Hypothetical question

Probably a fact finding mission, don't you have to have your spouse's signature on the form ? I know that a DH has to sign the consent form for his wife to be sterilised.

Turn it round. How would he feel if you went out and had yourself sterilised without telling him?

I'm in full agreement with jane.

The man concerned could have just wanted the facts before discussing things with partner.

I agree that a fact-finding exercise isn’t anything to get het-up about. If I’d ever contemplated being sterilised, I‘d have wanted to find out the pros and cons before bringing the issue to the table, so to speak.

In practice, I think it’s usual for the surgeon to gain the written and informed consent of a man’s partner before carrying out a vasectomy.

But we all believe in ‘Women’s bodies, women’s choice’ don’t we?
Surely the same applies to men?

It wouldn't bother me because my husband always liked to look into things and do a bit of research before he discussed any possibility.

He said, 'No point in discussing it until I have all the facts, is there?'

Fair enough.

Can’t imagine a scenario where this would happen? If you know about it then it has been mentioned surely or am I missing something.

If it is a younger person, it sounds as if EITHER it is being done for nefarious reasons, such as another woman. OR because his wife may want more children and this is his covert way to avoid having more, without any disagreement.

How would you know about it unless your DH told you? If it was just for him to have all the facts beforehand OK, as long as he discussed it with you before deciding. If I was past childbearing age I would be very suspicious in fact divorce papers!

I think it would firstly depend on whether I was still able to conceive. If I was past that, he wouldn’t be long for this world.

Well, after 5 children I would be relieved!

But, I dont expect that is why you are asking, nina! Bloody livid!!

Surprised!

An appointment to discuss it would be fine by me, but I wouldn't be happy if he went ahead and had it done without speaking to me. (Not that it would make much difference now - my childbearing days are over!)

I would be hurt to think he hadn’t spoken to me about it before going to the dr for facts, but I’d think well maybe he wanted to get all the facts first,

I would feel hurt that such an important issue hadn't been discussed with me first.

I would wonder why he had done that.
Perhaps he wanted to get all the facts first and then discuss it ...

In a word, murderous.