I’m glad that Jaffa seems friendly towards the new arrival, HVDY. Yes, I bet you were both tired. Well done on the aqua aerobics. It’s definitely time for a declutter there, as someone might appreciate the books. Son 2’s stuff is a different matter, if it’s still in working order.
Sweetpeasue -now that was a nice day. Walking by a river is always very special. Did Fluffball want to go in? And it seems as if he is becoming more Costa-trained. Ooo, cuddly now. It got warm today more, did it for you, near the water?
Oh EllieAnneI think there are many who understand men like that. “Hail fellow well met” to the world, a nice chap - and rubbish at home to the family.
But so hard when everyone knows him/knew him as “that nice chap”.
What it does to the family - you - gives you like 2 versions that especially as a child the brain cant cope with.
Whats the reality? Can you trust your own perception as a child, when around you others “See’ only Mr Nice guy. And eroded your confidence, as you felt unlikely to be believed.
But we do here.
I do hope today was OK for you, Doodle. Hugs.
I feel more at peace tonight after a grim start. I have managed to write more or less what I wanted as a briefing for Friday morning meeting. After about 5 attempts. It’s getting run past my son and sis atm.
We’ll see what the accusing voice says to possibly guilty self as time goes on.
I went out to get some money to pay my gardener due this afternoon, and the hardware shop had some nice plants, so I had time to plonk myself down outside the cafe,I thought I’ll just sit quietly, at a table a lady was sitting at. But as soon as I sat down she launched into conversation 🤣.
She was nice, it was a general sort of chat, but isn’t life funny, as it perked me up. But still wobbly.
My gardener was as ever a real tonic and a laugh and at last I feel the garden is under control and not an ugly overwhelming patch. It didnt take much - lawns, big weeds out, and above all, the weed crowded patio. While she was here I wrote what I needed to at last, had a sleep, and have just gone to my regular Quaker Zoom.
Who knows what mood tomorrow will bring - or unexpected ladies in cafes. Plants, HVDY - pretty much the common bedding plants plus something bright and bold called "Indy".
Thinking of BD's in anguish or troubled right now. xx
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*Welcome to Black Dogs 29*:
It's supporting those of us who wish to be able to share our mental health problems as they affect daily lives:and share aspects of our lives supportively, give and take support. Its been going for some time, so this is a jump in at the deep end
All are welcome: don't be put off by some of us being there long term, people do come and go.
SweetpeaSue I used to be with my children all day, every day, until Son1 went to nursery when he was 4, just in the afternoons. Yes, we've got a few trees around. The squirrels come every day. Aww, lovely Fluffball sounds like such a nice little dog. Having a dog can start a conversation with strangers in the same way that having a baby can.
EllieAnne Some people can manage to put on a front to give the impression that they're nice. Your dad did, by the sound of it. Has the weather been good where you are? I hope you're getting out and about.
Doodle Yes, she now understands pretend play and enjoys playing with toy farm sets as well. Have you been out today?
Wyllow3 Some of the books will be ok for LG, the rest can go to a charity shop, as they're all in good nick. Your garden is beautiful. I love the curved path.
DH out with Son1 this evening. I've been reading. I'll be glad to get the colposcopy over with tomorrow. Hope everyone has a restful night x
Wyllow your garden is beautiful. I’m so depressed about mine. I have a man to cut the grass but the rest is down to me. Lots of weeds and bushes needing cut back. I ve had words with Dh tonight because he booked his mot on the day I go to ds1 and is expecting me to bring him back from the garage before I go to ds1 . I like to go early because it’s an hour drive and I have a lot to do when I get there. Just wish I could have a day at home to rest.
Hi all
HVDY- I would complain on my nieces behalf but it’s not my place - very frustrating though the lack of Oomph!
Yes I,m angry too about my Sisters leg too. Totally the hospitals fault but again no Oomph.
No the boys are house cats. We live in the Main Street in our village and they wouldn’t last 5 minutes out there.
I still have my Son1 stuff in the Attic but it’s not in the way and he’s not very good at getting rid of things.
I hope,the colposcopy goes safely and is not too uncomfortable for you. You are such a brave and uncomplaining lady.
EllieAnne- your DH could take a taxi back . It’s not fair to put so much on you. In fact you have so much to do he could help you with.
Try not to work too hard at your Sons. Safe journey xx
Doodle- yes my sister gets her dressing changed regularly and last week had a specialist nurse . But it’s taking so long and impeding her recovery.
It’s Church for you today isn’t it- do you all have coffee fterwards?
Wyllow- I LOVE your garden- there must be fairies at the bottom of it! What a gorgeous place to,relax in now the work is nearly done. We have a little Ryobi patio weed thing that makes the job much easier - you might like it.
Don’t listen to that little accusing voice- you haven’t got a vindictive bone in your body- you did what was right.
Chance encounters - we always say that but it’s so true. It gives,you such a boost and now you are looking forward a/ bit which is brilliant.
Now off to have a hair cut so better get my nightie off!!
Love to allxxx
Will be in later but just wanted to wish luck to HVDY with the colposcopy and hoping it all goes smoothly. Hugs.xx
Hi HVDY how did it go? How are you? Xxx
Let’s be clear….. well there may be fairies at the end of the garden but let’s just say they are goose grass (That sticky stuff), nettles, brambles ivy and big couch grass fairies. Once it was like the rest, planted up. But it’s OK for now, is good enough, has taken away the feelings for now ‘I’ll have to move to McCarthy and Stone can’t cope on my own…(and the roof needs stuff too…)
EllieAnne you must be clear. DH can take a taxi. Just don’t let him pressure you.
Secondly, do what I do as regards the garden. A gardener will probably on my take a couple of hours with proper equipment to cut back and shape the bushes. Don’t let it get on top of you as it did me too. Look you do enough: set these little limits.
What can DH honestly do if you say, ‘take a taxi, I have to do x y Z
I know it’s hard to make a start on these apparently small ‘stand up for yourself’ but try?
Tut tut Scaredycat nightie girl (shhh, don’t tell anyone, I do it too)
Yesterday peace gone night from hell. I had to get out for a mini dentist visit so rushed and then went to gym. But I still feel as CC anguished and that tho ga are sort of hyper real till Friday meeting and I have to factor in there may not be a decision
Or it’s not one that is adequately fair.
DS. Gave me some feedback to alter my draft and the deadline to get it off is tomorrow lunch latest.
Psychologist too busy to help this week but will at least is updated.
I went to the gym, some good natters, t he en forced myself to come here tge park and glad I did as I was getting morbid and it’s sunny with a coffee and have walked (not walking enough).
Sorry spelling grammar, on the mobile x
EllieAnne Its not right your DH making appt with people, that he knows requires your help, yet doesnt ask you at all. Like Wyllow I think you do so much for everyone- you need to put yourself first sometimes. Let others get on with it.
HVDY I hope by now youve had colposcopy and everything is ok. You are certainly - as Scaredycat says- a very uncomplaining lady.
Scaredycat I own up to being a nightie person and dont get dressed immediately. In fact I like to get into my nightie early too and have an early bath. Hope you like your hair cut.
Wyllow Your garden is beautiful- youve worked very hard. I hope your back wasnt too bad after all that bending. Glad youve got that draft all written out so you can feel a bit at peace.
It was nice for you to have a chat with that lady over coffee- these random encounters with strangers and exchange of words can mean so much to others aswell as ourselves.
I really hope the decision made is in your favour and you can finally have some peace of mind without it hanging over you.
Doodle Yes, Fluffball is extremely cuddly. Pets do take up a lot of commitment I think, and I dont think we'd ever have a dog of our own for that reason. I guess we have the best of both worlds. Hope youve been OK today.
Book group this afternoon. Was a little boring tbh but Im not the only one whi isnt really interested in the book we're reading. We've all given suggestions for our next one , to read in September which will be voted on.
First warm day in a while- could summer now have started?
Hoping all have had a reasonable day. X
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Sorry * Wyllow* I think my sentences got a bit mixed up in my post.
EllieAnne As others have said, tell your husband he'll need to get a taxi.
ScaredyCat Are you happy with your hairdo? I like pyjamas and love to sit about in them.
Wyllow3 Well done on going to the gym and park. It's muggy here and overcast.
SweetpeaSue What book are you reading at the book club? I started reading "Sonny Boy", by Al Pacino - his life story. It's very boring so I won't finish it.
It was very quick at the hospital - the lovely woman consultant chatted, then examined me (legs in stirrups - not nice) and said I haven't got anything to worry about, only vaginal atrophy (thinning of the skin) down there, common after the menopause. She's prescribed an eostrogen cream to apply every night for 2 weeks then twice weekly after that. I haven't got to go back, but will see my GP next week. Massively relieved. DH and I went for lunch at a country pub afterwards.
Great news HVDY- so pleased it’s over and no bad newsxx
So glad its over with for you* HVDY*
Great news. You must have looked forward to the treat of lunch out afterwards.
Our book at present is 'Diary of a Provincial Lady' by E.M. Detailed. Slightly amusing but too twee by half!
Book by E.M.Delafield. Grrr.
Thanks, both.
HVDY what a relief. I can understand the worry. Hope the treatment helps and you feel better soon. There are several threads on GN about vaginal atrophy if you want to know more.
How nice to celebrate with lunch out.
Sweetpeasue glad you went to book club but shame you’re not into the book. Would find it difficult to rest a book that held no interest for me. I read fiction mainly. Read a lot of Harlen Coben which I liked. Lee Child and James Patterson
Wyllow I do wish things at Quakers could be resolved soon. I don’t think all this hanging around is doing you any good.
Glad you managed to get out and walk a bit. I was reading about your gardener and your garden and remembering back to when you were so stressed about the garden and we were trying to talk you into having something done so you could sit out in it. You’ve come a long way since then
Scaredycat like your sisters leg, the problem with my DH’s foot was caused by the hospital. I have often thought of complains but to be honest I don’t think they really care, Hope your sisters leg improves soon.
I have a friend who has two house cats. I saw then Sunday, very tiny and very soft, a bit like miniature Siamese but with cotton wool as fur.
Ellie Anne could you pay someone to trim down your bushes if your Dh won’t do it. I think he could get a taxi back too. It’s not fair on you to have to drive him back and go to your sons.
Church for me today then coffe with friends this afternoon. Very nice.
Doodle Thanks. I haven't had any symptoms. It was only when the nice GP examined me (a couple of weeks ago, when I went about my bladder) that I was referred. Don't we women have things to deal with 
. Glad you had a nice afternoon. How's your wrist now?
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