Wish I hadn't asked, but oddly glad I did

My dad's mantra was 'you never see a fat old man'. He was never fat but died at 75 anyway. I'll catch up on him in a year and a half and need to lose some a lot of weight if I'm to outlive him.

My husband had a very flat tummy and he died at 65. He never fits any pattern. He must have been unique.

Hi, meant flat not fat tummies. I assumed he meant that they had all died with the fat tummies.

The kidney op was over three years ago and according to him is a good sign that nothing has returned yet.

My friend's mum was 94 when she died, diabetes, fat tummy etc. so I suppose he means most of the ladies 80 or 90 had flat tummies.

I am fine though thanks. Really am. He did say that he wants his patients to get past feeling that they are cancer patients. I have got past that with support from the wonderful urology team and Macmillian nurses, also my family. I don't really think about it unless I am due for a scan.

Problem was Mishap that the 'rugby ball' wasn't the cancer that was the 'rugby ball' it was the fat around it. Therefore I must still have a 'rugby ball' the other side, It will reduce when I lose weight.

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anya I'm assuming he said "I don't see patients of 80 with fat tummies".

Then there's my MIL, 85 years old, advanced Alzheimer's but loves her food (so she's very fat despite being fed in tiny spoonfuls). She was diagnosed 20 years ago and her doctor have just told us she's "physically in very good shape".

It is always difficult when we decide to ask questions of consultants, as the answers are never quite as clear-cut as we might wish.

It does sound as though they are taking every precaution and monitoring you very carefully, which must be hugely reassuring.

I bet you feel better without the rugby ball!!!

Flowerofthewest I wonder if the risks of fat around the middle and the association with earlier mortality is just statistical and applies to everyone.

Do you feel reassured by the consultant or not? I can understand how this is a constant worry for you. for Flower

His answer about flat and fat tummies seems contradictory. Is that what you meant to write?

Hope it all goes well Flower

I hope you continue to make good progress flowerfollowing your conversation with said consultant I think I'd better diet !