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Same sex marriages now legal

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whenim64 Sat 29-Mar-14 10:22:51

It was good to see the happy couples getting married around the country today, and interesting to see that the ones on the news have been together for a long time. One couple I saw being interviewed yesterday said they had wanted a simple, quiet wedding but by booking it at a minute past midnight they had brought on themselves a mad dash from the media to talk about their view of the change in the law. Still, great to see progress smile

jinglbellsfrocks Sun 30-Mar-14 21:07:32

I am glad that your daughter and her partner are happy Twiceasnice. I wholeheartedly, and truly, wish them a long and happy life together. smile

mcem Sun 30-Mar-14 21:08:51

Jing it wasn't what mollie65 said that was the issue - just that ariadne and I both replied to mollie and attributed to her some remarks that she did not make. A simple mistake over names which is now resolved. It so happened that ariadne, mollie and I disagreed with mollie65's ponts and it had to be cleared up.

Penstemmon Sun 30-Mar-14 21:11:15

I have 2 x DDs. DD1 is married, having lived with her DH for many years before marrying. DD2 has lived with her (male)OH for 13 years. Some people feel marriage is important for relationship others do not.

I am glad the option is now open for all loving couples.

I have see too many kids unhappy with married /co-habiting hetero couples to think that adoption by same sex couples would be any more of a happiness gamble than it is for any couple.

Fingers crossed at least one of my gay nephews chooses to get married.. I do like a wedding!!

mcem Sun 30-Mar-14 21:15:35

Twice I wholeheartedly agree. The fact that our daughters have found happiness with lovely partners is not a sad fact! I am about to acquire a 3rd daughter and look forward to the 4th joining the family when my son gets married in a couple of years. Meantime we have legal arrangements to make and a party to organise!

TwiceAsNice Sun 30-Mar-14 21:16:03

Thank you Jinglebellsfrocks I appreciate you saying that. It just annoys me that some people presume that a gay relationship should be between certain parameters. Being gay is part of who she is and I believe she has just as much right to live her life with as many choices as any heterosexual couple do. I wish anyone of any sexual orientation who is getting married this year a long and happy relationship together. Viva la difference!

TwiceAsNice Sun 30-Mar-14 21:17:34

Mcem I hope you your daughter her partner and all your family have a wonderful day together

Joelsnan Sun 30-Mar-14 21:18:16

Don't you think that some have a perverse idea of marriage. Women were 'given' to men as bed warners and breeders. The church only became involved as the priest were generally the only literate ones who could prepare a contract between the families.
In the west, eventually physical attraction and choice was devolved to the couples, however the giving of the female either for money or other family gain is still very prevalent.
Opening up marriage to all members of our society is wonderful step forward in the acknowledgement that there are more than fifty shades if humanity and none are of greater value than the other.

whenim64 Mon 31-Mar-14 11:38:38

Our Gay Wedding - The Musical was filmed recently and completed this last weekend when the two gay men who made it (and work in the music industry) got married. It's on TV tonight at 10 pm, Channel 4. The film clip I saw looked great.

Riverwalk Mon 31-Mar-14 12:20:57

I was pleased to see all the happy couples smile

Many such relationships are decades old and it's only fair that they should be on an equal footing with everyone else.

Mollie65 why sign-off Gransnet because there is a thread that you don't agree with? You can just ignore it ... there are many threads that are of no interest to me so I don't participate. smile

Gay marriage is here to stay, whether some people like it or not.

KatyK Mon 31-Mar-14 13:51:45

I saw a clip from Our Gay Marriage The Musical this morning. Sorry but it made me cringe - I had to hide behind a cushion. Nothing to do with the fact that they were gay, it was just so sickly sweet. They got their mums to sing about finding out their sons were gay. If they want to get married, fine. Why all this palarver?

rosequartz Mon 31-Mar-14 15:25:12

I hope you all have a lovely day, mcem.
I must admit I was a bit confused by the 'quilt', thinking that someone would be wrapped in one of those lovely American 'wedding ring' quilts, but I've got it now!

rosesarered Mon 31-Mar-14 15:30:36

There is a good thing [perhaps] with gay marriage being permissable now in law:An end to 'Gay Pride' marches and similar? If we are all the same, there would be no need for this now, after all we don't have Hetero Pride
Marches, carnivals etc.We have two gay friends, and this makes them cringe, they really dislike these 'marches' as I'm sure a lot of other people do [gay and hetero.]

whenim64 Mon 31-Mar-14 17:21:19

I saw that clip, Katy and it made me smile smile

mollie Mon 31-Mar-14 17:47:40

Forgive me if I'm wrong but didn't someone say that if there was an existing Civil Partnership the couple couldn't get married? If that's the case how is Elton John managing it? I thought that was why Sandi Togsvig(?) and her partner had a renewal of vows rather than a marriage... I'm confused.

Ana Mon 31-Mar-14 18:06:05

"However, those already in civil partnerships are currently not able yet to convert to a marriage. The government said it hoped to rectify that before the end of the year. It is not known how that will affect the couple's plans."

(Cut and pasted from an article about this)

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 31-Mar-14 18:39:56

looks like they jumped in before doing their research

mollie Mon 31-Mar-14 18:41:33

So, does that mean the change will be before Elton's wedding? Or has it already been changed? I'm still confused because EJ and DF are featured on the news today.

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 31-Mar-14 18:44:00

Says the government will get round to converting the law "by the end of the year". May seems a bit hopeful.

Ana Mon 31-Mar-14 18:44:36

That's the article I got my info from, jingl. mollie, it says the government is hoping to make an amendment to the new law by the end of the year.

(BTW I should have said 'copied and pasted' of course - can't very well cut a chunk out of the Internet, can I? grin)

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 31-Mar-14 18:44:57

Perhaps the gov will put a spurt on specially for Elton and David. smile

Ana Mon 31-Mar-14 18:45:54

Perhaps they'll get special dispensation from...whoever?

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 31-Mar-14 18:48:30

Well, it'll be from David Cameron.

Or God? [shrug]

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 31-Mar-14 18:49:03

Archbishop of Canterbury sure as hell isn't going to give it! grin

mollie Mon 31-Mar-14 18:49:07

I think EJ has just got a bit over enthusiastic because Section 9 (the bit that allows civil partnerships to be converted to marriage) won't be amended until the end of the year. EJ says they plan (not fixed then) on marrying in May...he may have to wait. Bet he won't be happy but a few more months...

mcem Mon 31-Mar-14 19:58:30

rosequartz I'm sorry about the quilt. GS is a scot born and bred but he hasn't yet grasped the arcane mysteries of kilts and sporrans!
Not sure if I'll watch the musical tonight. I do find the 'flamboyance' of some gay celebs a bit wearing so not sure what to expect. I feel that they are handing the ammunition to those who are willing to shoot. It's totally alien to the world I know!