he were just an ordinary person she might get away with it but in this case is next to impossible.

From the reading I have done, it rather sounds like the wife has issues of her own. It doesn't have to be dementia but could be some form of paranoia. It does rather seem that she has always been very private and her husband almost lived 2 separate lives once she came along. I do think it should be thoroughly investigated and it shouldn't need a legal case for the OPG to investigate urgently as it should with anybody raising these sorts of concerns.

It also seems odd that she can insist on what medication RF takes. Once my Mum entered a Nursing Home, they would not allow anybody to give her any medication which was not properly prescribed, not even over the counter drugs which she had taken for years. Perhaps it is different in a Care Home but I am surprised that there hasn't been an investigation for drugs which were allegedly prescribed for her. That is an offence even if it is for something that is sold over the counter.

If his wife is concerned about his safety surely his home would be one of the easiest places to make safe. There are masses of systems for protection and staffing would be more individual than possible turnover in care homes. Sounds extreme behaviour by his wife.

It can and does happen.
I knew of an elderly lady, resident in a nursing home because her children worked abroad; they held POW and visited as frequently as possible.
A close friend (whom I did know) appointed herself unofficially as Carer and gradually insinuated herself in the Nursing home, visiting all day, every day. Gradually she prevented other friends from visiting, claiming the patient did not want visits, began supervising and criticising the way the staff treated her, then tried to persuade her to change Nursing Homes.
At this point other friends managed to make contact with the adult children because they were concerned about not visiting the patient; the children checked with the Home, discovered what had been happening and put a stop to it.
Both were horrified because they knew and trusted the Friend but had never appointed her as Carer; she was doing it through (her own) best intentions, no financial incentive, although it transpired there was a strong element of control involved in the relationship previously, before the lady was ill.

The 'Carer' still cannot understand why the adult children were horrified, because' I was doing it all for (Name).'
I do believe it she did it with the best of intentions, but no concept of how far she had overstepped the boundaries.

It is reported in The Independent that King Charles tried to contact Sir Ranulph through his wife back in February but has been unsuccessful.

This is all very strange indeed.
Even if someone is very ill with Parkinson's, surely that is no reason to hide him from friends and family?

I see even the King has tried to find out his whereabouts. His Equerry was told by the wife “to back off”.

Surely there should be a Missing Persons enquiry now. If he really does not want contact with anybody other than his wife then if she explains that there’s no problem.

Could Sir Ralph have dementia? It often accompanies Parkinson's.

Sorry to repeat myself, but we do currently only have the perspective from one side. Social Services may well be aware, but respect his privacy if that is what he or his wife on his behalf has requested. I’m convinced there is more to this.

I am surprised the Local Authority have not been involved.

Even though my Mum was self funding and not involved in any way with social services I received a phonecall from them asking where my Mum was and if she was OK.

Dad is self-funding, but his care home informed social services when he moved in because he needed a Deprivation of Liberty report.
The social worker discussed everything with me in detail, visited him in the home, and spoke to my brother and sister.
It was a very thorough process.

It is bizarre behaviour on the part of the wife and sounds like elder abuse, especially with his wife's insistence on providing the medication and a private carer, as he was not registered with a GP local to one of the care homes.

My Dad lived in a care home, and is now in a nursing home, both in England, same local authority.
At each home he was automatically registered with the GP practice that covered every resident in the home.
A GP visits his current care home twice a week and sees any resident who needs them.

Neither home would accept any medication that wasn't prescribed by the GP.
The staff order and administer the medication for every resident.

Some of the details in Ranulph Fiennes' case don't ring true, unless the regulations are different where he is? Was this in Wales?

I am surprised the Local Authority have not been involved.

Even though my Mum was self funding and not involved in any way with social services I received a phonecall from them asking where my Mum was and if she was OK.

I suspect a family member contacted the Safeguarding team because they did not know where she was.

So many family and friends crowd funding for a brave, once strong man. All this because the wife has Power of Attorney. Surely there is a higher being who can step in to protect him from her. There is no reason he should suffer anymore because
of a piece of paper and a scheming wife. She cannot have a heart.

Well said!
(Yet) another iteration of “starting a rammy in an empty room”

And here people is the reason I stopped posting, or indeed interacting with GN.

A thread about a brilliant, brave man who may be in trouble is at risk of descending, yet again, into a petty self interested squabble.

I don’t expect to be welcome on GN again, but there we are.

DaisyAnneReturns

BlueBelle

Thanks for your advice DAR I m sure most of us on here have done that already, have you ?

Why do you feel the need to share what to most is confidential and then cross examine others demanding that they also share on an open forum?

‘Cross examine others’ what are you on about DAR that doesn’t make sense who am I cross examining ?

From what I can see it is a close friend of Fiennes as well, or certainly it is him who he is providing the information on social media - michael kobold. He is making some hellish accusations.

Sorry, I meant his stepson, son of his wife. Their joint daughter is young I think. As I said, I’m not saying anything other than that there might well be two sides to this story, and we have only heard one.

Casdon

I think it’s possible that there is some press sensationalisation going on here. It is the estranged stepson of his wife who has raised this. He doesn’t know where his stepfather is, that may be a for a reason. For example, according to the Metro, ‘Mrs Millington-Cotes reportedly went to extreme lengths to conceal Sir Ranulph’s identity, including insisting his wearing of a hat, sunglasses and gloves to prevent anyone recognising his face or frostbite-damaged fingers when out for walks.’

We don’t know if that is OTT, because it could be that he or she doesn’t want anybody to see him, either outside, or in his care home, in what is a very vulnerable state, it could be driven by love rather than control.

I don’t know, I’m not defending her, I just think it’s always easy to jump to negative conclusions.

Mr Millington-Coates is her son, the step-son of Sir Ranulph.

He claims that no-one has seen Sir Ranulph for two years and many people are concerned including care home staff.
According to him, his mother estranged him after a row a few years ago. Sir Ranulph's daughter has not spoken publicly about her mother's actions.

I think it’s possible that there is some press sensationalisation going on here. It is the estranged stepson of his wife who has raised this. He doesn’t know where his stepfather is, that may be a for a reason. For example, according to the Metro, ‘Mrs Millington-Cotes reportedly went to extreme lengths to conceal Sir Ranulph’s identity, including insisting his wearing of a hat, sunglasses and gloves to prevent anyone recognising his face or frostbite-damaged fingers when out for walks.’

We don’t know if that is OTT, because it could be that he or she doesn’t want anybody to see him, either outside, or in his care home, in what is a very vulnerable state, it could be driven by love rather than control.

I don’t know, I’m not defending her, I just think it’s always easy to jump to negative conclusions.

Crossed post, MawsRosie

notgran

MawsRosie

notgran

He actually was in the TA's version of the SAS. I worked for a time with Army Officers who got very cross when his Military "exploits" were hugely exaggerated.

Confusing, I read this
The Royal Scots Greys: He joined his father's former tank regiment as an officer during the Cold War.
Special Air Service (SAS): He later joined the elite Special Air Service (SAS) as a demolitions expert, becoming the youngest captain in the British Army at the time. He was eventually dismissed from the SAS following an off-duty stunt involving a film set explosion.
^Oman: He completed counter-insurgency operations while attached to the Army of the Sultan of Oman, where he won the Sultan's Bravery Medal^

As a matter of interest MawsRosie, where was this from?

His military career with the Royal Scots Greys then with the SAS is well documented, notgran.

He trained at Mons Officer Cadet School, not Sandhurst, went on to join his father's regiment, then the SAS. His last two years was a secondment to the Oman Armed Forces.

@ notgran
"Training: After struggling to achieve the required academic marks for the Royal Military Academy Sandhurst, Ranulph Fiennes attended the Mons Officer Cadet School.
Commission: He successfully commissioned into his father's former regiment, the Royal Scots Greys (an armored cavalry tank unit).
Selection and Dismissal from the SAS
Special Air Service: He passed selection for the elite SAS and specialized in demolitions, achieving the rank of captain at a remarkably young age.
The Movie Set Incident: In 1966, while still training with the SAS, he and a fellow officer attempted to use army explosives to blow up a fake concrete dam built in Castle Combe for the production of the movie Doctor Dolittle, which they felt ruined the natural village.
Dismissal: The stunt resulted in a heavy fine and his immediate dismissal from the SAS, though he was allowed to return briefly to service with the Royal Scots Greys.
Service in Oman
Dhofar War: Seeking active field command, he was seconded to the Army of the Sultanate of Oman during the Dhofar Rebellion.
Bravery Medal: His active frontline service earned him the Sultan's Bravery Medal in 1970 before he left the military to begin his full-time career as an explorer."
Google, I'm afraid!

It seems to be the power of attorney that is causing the issue to be honest.

BlueBelle

Thanks for your advice DAR I m sure most of us on here have done that already, have you ?

Why do you feel the need to share what to most is confidential and then cross examine others demanding that they also share on an open forum?