Changing locks.

ruby sorry, I didn't realise when I replied to you on the other thread that it had got this bad. Do you think he might apologise for his behaviour? Are things bad all the time now? I hate to think about you feeling unsafe in your own home.

I don't know the answer, but I would ring and ask to speak to a housing officer for advice. You might need to apply for some kind of exclusion order or something. Perhaps CAB could tell you where you stand as he's still at school. I think changing locks can be quite expensive, but maybe they will do this for you if they know there's a history of abuse and you're now concerned for your safety. My heart goes out to you.

Is he hoping to go to uni? I thought you had mentioned this previously. You really need to hang on in there if you possibly can until he goes in September. Can you try and discuss it with him in a while when you are both calm? Try and make 'I' statements rather than accusatory 'you' statements. eg I feel sad when we fall out or don't get on. Or I feel upset when the door gets damaged. Good luck! Things will get better!